To think many parents are subsidised by their parents at Christmas?

[EveryoneIsIll]

As I get older, it seems a lot of friends are getting financial help with everything from school trips to clubs or tutors, through to holidays and days out (in some cases so the grandparents can have time with their grandkids but sometimes not). Christmas also - whether that’s buying the turkey, the big ticket gifts or whatever.

It’s not my experience so it can leave me wondering if this is most people’s experiences, only it’s just not spoken about?

My parents gifted us money for our flat deposit (we had some of our deposit money as well) - it's money they had as inheritance from their parents. They said they'd rather we benefited now. I'd never hide that fact from friends/family and I would always say I am very appreciative and grateful for that support. I find it annoying when people are secretive that they have money from family

Only one of my DC has left home so far - moved away for uni, got a job in that county and now lives there. She is on minimum wage so we do help with her rent for now. We never had help from our parents. Both my parents are dead - no inheritance as DF remarried and left everything to new wife. DHs DF also remarried and his will also leaves all to his new wife so we will never inherit anything. We will, at least, leave our home to our DCs but will help them out, within reason, when needed.

I've definitely subsidised my mum in the past, not the other way around!

What a very strange thing to be gleefully, commenting on.

The vast majority of people do not require care, they just die. A family members. Grandmother lasted two years in a care home and it did not absorb all of the inheritance at all. And she wasn’t a rich woman. She was very average.