Hendo - Feel like crying!

[TeaPlzx]

Hi! First thread here. I'm (F/29) attending a close friends hen do, there's 9 of us staying in a large, swanky cottage (pool, hot tub, sauna, etc.) The bedrooms are made up of multiple king size/double rooms and there's one small room with a bunk bed (designed for kids) and pull-out single (mattress on the floor). I can't express how different this room is to the others, imagine an empty room, with tiny kids bunks and a mattress, that's the extent of it. No wardrobe, no cosy lighting, etc.

Each person has paid approx. £300 for a 2 night stay, including a stripper at the venue and food. Alcohol will have to be purchased separately...
Everyone has been placed in double/king sized rooms (some are sharing, but others not), all with ensuits, however, I've been assigned (without discussion) the small room on my own, without bathroom (will use the "family" shared bathroom). I feel this anger, that I'm paying the same as everyone else, they're all in 5* luxury beds with their own bathrooms and I'm on a pull-out style frame/matress on the floor.

I'm most frustrated that it wasn't even discussed with me, just assigned/assumed I'd take that room. I've briefly raised it with the organiser and she's stated she offered the largest rooms to those sharing (mostly siblings/mums with daughters) and the other two people who aren't sharing (like me), one is pregnant and the other is mother of the stag. Am I unreasonable to still feel upset and not want to be in the tiny bedroom with mattress on the floor? If she feels too embarrassed to allocate that room to MIL, or to herself even, why should I be in there?
I'm really not sure where to go from here, but I'm feeling VERY bitter about it al.

How much have you paid so far? I'd probably ask the organiser to swap, if she refuses I'd then suggest you pay around half so £150, if that isnt an option and you haven't paid much just dropout. The organiser should have taken the shit room or done some reshuffling. You shouldn't have been allocated that room and been expected to pay the same. I'd be furious.

It sounds like you’re describing a trundle bed which is not a “mattress on the floor”

YAB unreasonably dramatic to be feeling like crying over this.

I saw the title and thought this was a post about Jordan Henderson, who plays for Liverpool Football Club 😂

I think perhaps photos of the stark difference in standard of the rooms may have helped explain the situation better, but for privacy reasons didn't want to share. The other rooms are typical 5 standard, this room is probably 2.

To confirm, I wouldn't expect pregnant friend to use that room. Many have asked what I think organiser should have done? Excluded bride and pregnant friend, then put all other names into a draw and/or see if anyone WANTED that room first. If nobody wanted it, because it's so crap, the draw would decide who got it. My frustration was the lack of communication and being treated as an after thought when it came to room allocations.

I've decided to just roll with it, use that room to store my stuff and then I'll just hop into a proper bed with one of the others if the mattress bed in my room/bunks are as terrible as they appear. Thanks all.

Its a nerve. I would check out and go home. Why dhould you be taken for a mug. Dont pay either. They can pay yours between them.

I don't understand why you want to pay less for a room to yourself when everyone else is paying that much to share? It only two nights I'm sure you'll survive.

P.S. stripper is gross

I had a similar situation to this recently, I went to a 2 night event in a shared holiday house, we all paid the same and we were told first come, first serve. I arrived 5 mins after check-in and all the beds were allocated and I got the top bunk (so not first come first serve at all and would never have gone had I known). I ended up sleeping on a mattress on the floor but at one point thought I was going to be on the sofa in the lounge! Other people had lovely rooms to themselves or sharing.

Just try and have a really positive mindset about it as it ruined my weekend a bit which is a shame

How was it decided who shared with who? I'm confused which double bed you're going to randomly allocate yourself to if you don't know these people well?

Fwiw unless there's a drop feed that you're 6ft 2 and 28 stone, you l prob be fine in the bunk bed. It's basically a single, it just feel smaller cos it's enclosed

How do you know they are so different on standard? We need photos.

No wardrobe, no cosy lighting, etc

Why do you need a wardrobe for a weekend? You have at least one spare bed to put your stuff on.

Not sharing is amazing. Why don't you offer on the group chat to swap with someone in a shared room/bed? I bet someone would bite your hand off

Because they're sharing in a largr en suite with a person of their choice and room to unpack. Op is in a single room with no storage space, no bathroom and potentially a dodgy bed.

Oh behave yourself FFS 🙄🙄

Oh for goodness sake, do you go on every thread that isn't about immediate physical or mental peril and tell people to be grateful they're not Ukrainian?

Why would she sleep at floor level? there's a bunk bed.

If the choice is luxury OR not having to share
I would choose single room every time.

But that's my preference.

You could pull out your bed right into the biggest room if you like OP, and make that a 3 way share? Or see if anyone else, like me, would actually prefer a single room?

What a relief. 😀

Didn't want to be the first one to say this.

You'll hop into a bed with her MIL to be? Surely not 🤣

If nobody wanted it, because it's so crap, the draw would decide who got it

But, didn't you say that a lot of people were sharing with family members?

Personally I would rather have the tiny single room than share a bed or room with anyone else. I like my space, even if it is the equivalent of a broom cupboard.

no storage space
She can leave her stuff on the spare bed. I'm sure there's a bathroom somewhere she can use.

I'd be annoyed too OP., £300 is a lot of money to pay for a mattress in a floor without an en-suite

I think I'd email her again and tell her. I presume there will be an amount put in for alcohol and food. Will she expect the pregnant ladies to put in the same? I think I'd suggest that you don't pay, or pay a smaller amount for any further expenses to make up for this.

I'd probably fit into a kid's bunk bed, but that doesn't mean it wouldn't be a pita to either climb to the top or duck under the top one to get into the bottom one.

Either would probably feel claustrophobic!

Her reasoning is sound but her pricing structure is not! Ask for a discount or if you've not paid yet only pay what you're prepared to. She or the others can make up the shortfall. Or pull out, then they'd have to make up the whole 300 between them.

It's a shame that there has to be someone in that room but looking at what you've said so far, everyone else (except the pregnant friend, MIL and the bride) is sharing a room? The organiser could have the room with her daughter I suppose, but I tend to think the organiser deserves a bit of a pamper too as it's so hard to arrange a hen!

The most annoying part really is that the cost should have been shared differently so you paid less for yours. Although am I right in thinking those who are sharing a room are still paying £300 each?

Haven't read the full thread yet, but I agree with this.