Not allowed siblings at my sons nativity play .. including my breast fed baby??

[WinnieLovett]

My daughter is 4 months old and breastfeeding.

My two other sons are involved in the school nativity play. The school will be having two performers one at 2:30 and one at 7:00.

I have been informed that the school has a ‘no sibling rule’ to watching so I will not be allowed to bring my daughter. The issue is these times are both when she has milk.

I was also told by the head that she may make noise and interrupt the performance !!

Really sad as I don’t want to miss it ! But do not feel happy leaving my baby at these times!

Your baby cries whilst my daughter is attempting to say her one and only line, I’ll give you daggers for the rest of our time at school together. All seven years of it. For sure.

It's about space. Why are you exempt from the rules? Don't be so entitled. Breast fed babies don't need to be fed at a particular time. If I had an appointment, I would do it before I went. Then when I returned home. The performance will last 45 mins max. A 4month old doesn't need fed more than once in 3 hours. Alternatively, express.

Is what it is !

There aren’t many places where breastfeeding is banned. I would take the baby with you and feed discreetly..

Have you even read the OPs posts? Breastfeeding ban isn't the issue (there isn't a breastfeeding ban)

Maybe it’s an Irish thing but our Primary school allows filming and grandparents, babies and toddlers to attend, so it’s usually very full and noisy. (The school films the plays and flogs the dvd’s afterwards.)

Unfortunately, I really hated them. I’d have done anything to get out of going but DH insisted we both went along and they took hours because each class in infants and juniors did their own play.

I can’t bear musicals or concerts generally so the noise and general melee were always too much for me. Lockdown was brilliant as they didn’t do them at all.

Thing is, you’re supposed to adore your kids Nativity plays so this isn’t something I can say out loud in real life. ☹️

I'm afraid that's MN all over, OP.
You learn to grit your teeth and ignore the rude comments.

You are not being unreasonable, no siblings should not include babies under 6 months, school are being unreasonable, and you can sit near the door and nip out if they cry. Hope you get it sorted.

I think its sad that a play by children doesn't welcome younger siblings. I feel for you OP. what does it matter if a newborn baby is feeding in the audience, who on earth would mind that. Any parent who is in attendance can surely relate to having a newborn attached to them at this stage. I hope you figure it out and manage to see your other children in their play and hope the baby is OK with what you decide too. Take care and ignore the ugly comments, really undeserved.

Nobody cares about a baby feeding. That will not be the issue.

There is a breastfeeding ban if a breastfeeding baby is not allowed to attend!! In what way can you breastfeed without the baby??

Blimey Op I don't understand why you wouldn't just feed your 4 month old a bit early (just before the performance) leave with relative to play and then feed them after! Think you are completely over thinking this!

But breastfed babies don't really cry, do they?
Mine were tucked inside my jacket, and offered a nipple whenever they stirred.
Hardly the same as an overtired, wriggly, vocal toddler.

I would try and express and see if someone could have you child if your child takes a bottle.

It’s not because she’s breastfeeding, it’s because siblings aren’t permitted. .

That's not true for every baby, my first coukd feed hourly some times, didn't always know when they would need fed.

I don’t understand why people are saying feed earlier, later, express… if a cafe had a sign up saying no breastfeeding, feed your baby earlier or later people would (rightly) object to the blatant discrimination. Nobody should be stopped from taking a breasted baby under 6 months anywhere and the fact that so many people are conflating this issue with the ‘problem’ of babies crying distracting from the performance need to get that in perspective.

Ahahahahahahaha

She can’t breastfeed without the baby. Siblings may not be permitted but the ruling contravenes discrimination legislation in this country. Breastfed siblings should be permitted. End of.

@amispeakingintongues keep poring it but it's still not true. They're not discriminating against a breastfeeding mother are they? They're limiting attendees to a school function. Not in any way, shape or form discrimination, but don't let that get in the way of your daft posts.

But they’re not so not end of at all.

@NastyPastie it's a SIBLINGS BAN. Not a breastfeeding mothe ban

Yabu just feed her before you go not the end of the world 🌎

the breastfeeding mother herself is allowed but her baby isn’t. That’s the point of the discrimination legislation, to make it illegal to rule that breastfeeding can’t happen in certain places. The OP can’t breastfeed at this school play, which I’m sure the school actually would allow as they wouldn’t want to be accused of discrimination. I’d contact the HT and just clarify that it’s ok for your baby to come along, and I’m sure they will reassure you that it is.

It’s just for 30 minutes or an hour. Surely you can go for that little bit without breastfeeding while you’re there or having a 4 month old in attendance. I mean, Why? She won’t be watching the play. Remember there are other parents who would like to hear their children give their one tiny line they’ve been given. Normally I am for taking baby wherever but this is a short event with other parents watching their children perform. It’s not about making sure you get to sit there breastfeeding right at the same time, I mean, it’s like you’re upset because you think your right to breastfeed during a very short performance with children making a fleeting appearance with their one line is above any other consideration. Why? It’s 30 minutes. I breastfed my son for 15 months so I know how you feel. Try to think of the other parents and the other children who practiced to be there. Feed her before you go and when you get back. It’s not that hard.