That they've been gone over an hour

[YingMei]

My DH took the DC out for a walk over an hour ago, said they would be half an hour DC are 7 and 10. We are in a rural location . DH hasn't taken his phone, helpfully, it's almost dark and no sign of them. I am a bit prone to anxiety but I'm so worried - why would they be so long? Why would he not have returned when it's getting dark?

are you drunk?

*anger not a get

I haven’t read through the thread but that’s quite a harsh reply.

Anxiety: Real gut churning and debilitating anxiety is a bitch. I know it because I have it. It’s the most evil thing and so so terrifying and utterly horrendous. I would not wish it on ly
worst enemy.

Please do have a bit more empathy for the OP.

This.
my DS used to love going for “night hike” with scouts - they’d set off at 7pm for an hour or even hour and half, when it was well dark ..torches and night sounds..
and that kiddy attractive “spookiness”
they used to go into the hills and woods around us.
even the beavers would be out “night hiking” at 5:30 to 6:30

Bit of nightmare I expect for leaders - they were brave souls made of patience and passion 🤣🤣

@LargeglassofRosePlease but you cannot bring everyone else down because of your anxiety, including DH and DC. You need to sort it.

Judging by this thread not at all. They could be gone a week and it’s all cool.

It's all about expectations. If my son wasn't home for the football I'd worry.

Yes they do.but families work together on this so it's not an issue.
And op already said a few times her wording of "having words" wasn't correct.
And yes it can get hard living with a sufferer. But you do it.you love them.and it's be way worse not .
And at that point they can point out what op needs to do at that point to chill.whixh she tried to do by coming on here for support.

Well that was a whole lot of drama about nothing, I bet he doesn't take his phone to stop you trying to contact him, he went out for a walk and wasn't back at precisely 30 min, so you work yourself up into a frenzy? Your child had fallen in nettles and you were going to drive to get him? Gosh I do hope you shield your kids from your over reaction to stuff like this. I wouldn't even notice if my husband wasn't back unless it got to the 2 hour mark, and then my thoughts would be they'd gone further and were having fun, not that something dramatic had happened.

I'm sorry, I don't think it's a harsh response.
The OP needed a dose of reality and maybe if more people were honest with her, and you, your anxiety would be better controlled and not escalate to the level it did all over a dad taking his own son for a walk.

@kateandme so they only work on it to not be an issue if they allow the OP to have "anxiety"?

The rest of your post is difficult to understand.

Please don’t say that. That’s upset me.
I am desperately trying to sort it: GP , CMHT and I have to live it hourly, daily for the sake of my beautiful family.
It is an utter utter bastard.

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No.but sometimes I wish I was by the cruelty that arrives on these threads.
Btw what is your reply meant to make me feel?could you have been kinder. Or just want to stick the shame boot in because u don't write eloquently enough for you.

I agree

But it’s real. To us it’s real.

A bastard of an illness that I loathe with every part of my being. But that’s what it is. An illness and it’s so so so scary.
Easier said to get a grip of it than it is to do I tell you.

@IveDroppedMiBiscuitInMiBrew nasty

You don't allow someone to have anxiety ffks.its an illness.its NOT a choice.
And no.ita not allowed even then.its worked with.give andvtake.supported.
It's knowing your got EACH OTHERS backs.and you find a way through.
No-one wants to worry like they do.
And familys can work it so it doesn't hinder them.but sometimes on the odd days you have to dodge it a bit if something creeps up.and you do.because it's what families do.and very often the sufferer will do it on their own.day in.day out to make sure it doesn't burden those they love.behind the scene they are working bloody hard.

Probably not but the point I was making is that parents did worry before mobile phones (in response to the ‘how did we ever manage before’). The fact is it’s no big deal to take your phone, switch it off if you must but at least having it gives you choices.

It's not nasty, it's how the PP feels! Why is it nasty because she's relaxed?

No it wasn't nasty. It was an excellent synopsis of the events.

@kateandme if you find this forum so difficult, so unkind, then perhaps don't use it?

Absolutely.

Your doing great.
every time you step up.get up.wake up.get out of bed your doing great.
Your fighting it.dont give up on that.
Keep doing the things that help.
Keep trying new things to ease it.
But don't ever feel bad for sufferering.because this isn't your fault.and your a bad ads for even fighting it back for one second you manage to.
It's not beaten you.and it won't.keep going.
Face it.tell it you see it.and walk onwards.
Thoughts are not facts.

The ones on here who don’t suffer from anxiety haven’t a clue have they? Oh today I won’t suffer from it as I allowed my self it yesterday 🙄

Nope your not going to get me with that bullshit line either.its such a boring line.well worn.
perhaps if you find empathy or certain illness difficult to comprehend you should leave it.