I go with a group of friends and out babies to a cafe each week. Apparently the week before last the cafe manager had a go at one of the mums because she said that her baby made mess under his high chair and she didn't clean it up before she left.
This week, as I was packing up to leave (with a screaming overtired baby who is refusing to nap because of teething!), she gave me a dustpan and brush and pointed at the few bit of food under her high chair and asked me to clean up after myself.
It's advertised as a very family friendly cafe.
To make it clear, if she had made an unreasonable mess I would of course have cleaned it up (or tried, it's a bit difficult when you don't have any cleaning materials). But it was a few bits on the floor. I've offered to clean up in other cafes and they've said "don't be silly, we'll do it!".
I guess I'm going to be way more conscious about allowing my baby to make a mess in the future (good luck!). But after I told my mum, she said I should leave a negative review about it on their cafe page and seemed to think it was unreasonable.
Is it unreasonable to ask a parent to clean the floor after their baby? I'm torn because on the one side, I can see how it would be annoying for the staff. On the other hand, I don't bring cleaning materials with me and it's advertised as family friendly... which I would think would mean they're aware that babies make mess!
AIBU?
Having to clean up after myself in a cafe?
goodmorningsunny · 16/11/2022 10:14
Citycentre3 · 19/11/2022 14:09
I have just returned from Costa's, where I failed to pick up my baby's half eaten biscuit from the floor. I also took home my cup and my babycinos cup to make up for the overpriced beverages.
Citycentre3 · 19/11/2022 14:09
I have just returned from Costa's, where I failed to pick up my baby's half eaten biscuit from the floor. I also took home my cup and my babycinos cup to make up for the overpriced beverages.
gillys · 20/11/2022 08:36
@threatmatrix , no one tips as it is a community cafe inside a church with a large play area. It’s mostly run by volunteers , so we don’t get paid to clear up after peoples kids, we do it to keep a nice environment & we appreciate people clearing up after themselves. Someone left a pile of baby sick for us last week, which was good of them !
Really wonder what some peoples homes are like.
threatmatrix · 20/11/2022 11:03
Precisely. You’d think people would tip knowing you are all volunteers. That would make me clean up even more. People are so rude and ignorant these days. I’m glad i’ve just sold my place.
gillys · 20/11/2022 08:36
@threatmatrix , no one tips as it is a community cafe inside a church with a large play area. It’s mostly run by volunteers , so we don’t get paid to clear up after peoples kids, we do it to keep a nice environment & we appreciate people clearing up after themselves. Someone left a pile of baby sick for us last week, which was good of them !
Really wonder what some peoples homes are like.
bloodyeverlastinghell · 20/11/2022 16:19
I used to go to a cafe in a church place; you didn't tip but chucked a quid or two into the donations box on the way out. It's a bit strange to tip a volunteer, sort of assume if they wanted money they'd get a job.
threatmatrix · 20/11/2022 11:03
Precisely. You’d think people would tip knowing you are all volunteers. That would make me clean up even more. People are so rude and ignorant these days. I’m glad i’ve just sold my place.
gillys · 20/11/2022 08:36
@threatmatrix , no one tips as it is a community cafe inside a church with a large play area. It’s mostly run by volunteers , so we don’t get paid to clear up after peoples kids, we do it to keep a nice environment & we appreciate people clearing up after themselves. Someone left a pile of baby sick for us last week, which was good of them !
Really wonder what some peoples homes are like.
threatmatrix · 20/11/2022 20:48
And it would be nice if people did so they could save it up and perhaps treat themselves. Surely they deserve a tip more than anyone.
bloodyeverlastinghell · 20/11/2022 16:19
I used to go to a cafe in a church place; you didn't tip but chucked a quid or two into the donations box on the way out. It's a bit strange to tip a volunteer, sort of assume if they wanted money they'd get a job.
threatmatrix · 20/11/2022 11:03
Precisely. You’d think people would tip knowing you are all volunteers. That would make me clean up even more. People are so rude and ignorant these days. I’m glad i’ve just sold my place.
gillys · 20/11/2022 08:36
@threatmatrix , no one tips as it is a community cafe inside a church with a large play area. It’s mostly run by volunteers , so we don’t get paid to clear up after peoples kids, we do it to keep a nice environment & we appreciate people clearing up after themselves. Someone left a pile of baby sick for us last week, which was good of them !
