Adult ADHD - anyone else fed up of the constant battle.and of constantly losing it?

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EVery evening I think that the next day will.be different. That I'll do my work, work when I have to, that I won't stuff my face, that I won't be late, that I'll tick off at least one tiny little.thing on.my.to. do.list. and every day I fail. I'm winging life because I've got a very organised and hard working husband, a very supportive family who have always carried me and because I can sort of.work when I'm.in dire straits..just before a deadline comes crashing down. I'm.so.fed up of the constant stress,.the constant self loathing, constantly underperforming, constantly fighting a losing battle. I feel.as.if..im.wasting my life away.

My psychiatrist is happy to prescribe meds but before.that I need to.make an appointment with my gp to get some blood tests done and I just can't do it. I can't.make the appointment to.do.the blood tests. I mean how stupid can you get?

And now I'm so late to.pick up DC that I can't have a shower. Though I've been looking forward to.it all day.

I know.im.lucky and. I've got it better than most so.i hate complaining but I hate my brain..I don't care if it's ADHD or.if I'm.just lazy, crazy and stupid but i hate being this way.

Can anyone relate?

I'm not quite sure what you're trying to get across here but I don't think coming to a thread directed at people who have ADHD and using a 14 year old article to suggest they might be depressed instead is particularly useful.

Anxiety and depression are quite often comorbid with depression, usually as a consequence of the many struggles listed in this thread.

comorbid with ADHD*, oops.

I struggle daily too.
Im a lone parent with ADHD, son with ASD who thrives on routine (that I can’t provide), and working full time in healthcare where I have to prioritise and be organised.
Aaaargh!
I’m sitting here on MN when I should be in bed as I need to be up at 6am tomorrow.

Perimenopause has amplified all my symptoms too. Such fun

In a weird way, I find it comforting to see that other people feel the same as I do. I really struggle with my ADHD and executive function and often wonder if I'm lazy/crazy but it's validating to see that it's not just me, it's this stupid mental illness that we've been cursed with.
I don't have any advice as I'm in the same boat but just know, you're not alone.

How did you all find out you had ADHD? I'm wondering if I am, I struggle with everything you have all mention

@Adhdsucks mine was the first medication- lisdexamphetimine (Elvanse). Didn’t even need to titrate my dose, 30mg once a day and it’s literally changed my life

Feel just the same. Not diagnosed with ADHD but have wondered if I have it. I'm on top of nothing in my life. Every weekend I plan to catch up on housework, sorting laundry, getting on top of work and every weekend I fail. I have a full-on job where I have to do extra work in the evening but I faff about procrastinating and end up still doing it at 2am (then wasting time on MN instead of finishing it!). I have 2 DC with busy schedules and I seem to end up volunteering for various community things etc because I can't say no.

Are there benefits to being diagnosed? I wouldn't really want to take medication.

Not diagnosed. Can't take meds anyway (as far as I know) as high blood pressure and hypothyroid.

Really relate to the tomorrow I'll do better element of op.

I feel like I've massively underachieved in my life in lots of ways. My house is an utter tip. My dsis keeps asking to come and tidy it for me. She says she'd love to. And she'd love someone to do hers so why wouldn't I? She thinks I'm not interested in a tidy house. I'd love one it's just too overwhelming. I'm 54. I don't want my sister barging about through all my stuff. Plus if got tidied I'd like the satisfaction of doing it myself. I dream of living in a beautiful minimalist house.

I realised what was going on when I hit perimenopause. It's fucking MENTAL, and I feel like a useless twatbangle most of the time.

I also have ADHD and feel like a useless twatbangle My house is a tip, I always end up winging things, my admin and finances are a mess. I feel so ashamed of myself and the constant failing.

I'm lost and lonely really need some help and support.

This
but now I think I have had it for years

may sound mad but has anyone found any natural alternatives to ADHD meds?

Twatbangle is a fantastic word

Weed.

It definitely has its downsides too but overall it has made my life easier.

