To be totally turned off by this?

[teslaplayer]

Went on a first date with a guy I met online last night, went out for dinner. When I got there I definitely found him attractive. However when it came to ordering drinks he ordered himself a glass of milk.

I've honestly never came across someone doing that in a restaurant and I just think it's really odd and really put me off him. I have tried to work out why this was such a turn off and I can't come up with a reason it just made me feel a bit yuck.

AIBU? It's just so odd on a first date I feel.

[bigdecisionstomake]

Might be in the bulking phase of lifting weights?

[ChocolateCakeYum]

@JeanMarie

Could have been worse, like the guy I dated years ago.....he ordered vodka and milk!

I once dated a guy who ordered a mix of red wine and milk and insisted it came in a nice glass. It looked like one of those kiddy milkshakes.

Grim.

[ForgetBarbie]

I don’t know why I find this so funny😂

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with drinking milk but I also find this so strange. Why milk? Why not water or something else? Again, nothing wrong with him drinking milk but maybe because it’s not really the norm!

[WilsonMilson]

Hmmm, I quite like his confidence. It’s not a sexy thing to order on a date, but he asked for what he wanted and wasn't trying to hard to impress you. He’s his own man, I kinda like it.

Caveat: if he wants ‘bitty’ on date 2, I take it all back!!

[Emotionalsupportviper]

@JeanMarie

Could have been worse, like the guy I dated years ago.....he ordered vodka and milk!

Maybe he was allergic to coffee liquer, and didn't want the calories of cream?

[Kikidouloveme]

It's hard to find a decent bloke you're gonna nit pick over every tiny quirk or inconsequential choice they make? You can be turned off and decide not to date anyone for whatever reason you like -- maybe you never liked this guy anyway and this was the cherry on the top or maybe it's an excuse for a lack of something about him that you can't quite articulate and this glass of milk thing is what you're able to admit.

If he was perfect in everyway I think you risk ending up alone with this attitude because everyone will have annoying habits I guess it's just which annoying habit are you willing to put up with....

I suspect there was more about him you didn't like as people put up with astonishing amount of crap and overlook mountains of red flags when they are enamoured.

[SandraTeaspoon]

A man has just logged this as well saying a woman ordered milk on a date

[Seaweedandsalt]

To be honest I would by ordering a cup of tea rather than a soft drink but that's just me and someone might think that's weird too.

[WilsonMilson]

@ChocolateCakeYum

I once dated a guy who ordered a mix of red wine and milk and insisted it came in a nice glass. It looked like one of those kiddy milkshakes.

Grim.

Red wine and milk? Together?? In the same glass???

No. I’d have made my excuses and left. The crazed lunatic.

[Getoff]

I usually drink water, both at home and in restaurants, but occasionally I've absent-mindedly poured myself milk, having picked up the wrong jug from the fridge door, and been reminded that milk is actually much nicer.

For me, the only thing wrong with drinking milk is that it has more calories than water. (I'm already getting enough calories from my meals.)

[the80sweregreat]

If it had been a milkshake would you feel the same? It wouldn't bother me though as milk is nice !

[JeanMarie]

@Emotionalsupportviper neither ....he just had , to me anyway , weird tastes!

[Fleurdaisy]

@ElmoNeedsThePotty

2nd date he will be asking for "bitty"

Thanks for making me laugh, I’m having a shit day.

OP On a first date guy asked for tea then crossed his legs and crooked his little finger as he drank it. Total ick from me.

[WilsonMilson]

This wasn’t a date, but I once went out with a non romantic male friend to a rather posh restaurant of his choice. He ordered a very expensive bottle of champagne (he was a bit of a show off), and then proceeded to ask the waiter for large wine glasses with ice in them as apparently “everyone is doing it in Singapore”.

Champagne, in wine glasses, with ice. Mortifying. The waiter was clearly horrified and had us down for a pair of nouveau riche wankers. Thankfully it wasn’t a date or else I’d definitely have had the ick!!

[EndlessRain]

It's a bit strange, but it wouldn't put me off someone I otherwise liked.

[MiniCooperLover]

Maybe he gets indigestion when he eats and so it helps?

[Irishfarmer]

I worked in a pub restaurant a few years ago, a lot of men used to order a pint of milk with their dinner. We had enormous I think 50 litre cartons of it and it had its own special fridge! Could be a thing where he's from.

[MoirasSaggyBundles]

2 separate issues.

1. Does ordering milk with an evening meal make you a psycho/wierdo? No, it's unusual, but pp have talked about cultural norms, spicy food etc, and it's hardly a huge leap from straight milk to milkshake, lassi or latte.

2 Are you allowed to find it a turn off? Of course you are. Everyone is allowed to be as choosy as they like in their personal preferences for a romantic/sexual partner, even if those preferences are objectively irrational or prejudicial. Anything short of that veers down a slippery slope of women in particular not being allowed to say no through the pressure of social opprobrium.

[mast0650]

It's unusual, but if that was the only odd thing, it wouldn't put me off. My husband is Dutch and we normally both drink milk with a simple lunch (sandwich, soup, something on toast etc). But he would never have milk with dinner.

[Ingrainedagainstthegrain]

So what if he likes milk? You must be as dull as ditch water if you haven't taken away much more significant personality data to consider than this.

[pinkyredrose]

@Thegannethasfled

Ffs why the hell should that matter?! So he didn't want to drink he likes milk perhaps it was to settle his acid stomach who cares what matters is did you fancy him did you like him was it fun is he a nice person. Or do you prefer the wife beating child abandoning gaslighting unfaithful inconsiderate rude ones that order a pint instead. Fookin ell priorities

It's hardly an either/or situation.

Fwiw i think milk is fucking rancid, I'd definitely be put off someone who drank it.

[Ingrainedagainstthegrain]

All the same, thoughts and prayers at this disappointing time.

[mast0650]

If I'm honest, I kind of judge an adult who drinks anything other than water, wine, beer alongside a meal. I'm more comfortable with milk than sweet fizzy drinks!

[Laurdo]

Maybe he has issues with acid reflux and was just getting ahead of it so he could enjoy the date.

[Gemmanorthdevon]

He might have had heartburn or another u comfortable issue milk is said to help, and trying anything he could to not let it ruin his appetite or date. He could be trying to line his tummy before drinking or eating anything spicy...allsorts. ( not endorsing any of that BTW )

Crikey. So many " I can't find the one!" Cries among so many petty things. Isn't his heart and soul more Important than he decides to drink when he gets chance?! Poor bloke.