Parents I’ve never met have gone out and left their child here?

[RosesAndUnicorns]

Well not even ‘here’ but on the street really

DD11 went out with her friends earlier and came back with one of them who lives two streets over to play in her room
Fine, happens all the time
A few minutes ago I said to this child that one of us would walk her some soon as we had to do homework, showers etc ready for tomorrow, to which she said ‘oh my mum & dad won’t be home till 9:45 I can’t get in till then’
So she has to stay here until DDs usual bedtime because her parents aren’t in!

AIBU to be totally shocked! If this girl hadn’t come into my house to play I’d have called DD in and she would’ve been out on the street alone until 9:45!

I haven’t said to her that she has to leave or anything because honestly, something similar happened to me once as a child and the parents of my friend made it very clear they were furious and I felt so awkward and unwanted, so I’ve made them a hot chocolate and put Netflix on for them
But I am a little bit furious! This is not my child to be responsible for like this!

You crack on then. Being the chief cook and bottle washer, nanny, grunt worker, carer, nurse, magic act, entertainer, money supply, etc etc for all the neighbourhood children. Doesn't bother me. You are being used but you carry on. Doesn't bother me. You'll see it one day. You do sound a bit defensive though, like methinks the lady doth protest too much

Whoa there!!! Everyone saying call police /social services! Blimey Check your facts first, kids bend the truth all the time!! Much as you may not want her she is safe with you, for now. I would defo march her back on the dot and speak to her parents. if at that point it’s obvious they did abandon her, then yes, call - but don’t go rushing in before hand. No responsible parent would leave a child.

Why would they not allow her in when they are out but she is 11 years old?? Seems v odd. I’d think at 11 she’d have a key? And a mobile or way of calling them? X

Any updates?

Blueskybird, "March her back on the dot"?* *The girl won't still be at the OP's house! She started the thread yesterday.

Where I live, it's not at all unusual for parents to have to nip out and not want to interrupt their kids playtime!

However, we always tell our children, message a safe adult (normally the parent of who they are with) and most certainly not at that time of night with a child as young as 11 wandering the streets!

How would you know? The OP started a thread that involves child safety at the deepest level. i.e what the fuck is someone else's child doing in your house when their parents don't know and you haven't done anything to let them know, and excited the concern of many posters. The OP, new to MN, bailed.

Quelle surprise

Very worrying 😟.

Ohhhh so I was right. And if not she realised she fucked up and is embarrassed. Lols

This. I wouldn’t be making all these assumptions on the basis of an 11 year olds statement. Very strange that she doesn’t simply have a key.

This. It’s enough and appropriate. Calling the police or 111 not the right thing to do.

@RosesAndUnicorns did the child's parents collect her at 9.45 pm ?

Definitely not seeing as 111 is the NHS 🤣

I know a little girl on our street that lies about this all the time and also lies to her mum about arrangements, I know she lies because have took her and knocked on her door and her mum was in and had no clue that she had lied. So what I'd do first is check first that she is telling the truth, not saying she is being deceitful but she maybe, if she isn't then it needs reporting.

Even that sounds a bit concerning because for whatever reason, she doesn't seem to want to go home, so she lies in order to stay somewhere else. Not saying you should call SS or anything drastic like that, but it might be worth talking to the girl to find out why she doesn't want to be at home.

@WibblyWobblyTimeyWimeyStuff 🍪 have another biscuit love. im cheif cook n bottle washer for no one. just love mumsnet presumptions 😂 never fail to make me laugh and believe me i needed a laugh today.
the kids entertainment themselves, they're not 7. im not putting out a bloody craft table n pom bears 🐻.
is my house a youth club? yes maybe it is some nights. And do the kids that come here treat me with respect? most fucking definitely. they clean up after themselves, even offer to help with the odd chore or errand. help younger dd with her home work. but most importantly, they are not hanging out on the park where in the last 3 months we have had 4 stabbings, 2 busted drug deals and an intentional dog attack. Or hanging at the arcades run by county lines gangs 👌
Like i said one did try to take the piss but they were told and it stopped. Have the other parents taken my daughter out for treats, Inc my younger dd, yes they have. When i was in hospital did they do shopping for me and check on my girls without being asked? Yes they did.
Its about being a nice human, helping each other and opening a line of commutation. Something humanity is sadly lacking. And again, i know my girls and their friends are safe!
But you do you hun 😘

I think the whole threat was made up or exaggerated . The op hasn’t updated and none of her excuses to not speak with the parents seem real .

It is odd she hasn't updated, apart from a rather cross post yesterday morning saying she was too busy to update.

She must have a key surely? I can't imagine they would leave her locked outside of the house until 9.45pm!!

Tbf at 11 and in year 7 I was regularly left on my own while mum and dad worked shifts however I had a house key and was very grown up for my age - I would cook my own tea watch Nickelodeon and go to bed when I was ready, personally I would take her home when the parents are back and just say “ oh I let her stay at mine till you were back as she said she didn’t have a key ? I was a little worried about her being out on her own till you got back” see what they say - it could be she does have a key but forgot to take it etc 🤷‍♀️😀 or she just wanted to be at yours with her friend - I personally would definitely have a convo with them

Don't get this logic. You don't have to 'tell the parents off,' but the normal thing would be to call, let them know their DD is there and confirm what's going on. Instead of going off what an 11 year old has said.

Not saying this is happening here but I could definitely see two 11 year old friends concocting a story that will allow friend to stay over later.

And I also have no idea how you don't want to be 'that mum' by checking in with the parents, but are happy to call SS on them??

If I was the OP and saw all this nasty speculation about why I hadn’t provided an update, I’d stay offline. It might be frustrating for some but she doesn’t owe us anything and it’s pointless - and probably quite hurtful - to speculate on the reasons for her absence.

@CynthiaRothrock, I think what you do is heartwarming. You sound like a lovely person.

If I was Op I'd name change and move on.