Hendo - Feel like crying!

[TeaPlzx]

Hi! First thread here. I'm (F/29) attending a close friends hen do, there's 9 of us staying in a large, swanky cottage (pool, hot tub, sauna, etc.) The bedrooms are made up of multiple king size/double rooms and there's one small room with a bunk bed (designed for kids) and pull-out single (mattress on the floor). I can't express how different this room is to the others, imagine an empty room, with tiny kids bunks and a mattress, that's the extent of it. No wardrobe, no cosy lighting, etc.

Each person has paid approx. £300 for a 2 night stay, including a stripper at the venue and food. Alcohol will have to be purchased separately...
Everyone has been placed in double/king sized rooms (some are sharing, but others not), all with ensuits, however, I've been assigned (without discussion) the small room on my own, without bathroom (will use the "family" shared bathroom). I feel this anger, that I'm paying the same as everyone else, they're all in 5* luxury beds with their own bathrooms and I'm on a pull-out style frame/matress on the floor.

I'm most frustrated that it wasn't even discussed with me, just assigned/assumed I'd take that room. I've briefly raised it with the organiser and she's stated she offered the largest rooms to those sharing (mostly siblings/mums with daughters) and the other two people who aren't sharing (like me), one is pregnant and the other is mother of the stag. Am I unreasonable to still feel upset and not want to be in the tiny bedroom with mattress on the floor? If she feels too embarrassed to allocate that room to MIL, or to herself even, why should I be in there?
I'm really not sure where to go from here, but I'm feeling VERY bitter about it al.

(Sorry pressed send too soon)
...be sleeping. In tents in the garden apparently. Nope!

This. I couldn't have worded this better myself. Thank you.

Side note: Stripper was not my idea and I'm certainly not about to start a riot with organiser over that too 😅

So for £300 each, you get the dud room, some share, some get a room to themselves.

Sounds like some are subsidising the stay of others.

I presume they expected you to suck it up.

I wouldn't be impressed.

Very sneaky.

You should have been told.

No I wouldn't pay £300 to sleep on a mattress or as some have suggested sleeping in a bunk bed absolutely ridiculous. I would book somewhere else close by it may make you look stuck up but £300 is an awful lot of money to be paying out for that room

No, no... it's a mattress slightly elevated,sort of like this but a bit lower..

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The bunks do not look to be standard single size. Something like this...
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And an example of the others bedrooms...
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I only wish this was an exaggeration, it's quite surreal the one bedroom I'm in is so difference in standard/appearance to the others. It's also down a different corridoor away from everyone else. I assume because it's supposed to be the "kids" bedroom.

But why ISN'T she sharing and someone else not?

So there's

1. organiser
2. her daughter
3. Pregnant friend
4. Mob
5. Bride
6. You

Who are the other three?

Negotiate a reduced price.

double/king sized rooms (some are sharing, but others not)
Hang on,
So some people are paying £300 to share a double, you're paying £300 for the bunk room and some are paying £300 to sleep in a double alone?

I'd message someone sleeping alone and say you appear to have been allocated the children's room but as that isn't suitable and everyone else is sharing, are they happy to share with you?

Does the organiser dislike you? It sounds quite personal tbh

I this the kids room to yourself, or with two others on the bunks? I am a bit confused over bunk beds and a mattress on the floor. I can understand how the OP feels a bit short changed, but this is two nights and it sounds like a room to yourself with a choice of large mattress on the floor or a single bunk? I'd try to get over it and just enjoy myself.

How old is the organisers daughter? Could she swap to have the kids room instead of you?

I've decided to just roll with it, use that room to store my stuff and then I'll just hop into a proper bed with one of the others if the mattress bed in my room/bunks are as terrible as they appear.

Hop into bed? Would one of the others be ok with sharing an actual bed? I’d rather sleep on the floor I think, I’d be furious if someone just decided to spoon me in the middle
of the night with no prior discussion. If there are literally just enough beds then surely you would have picked up on this when you looked before booking? I’m confused as to why this wasn’t discussed then?

If you mean rooms and there are spare beds then I’m not sure why you’re even accepting being allocated the room if there are spare beds.

I wouldn’t be happy with paying the same as someone with a king size bed and a en-suite though.

Let me tell you, I refuse to do the xmas over-nighter at the in-laws as it involves a mattress on the floor. And that's just one night! No way I would pay for the privilege

YANBU

I don't think it's personal. I understand organising these things is difficult, but I'm good friends with the bride and her family, I'd have quite happily shared with bride, her Mum, her sisters... and had a proper bed to sleep in (regardless of the added bonus of en-quite even).

My upset is being allocated a very sub-standard room, with a small bunk bed/mattress on the floor and not even a discussion if I'd prefer to share with someone and have a swanky room/decent bed.

But it's not 300e for the room only - its300e for two nights that 150e per night Take out your breakfast you said breakfast is covered and you are down to 130e a night. Then take out your dinner so i presume restaurant and you are down to 100e a night aprox so 200e. You don't say how much the stripper is so i am allowing 20 or 30e per person. Now we are down to 170e for the room for two nights. which equates to 85e a night. If it was a good friend i wouldn't be complaining. The others are paying 300e to share - i would prefer a room all to myself. I would be too busy having fun with my friends

me too.

I disagree.
If they want to charge everyone the same then they should get a bigger place where all the rooms are the same standard.
The problem is that the bride doesn't organise these things and would probably be mortified if she knew.

So ask someone who's alone if you can share

Could you not share with either the mother of the stag or pregnant lady? Don’t see why they can’t share rather than you having the crap room with no en-suite. I don’t think it’s unreasonable that they should have to share instead.

I do get why you are upset but a Hendo isn’t the place to kick up a fuss. Just take it with good grace.

Would have made more sense to book a house that has a nice room for each person surely? I’d be slightly annoyed if she hadn’t even mentioned it to soften the blow before arrival. But to be honest, she should have really made sure all the rooms were equal as much as possible.

Maybe I'm just not seeing it but where does it say the organiser's daughter is going?

Maybe you could move your mattress to one of the double rooms that isn't being shared.
I'd be absolutely fine with that, but sharing a bed is a complete no no for me.

@ponesta

I clicked on this thread because I thought it was about Hendo's (Henderson's Relish).