Update:
After various emails and 1 meeting with the school, reassurances that this is being taken seriously, the abusers have been sanctioned, parents spoken with and all 4 abusers are no longer sat behind or next to my DD in any of their shared lessons.
Last Friday, my DD came home distraught, saying she couldn't take it because one of her abusers, who she shares a lesson with, is STILL sat next to her, and he has now started copying her work. She told me,'What was the point in reporting any of this Mum? He's still sat next to me'. I waited until early Monday morning to email the school, I was too angry to do it on Friday.
Yesterday afternoon, a member of the SLT, the safeguarding lead, called me. Long and short of it is that the boy hadn't been moved from next to my DD because there hadn't been full disclosure between my DD's HoY that has been dealing with this and the teachers of those shared lessons.
She confirmed that my DD's teachers hadn't been told about the nature of the issue, just that there'd been a problem.
None of the teachers in the affected lessons had even read my DD's statements, one of which is also her form tutor.
I asked why all relevant staff weren't made aware of the abuse? She said there was no need for them to know!!!!!!! My DD has been suffering sexual abuse/harassment in her lessons with her teachers present for 4 months now, and yet there's no need for these teachers to know!!???? The safeguarding lead was condescending and not at all understanding. I have now asked for a face to face meeting with the principal and the SLT team.
How is this OK????
This is an extract of my DD's statement regarding the sexual abuse/harassment.
Tell me that this isn't serious enough to notify all staff and to get one of her abusers moved from next to her instantly.
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All 4 boys would laugh and make the following comments:
×××××× wants to get on her knees and suck ××××××’s dick’.
That I’d be happy to ‘play with ××××××s dick’.
That ×××××× wants to ‘grab ××××××s small ass tits’.
That ‘××××× wants to finger you ×××××××’.
That ‘you should both get into bed together so ×××××× can touch you up’.
Sometimes to disguise what they were saying to ××××× and I, they would use other words in place of actual anatomical names. They would refer to ×××××’s penis as ‘meat’ and my breasts as ‘melons’.
I want to add that there is not a ××××× lesson that I can recall where some form of sexual harassment or verbal abuse has not taken place towards me by these boys. These comments have all been made to me during the lesson and often in the middle of the lesson. ×××××× (teacher) is always present but is either helping someone with a ×××××××× (subject) problem or is otherwise out of earshot. But ×××××× is present in the classroom whenever these things are being said to me. The comments are said to me loudly enough so that I and ×××××× can hear them, and I am sure other students can hear them too.
I have not spoken up about what has been happening to me because my genuine feeling and understanding of school life now is that nothing would change. These boys would not stop or learn and move on, they would simply carry on. I have been worried that there wouldn’t be a severe enough sanction to make them stop and that things would then get worse for me. I also feel that even if I spoke up, because this kind of sexual harassment and abuse is all over the school and I see and hear it happen to other people all the time, no one would care about what was happening to me. This kind of behaviour is normalised in our school, and I have become numb to it.
My teachers all have a hard job as it is because our year group is so disruptive. I often feel that the teachers don’t have the time or energy to stop and listen and do something about what has been happening. If I was to speak up, I would be making reports every single day.