To be embarrassed only 30 of 80+ guests turned up to my birthday party

[Muddleofpud]

Just that really, had a party this weekend, 80+ guests confirmed, only about 30 turned up. Feel embarrassed and let down. Help me get over the cringe 😩

Yeah, class rep is a thankless position. I'm just saying that there are many reasons that people can't or don't want to attend events, and the people doing the inviting don't always seem to think about that.

Wow the no-shows are incredibly rude and self-centred. They confirmed, you catered for them and they did not show up. It is certainly now you who should be embarrassed - they should be and you should be livid at them.

Thanks again everyone, I’m a bit delicate today so haven’t really been on my phone/paying attention to this thread. A few of the people that did turn up have posted up photos etc on social media and actually it doesn’t look too bad tbh, so I know I’m being a little over sensitive. I put up a post myself on fb earlier saying thanks to those who came, and funnily enough since then I’ve had a fair few messages apologising and giving their reasons for not showing up. So it’s all good, I had my party, I had fun with the people who matter most, and I know they enjoyed themselves too. Thanks for boosting me up, I feel very flattered by it all 😘

Sorry 50 didn’t turn up or let you know

that’s rude !

yes out of 80 you always get the one off no show but usually get a text saying ill etx

to hear nothing is rude and I would be pissed off if close friends

esp as you prob catered for food /buffet

and paid for a hall for that size

for those who say they can’t fill /know 80
people

that’s only 40 couples

or 30 couples ans 20 single Friends

Lol. Who brags about loads of people not turning up to a party 😂

Hahahahahahahah. Tha5 was a brilliantly funny post. Some PP just want to put the boot in over anything 🤣

I spend every significant birthday on a lovely holiday.
I can’t be arsed to organise a party that people may or may not turn up to.

So with you on this one!

I feel the same Lampzade Im done chasing up people! Going away for my birthday

As a general rule, for any event assume 50% positive responses and a further third drop out on/near the day. So, if 80 were invited you should have had about 40 says yes and about 27 turn up. You are popular with 30 guests!

I used to organise university events and the general rule is 30% wont show of whom over 10% cancel on the day itself. It is hard to deal with especially for a 50th but do hope you will be able to look back on a lovely evening and enjoy the memories

Happy birthday. It’s simply rude of them. They are out of order. You mustn’t let it spoil your celebration.

80?!?! Wow…. I’d have a job to find 30 to be honest….
personally I would be grateful as I bet you got to spend more time with those 30 guests because of all the ones who didn’t come x

I’ve never ever had a party. Sad but true.
Even as a child, didn’t have one.

I don’t think anyone would attend. I do have some friends but I’d not risk the embarrassment of no one coming.

When I was 60 I invited 125 to my party... 100 turned up but the 25 who didn't were family.. What do you do... If you don't invite them you get it in the neck

I’m blaming Covid it’s made people much less social. Doesn’t excuse their rudeness though. Don’t cringe anymore if anyone should be embarrassed it certainly isn’t you. Glad you enjoyed it regardless of rude I’ll mannered people

TBH that's pretty good going for birthday party - I think under 20 would have been embarrassing but 30 is a good turn out, although I still think it wasn't on for the other ones to not come. People are generally very bad at honouring invitations (which I think is something you should do unless you're unwell or a serious emergency comes up - not because you're a bit tired or you don't really feel in the mood).

But agree it's worse if you'd hired a big space and got lots of food.

You now know who your friends are, so don't invite them to your 60th, 70th, 80th etc parties !😀

Well done you - how generous of you to plan the occasion. Hope you had a really wonderful time with the close friends and family who came to celebrate with you. Focus on that and forget the rest!

I feel your pain. I recently had a special birthday and had a party. My way of celebrating after a pretty rubbish last 2 years as I lost both my parents.

I like you invited about 90 people. Hardly anyone let me know. I decided I wasn't chasing. Everyone knows how to RSVP and when you ask that on your invite, in my opinion they should let you know so you know how many you are catering for. Parties are expensive!

I catered for 50 and about that number came. About half of the total number invited.

I honestly think it is rude and the people that couldn't be bothered to either turn up or let me know are now right down the bottom of my priority list.

I hope you still had a lovely party. I know I did but there were people who were missed.

@slipperhopper is spot on!

@Lampzade That's what I'm doing from now on!

"80?!?! Wow…. I’d have a job to find 30 to be honest…."

I couldn't even find 3. I only know two people and one of them is my husband. 😄

No embarrassment at all, the 30 who came because they love you is so meaningful. I'm sure a lot of others would've loved to have gone but for different reasons didn't make it but hopefully showed recognition. I know it must feel a bit of a letdown but rejoice in having your dearest there with you to celebrate, bet it was great fun! X