I think I read somewhere that something like 60% of non medicated adhd women use cannabis to self medicate and manage their adhd.

Also appreciating twatbangle

After the penny dropped, I thought back through me shite life and realised, THIS IS HAS BEEN WHY ALL ALONG

ADHD wasn't even recognised as a thing here until 2000. I've been battling my way through life on that hideous travelator that used to be at the end of the Gladiator TV programme that used to be on years ago.

🎶🎵 Everythiiiing is awfuuuuuul🎵🎶

Bollocks bollocks bollocks

And may I also say

B O L L O C K S

OH as for med alternatives

I have been taking black maca root, and lions mane mushroom supplements

I notice a bit of an improvement with my ability to focus and concentrate, but not to the degree I'd like.

ᴬˡˢᵒ ᴵ ᵘˢᵉ ˢᵐᵃˡˡ ᵃᵐᵒᵘⁿᵗˢ ᵒᶠ ʷᵉᵉᵈ ᶦⁿ ᵉᵈᶦᵇˡᵉˢ ᵃⁿᵈ ᵗʰᵃᵗ ʷᵒʳᵏˢ ᶠᵘᶜᵏᶦⁿᵍ ᵃᵐᵃᶻᶦⁿᵍˡʸ ᵗᵒ ᶜᵃˡᵐ ᵈᵒʷⁿ ᵗʰᵉ ʰᶦᵈᵉᵒᵘˢ ᵃⁿˣᶦᵉᵗʸ, ᵃⁿᵈ ᴵ'ᵐ ⁿᵒᵗ ᵃˢʰᵃᵐᵉᵈ ᵗᵒ ˢᵃʸ ˢᵒ

Sorry my brain leaked again

I take high doses on fish oil. The Equazen one.

But I really need proper medication. The waiting list where I live is bonkers.

I don't know who I am anymore. I'm so tired of pretending to be managing, pretending to be like everyone one else while working 5 x as hard just to seem vaguely normal on the outside.

Academics have studied that hormonal shifts like puberty, pregnancy and peri menopause tend to exacerbate ADHD symptoms.

My DD13 is on meds which has helped her enormously!

I rely on caffeine which helps me a lot but I do live in a perpetual state of wondering what I've not done.

I'm 44 and have definitely noticed it getting worse.

Yes - fed up with feeling so useless and ashamed - another day gone and not one thing ticked off my list. It's so simple yet I just can't do it.

Gave up with first meds as they were making my migraines worse. Had a prescription for alternative meds but waited too long to pick them up and the pharmacist told me they had no record of them as it was over a month (and implied I was lying!) and was too ashamed to contact Psychiatry UK to tell them - have 2 texts and emails from them that I haven't opened from April because I'm too embarrassed to deal with them again.

Lone parent, little support, my family NEVER mention my adhd which makes me think that they think it's all made up or something.

ADHD has always sucked, but coupled with peri/menopause it's unbelievable. It's slightly comforting to know I'm not alone!

I resonate with everyone here. A few weeks back I finally got the courage to ask for an apt to discuss it. Sent off the e consult asking. Just got an email back telling me I had to list all the symptoms. Well that put me off and I've not got round to doing it again.

Also disorganised-to the point it was bloody embarrassing when the housing association sent a surveyor to look round the property last week. I work full time as well as doing an OU degree (which I procrastinate on a lot) so have very limited "free" time and don't want to spend it tidying.

Absolutely hopeless with money, which leads to arguments with dh. The overthinking, the constant whirr in my head of what I need to do/could be doing at this minute, the trying my best to be "normal" sigh.

I'm just tired.

Me.too.
Haven't got a diagnosis as that would involve me sorting out gp appt etc. Since menopause I've been failing at everything. I'm actually dumping most of my work ( I'm self employed) as I'm doing a shit job. I used to be brilliant.
I am hoping that despite being skint ongoing, maybe I'll cope better with getting through the days if I don't have much work.
I'm miserable and overwhelmed. My house is a joke.