To feel a bit inconvenienced

[OngoingCrisis]

For a little bit of background, I'm early(ish) 20's, still living in my childhood home, just me and my mum.

My mum has been seeing someone for just under 5 years but has not introduced us to eachother, but she has met his child, so everything is kept relatively private, I won't lie, I do feel left out, but back to the main point.

She had told me this morning that she wants to invite him to our house so they can have a date night and she'd like me out of the house from 2-9pm. Now, this wouldn't have been an issue if she has told me earlier this week, as I could have made plans to go somewhere, but now I'm stuck trying to find somewhere to go and stay for 7 hours. I've contacted friends to see if they are available but no response yet and I'm running out of ideas.

I'm not sure what to do or where to go. Do I just sit in my car the entire time? Dad has been in and out of my life since I was a young kid so I don't feel comfortable going to him. Tbh I feel like I'm making a big deal out of nothing but would like some perspective please

AIBU to feel a bit inconvenienced?

Also (and I'm aware I've turned into Miss Marple) I'm wondering if he is either married, or if 'he' is a woman?

5 years is an awful long time to not want to introduce you to her long term partner.

@DuplicateUserName Apologies I misunderstood. She has had him round before but only when I'm not home. She mentioned the date night to me this morning so I've not had enough time to plan anything

How odd , are you sure it's a male friend? Such strange request from her

For those asking, yes he is male. I've seen him outside of our house to pick my mum up. I've asked a couple of times about introducing but she just says she's not ready. She's spent the last couple of christmases with him whilst I stay home and I do feel a bit of resentment building up

Sorry but going against the grain. In your earlyish 20s, you should be quite capable of entertaining yourself for a few hours. I’d go to the cinema or eat out.
For those saying that OP is being turfed out of her own home, she isn’t (unless it’s jointly owned). It’s her mum’s home.

Agree that not being introduced after 5 years isn’t on though. I’d be asking why.

Park around the corner and watch!

Gosh this does seem an unreasonable request. It's dark by 4 pm ish now and very wet and cold! So sitting in your car with a book will be grim. And everything closes early on Sunday. Poor you op. I wouldn't do this to my daughter.

Probably a stupid thing to suggest in this financial climate, but could they pay for you to stay the night in a hotel? That way they get the whole night to themselves and you get to have a bit of a pamper too.
I think they are being unreasonable expecting you to go out that long in a place that shuts early. It doesn’t seem very fair as it’s your home too.

She should give you the money to go and do something..... which is hard enough on a Sunday in a small town, let alone with no money.

@MrsSkylerWhite ik what you are saying. It's just a bit tricky with lack of family, everything closing at 4:30 on a sunday and not much money. As I said earlier, if I'd had a bit more notice, I could have planned to meet with friends or something

OP is a student with very little income and already gives her dm £300 a month.
She doesn’t have money for the cinema and restaurants.

Petrol is expensive, McDonald's is crap, not everyone lives near "the beach" and it's November!

Any actually helpful suggestions?

I think OP's mother is being outrageous

@IhateMattHancock 😂😂😂

Tbh @OngoingCrisis I think this is unfair.
Your MUM isn't ready to introduce? So you have to be shoved out onto the streets because you've no money? Wow..
I would defo be looking for my own place, tbh. :-(

I get it OP. To be asked to make yourself scarce for several hours on a today is inconsiderate. With a bit of notice you could have arranged something with friends. It is too cold to be hanging around in your car with a flask!

It is OPs home: it’s where she lives.

OPs mum is being very unreasonable to turf her daughter out, at short notice, when she has no money and there’s nothing to do because it’s Sunday.

What a strange situation after five years I guess you will never get to meet him

go to uni library most are open 24 hours a day

i think she just wants your £300 tbh

leavinf you on Xmas day is terrible

id just come home after a few hours and get it over with

For 7 hours? More than half of the time after dark?

How strange. Does he know that you exist?

Sounds like she likes to pretend you don't exist. Lovely woman your mum.

Could you book a hotel for the day?

Have I understood this correctly? She has gone to spend Christmas with him for the last couple of years and left you on your own?
Something is very messed up here. I think you need some distance from your mum as this is not a normal healthy relationship.

Eh? The OP lives there… how is it not her own her also? My kids don’t pay the mortgage but my
home is most definitely their home
also. The two aren’t mutually exclusive.

Sorry but going against the grain. In your earlyish 20s, you should be quite capable of entertaining yourself for a few hours. I’d go to the cinema or eat out.
For those saying that OP is being turfed out of her own home, she isn’t (unless it’s jointly owned). It’s her mum’s home.

Utter bullshit. Firstly it's not a "few" hours, it's seven. Secondly it may be her mother's house but it's the OP's home every bit as much as the mother's and asking her to vacate in this way is outrageous. I hope the OP tells her where to go

Local Wetherspoons - warm and free coffee refills, take a book and a laptop!