Not allowed siblings at my sons nativity play .. including my breast fed baby??

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My daughter is 4 months old and breastfeeding.

My two other sons are involved in the school nativity play. The school will be having two performers one at 2:30 and one at 7:00.

I have been informed that the school has a ‘no sibling rule’ to watching so I will not be allowed to bring my daughter. The issue is these times are both when she has milk.

I was also told by the head that she may make noise and interrupt the performance !!

Really sad as I don’t want to miss it ! But do not feel happy leaving my baby at these times!

Yes I couldn't agree more.

We get parents in every week At celebration assembly, entertaining their wayward toddlers with their jangling keys! 🤔

I'm glad you still found it helpful despite people who were being incredibly unkind.... the rudeness I'd so unnecessary even if people disagree

They’re not stopping OP feeding her though. They’re stopping siblings from coming, they’d only be breaking the law if they allowed siblings but prevented her from breastfeeding. The Op is not being treated unfavourably compared to everyone else. Don’t be a dick.

Chocolate buttons work better and are quiet. I've always been a believer in bribery.

I’m sure if baby started screaming OP would take her out !

Id hope so, but you’re missing the point that disturbance has already been created by then. That child who only had one line had their moment to be centre stage drowned out by OP taking the baby out.

Oh for god sake, the school aren’t stopping her from breastfeeding her baby by having a 30 minute nativity that siblings aren’t allowed to attend. A 4 month old doesn’t need fed every second of the day.
If OP wanted to attend it would be pretty easy to breastfeed before she left and the baby would be fine for 1 hour. Whoever is minding her could even just be outside in the car or walking the baby in the pram and it would only be half an hour then.
Breastfeeding really doesn’t come into it.

My DC are too close together for it to have come up but it wouldn't have crossed my mind not to bring a baby if I had one now.

I would have just assumed they were welcome. Could have been awkward.

Honestly the rudeness of people on here just always amazes me. So stuck up and arrogant x

'Suck it up' I pardon your pun Bananasareok

Was this before social media became popular?

Yes, honestly, you'd think people would know the difference.

Think you are more likely to see an alien than a baby Jesus in the modern day nativities!

The trouble with exceptions is everyone thinks their need is as important or more important than everyone else’s, someone else will never have left their one year with someone else, someone else has no family near so no one to look after their child. If you really want to attend you will need to feed slightly earlier that day, how did your child cope with the hour change if feeding is so regimented?

Don't be so ridiculous.

She's not allowed in with the baby in the first place, so how on earth could the school prevent her from feeding it? 🤔

Exactly. Once the disruption has happened, the mood that the performers are striving to create has been ruined. Same as at weddings and other events where observers are expected to be quiet.

As a parent, we often have to say to our kids that sometimes life is not fair. This may just be one of those times. Babies and veer young children can create noise and distractions. It does nor seem to be unreasonable to not allow them to attend. Maybe your can feed her a bit earlier and leave her with a sitter or grandparent.

The Nativity Play is really a big deal. Children and teachers put a lot of effort into this, and a yowling baby is really going to go down well, especially for those children who may be naturally shy and quiet. Express some milk, and get someone to give her a bottle.

It's hardly rocket science is it?

And it's obviously at least the third baby 😮 I'd just feed before. No biggie.

This is far from standard in my book. A 4 month old baby isn't counted in the sibling rule in any school I've worked in.

At our school the head would likely just send the kids back to their classrooms, stop the performance and wait until you left of your own accord.

The weight of 60 other parents annoyed eyes bearing down on you might shift your focus a bit 😂

With regards to the parent taking the baby out if it started screaming, it often causes their child on the stage to burst into tears because mum/dad is going to miss their 'big moment'.

So it can be very disruptive.

It is a safeguarding issue. there are several children at my kids' schools who are not allowed to be photographed at all. Hence no phones in the playground, at shows, etc.

Perhaps this issue doesn't arise so much at boarding schools?

That's indirect sex discrimination. Even when lockdowns were going on, children under one weren't included in ratios.
You could actually sue because of the welfare of your baby.
Getting in and out of a school and driving home adds time and the baby can't sit in a freezing cold car.
I would actually get all the research and forward to the head.

It's not good enough.

You have said that your child is unhappy at these times. Which means she is likely to cause a disruption.