Aibu to think that 36 is still relatively young to have a child?

[Hdaniels11]

I have a Dd who's 9 and a Ds who's 6 and i'm thinking of having another baby. I'm 36 now and was amazed when i find out once you turn 34 you are classed as a geriatric mother! I always thought 25-38 was the prime time to have babies. Aibu to think you shouldn't be classed as an older mother until you are in your 40s?

I don't think it's especially young, but round here you wouldn't be classed as geriatric - I had both of mine at 35+ and wasn't put into that category. It's pretty old (historically) for a first baby but totally within normal baby-making age range.

I don't think 36 is relatively young, no.

It is not young.

It's not young to have a baby around here. My nan was 36 when I was born although accept that's unusual in itself

No. It's definitely not going to have a baby.

*young

I don't think it's relatively young at all.

It’s not young and it’s called that because of biology not societal norms

Geriatric Mum is 40+ where I am. I escaped it by 6 weeks! I can feel a big difference between this pregnancy and baby than the one I had 8 years ago. Of course that is just my personal
experience

Let me change the title... To think 36 is a "normal" age to have a 3rd baby?

It's not to do with societal notions of what is early and what is late, it's to do with biology - natural fertility decline and obstetric risk. Most women can still have healthy pregnancies at 35, but the risk of sub fertility/infertility and certain pregnancy complications is higher than it would be in a 25 year old, and after 35 these risks start going up more rapidly.

No it isn't young to have a baby. Geriatric does seem a but harsh but 30+ isn't exactly young to have a baby (I say this as someone who became a mother at 30!)

Its a medical term.i was classed as a geriatric mum when i had DS but didn't feel particularly old. I don't think 36 is old for anyone.

Nope.

You’re in the fertility decline years now. That’s medical fact.

Well it’s not young. Especially not ‘relatively’ young. I mean what is that in ‘relation’ to? That doesn’t mean it’s bad, but it isn’t young to have a baby.

No, it's not particularly young.
I too wss classed as a geriatric mother at that age 16 years ago, so not a new thing.

Nope not relatively young. Fertility begins to decline at 30 then more rapidly declines from 35.

No I don’t think it’s young.

No. I think your an older mum by that point.

Also who would benefit from your idea of not being classed as an older mother until age 40? Why is that age acceptable?

That's not what you said though. Yes it's "normal" no it's not "young"

Agree

Just because it's what everyone else is doing, doesn't mean the risk of age related complications and conditions no longer apply.

I had my second baby the day before my 35th birthday and I felt too old then!

I had my 3rd at 38 and i wasn’t considered a geriatric mother in fact nobody even mentioned my age.

It's not young to have a baby, but yes probably reasonably normal for a 3rd child. What's normal in society doesn't come in to what is classed as a "geriatric" pregnancy though.

No it's not young. I would class 35+ as an old mother.