Really wonder what some peoples homes are like.
threatmatrix · 21/11/2022 15:28
Really? Tips can be left on the table on a saucer. Have you never tipped before?
goodmorningsunny · 16/11/2022 10:14
I go with a group of friends and out babies to a cafe each week. Apparently the week before last the cafe manager had a go at one of the mums because she said that her baby made mess under his high chair and she didn't clean it up before she left.
This week, as I was packing up to leave (with a screaming overtired baby who is refusing to nap because of teething!), she gave me a dustpan and brush and pointed at the few bit of food under her high chair and asked me to clean up after myself.
It's advertised as a very family friendly cafe.
To make it clear, if she had made an unreasonable mess I would of course have cleaned it up (or tried, it's a bit difficult when you don't have any cleaning materials). But it was a few bits on the floor. I've offered to clean up in other cafes and they've said "don't be silly, we'll do it!".
I guess I'm going to be way more conscious about allowing my baby to make a mess in the future (good luck!). But after I told my mum, she said I should leave a negative review about it on their cafe page and seemed to think it was unreasonable.
Is it unreasonable to ask a parent to clean the floor after their baby? I'm torn because on the one side, I can see how it would be annoying for the staff. On the other hand, I don't bring cleaning materials with me and it's advertised as family friendly... which I would think would mean they're aware that babies make mess!
Shycookie · 23/11/2022 02:08
I read alot of the replies and im tired of all the entiled people who think that they are better than everyone else...to the poor mom I am very sorry this happened to you..it has happened to me..its very stressful to deal with a overly tired teething baby. ..Everyone including ADULTS make a mess in restaurants and cafes.. the employees do get paid with tips and lil salary to keep the restaurants and cafes clean including cleaning tbe tables and sweeping floors Meaning it's ther job to sweep the floor after babies, kids and Adults that make a bit of a mess.. I clean up and stack my dishes after I eat but sweeping tbe floor or a FEW bits of food is uncalled for if I were you I would leave a review about how they are not family friendly unless u want to sweep the floor.
For the people who are being so entitled: how would you like it if they handed you the broom and dustpan because you or your parent dropped a napkin or a piece of food.???
Shycookie · 23/11/2022 02:08
I read alot of the replies and im tired of all the entiled people who think that they are better than everyone else...to the poor mom I am very sorry this happened to you..it has happened to me..its very stressful to deal with a overly tired teething baby. ..Everyone including ADULTS make a mess in restaurants and cafes.. the employees do get paid with tips and lil salary to keep the restaurants and cafes clean including cleaning tbe tables and sweeping floors Meaning it's ther job to sweep the floor after babies, kids and Adults that make a bit of a mess.. I clean up and stack my dishes after I eat but sweeping tbe floor or a FEW bits of food is uncalled for if I were you I would leave a review about how they are not family friendly unless u want to sweep the floor.
For the people who are being so entitled: how would you like it if they handed you the broom and dustpan because you or your parent dropped a napkin or a piece of food.???
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DrMarciaFieldstone · 23/11/2022 05:41
I don’t know of any adults who leave lots of food strewn all over the floor in cafes. How rude of them, if they do.
Having an overtired, teething baby is no excuse. Go home, if they’re that bad.
Shycookie · 23/11/2022 02:08
I read alot of the replies and im tired of all the entiled people who think that they are better than everyone else...to the poor mom I am very sorry this happened to you..it has happened to me..its very stressful to deal with a overly tired teething baby. ..Everyone including ADULTS make a mess in restaurants and cafes.. the employees do get paid with tips and lil salary to keep the restaurants and cafes clean including cleaning tbe tables and sweeping floors Meaning it's ther job to sweep the floor after babies, kids and Adults that make a bit of a mess.. I clean up and stack my dishes after I eat but sweeping tbe floor or a FEW bits of food is uncalled for if I were you I would leave a review about how they are not family friendly unless u want to sweep the floor.
For the people who are being so entitled: how would you like it if they handed you the broom and dustpan because you or your parent dropped a napkin or a piece of food.???
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