Aibu to think that 36 is still relatively young to have a child?

[Hdaniels11]

I have a Dd who's 9 and a Ds who's 6 and i'm thinking of having another baby. I'm 36 now and was amazed when i find out once you turn 34 you are classed as a geriatric mother! I always thought 25-38 was the prime time to have babies. Aibu to think you shouldn't be classed as an older mother until you are in your 40s?

36 is actually getting in a a bit to be having a baby.

Your eggs are going on for 37 years old…been hanging around for a long time.

Stuff starts to go wrong post 35.

yabu. It is not relatively young.
I think medically are in your prime under 30.
I believe the most current research is that over 30 fertility starts to decline and increased risks of disabilities etc.
But it does happen. I know someone pregnant at 45! (My mother was a grandmother at 44 - cannot imagine having a baby at grandparent age personally ). But it has always happened and and becoming more common in this day and age.

How is 36 relatively young to have a baby?!
You aren’t that far off the end of your fertile life.

Peak reproductive years are late teens to late 20s. Fertility declines from 30, much more rapidly from 35, and then off a cliff from 40.

Geriatric mother is a medical term for older. I know you don’t feel like that, but it is the reality.

None of this is to say that you won’t have a successful pregnancy - more and more people do.

I was classed as an 'elderly primagravida' at 30, in 1986! They must have moved the goalposts since then.

Not young at all. Mum had my sister at 36 and it was considered ‘late’ to have a baby.

Why is it normal to have a baby?
Why isn’t 25 normal to have a baby?
They can’t both be normal (whatever that is)

Not young. It's biology.
And statistically..fertility roulette!

I think it not a bad age, as long as your healthy and fit, why is 36 to old.

you had your first child at 26/27, I think three/four years between siblings is wonderful. The older children understand more at three/ four years old.

Good Luck

I dont think its young. Apparently the average age of third birth is 33.4 so 36 is a teeny bit older than average.

It looks like people who have more babies start younger.

I had one child early twenties and one late thirties and oh my word did I feel the age difference with my youngest. Both of my pregnancies were hg pregnancies and both my kids are "sleep is for the weak" types but I managed it fine with my eldest. My youngest on the other hand, let's just say I definitely felt my age! My personal advice to anyone would be to do it younger rather than older if there's a choice. Yes you manage as you have to but I'm sure parenting a tiny one in my late thirties has nearly finished me off!! 😳

No, it's not young for having a baby.

I've just had my my second at 33 and was definitely treated as a slightly older mum.

Totally normal, but not young.

First child in my twenties (late at that) and I was ‘young’ on the ward.

The older women… they were indeed old looking to be having babies, by comparison.

I was classed as a geriatric mother at 31. I had my second at 34. I wished id been younger. I think 27/28 is the ideal age physically and tiredness. But i know older ladies who have been fine.

I wouldn't count it as old at all. It's very much the norm round here I know lots of women in their mid thirties having their first or second babies.

About right for a third child. Not sure why people are saying it's too old. Had my 3rd at 34.

I don't think it's relatively young.

It's not young, no, but hardly geriatric.

36 isn’t young but it’s not too old either.

Not young... I would say towards the top end of "normal" childbearing age.
40+ definitely geriatric especially if it's your first. If it's a subsequent DC I would say 42/3 + is geriatric.

But that's me an opinionated keyboard warrior! 😉

It's not young to start having them, but it's not old to have another.

36 is young to be on 3rd child I think. Average age of first time mum is 31 isn't it?

You may not feel old because people are choosing to have kids later but biologically you are at higher risk. Prime age is 20's

@Hdaniels11 Definitely not young. OK-ish but not young. You'll be in your mid 50s while they're still at school! Wouldn't be for me. Had my 2 in my late 20s. And yes I KNOW not everyone has the chance to have a baby in their 20s/doesn't meet the right person lalalalalalala, but that's how I feel. I would NOT have wanted to have a baby past 29/30. JMO.

I do see where you're coming from tbh. Especially as 36yr olds are millenials who do not have the luxuries of the generations before them. I think it depends on the circles you move in and where you're based. A lot of my friends around this age still don't have children and are all based in the city. Some have yet to meet a partner and some are still house sharing. I think if circumstances were different then perhaps it would be keeping with the 'norm' but given the nature of things I do think 36 is quite young in today's world.