I go with a group of friends and out babies to a cafe each week. Apparently the week before last the cafe manager had a go at one of the mums because she said that her baby made mess under his high chair and she didn't clean it up before she left.
This week, as I was packing up to leave (with a screaming overtired baby who is refusing to nap because of teething!), she gave me a dustpan and brush and pointed at the few bit of food under her high chair and asked me to clean up after myself.
It's advertised as a very family friendly cafe.
To make it clear, if she had made an unreasonable mess I would of course have cleaned it up (or tried, it's a bit difficult when you don't have any cleaning materials). But it was a few bits on the floor. I've offered to clean up in other cafes and they've said "don't be silly, we'll do it!".
I guess I'm going to be way more conscious about allowing my baby to make a mess in the future (good luck!). But after I told my mum, she said I should leave a negative review about it on their cafe page and seemed to think it was unreasonable.
Is it unreasonable to ask a parent to clean the floor after their baby? I'm torn because on the one side, I can see how it would be annoying for the staff. On the other hand, I don't bring cleaning materials with me and it's advertised as family friendly... which I would think would mean they're aware that babies make mess!
AIBU?
Having to clean up after myself in a cafe?
goodmorningsunny · 16/11/2022 10:14
Yellowpotato · 16/11/2022 10:20
I think they are telling you that they don't want you in there each week!
weathervane1 · 16/11/2022 10:22
I look at it a bit differently. If I walked into a cafe and there was food in the floor, there's a good chance I'll walk back out. I don't want to sit surrounded by mess and my mind says "if it's like that where the customers sit, what's it like in the kitchen?". If the staff are busy and I had caused the mess, I'd think it only right that I should clean it up - to make it look like the sort of place I'd like to eat in. It's only fair.
Halfordscarpark · 18/11/2022 09:02
There is a thing in hospitality whereby if a customer asks for a brush and dustpan it is mostly refused as they are at least willing to clean it up.
You are wrong to expect serving staff to clean up a big mess. I always used to clean up my kids mess with a wipe. Hospitality is struggling at the moment with staff shortages, and low customer footfall, we should be mindful of helping each other.
gillys · 18/11/2022 16:35
I work in a cafe & am gobsmacked by the amount of parents who get up & leave a load of mess without attempting to tidy any of it up. Soooo entitled. I’m not expecting people to sweep up crumbs but pick up the large chunks of food your child has chucked on the floor before it gets trodden in.
Pretty sure if you arrived in a cafe that looked a mess you wouldn’t be happy & would complain !
gillys · 18/11/2022 16:35
I work in a cafe & am gobsmacked by the amount of parents who get up & leave a load of mess without attempting to tidy any of it up. Soooo entitled. I’m not expecting people to sweep up crumbs but pick up the large chunks of food your child has chucked on the floor before it gets trodden in.
Pretty sure if you arrived in a cafe that looked a mess you wouldn’t be happy & would complain !
HerMajestysRoyalCoven · 17/11/2022 22:41
The people saying “if you don’t like standing or sitting in my child’s mess then go to childfree cafe!” are the exact same people who start social media campaigns against cafe owners that ban children.
I know two great cafes where I’d love to go but when both tried to ban young kids, both got hit with social media campaigns from the local mum brigade. They had to relent and now both cafes resemble soft play - filthy, loud, buggies everywhere.
Would love a childfree cafe.
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Citycentre3 · 19/11/2022 14:09
I have just returned from Costa's, where I failed to pick up my baby's half eaten biscuit from the floor. I also took home my cup and my babycinos cup to make up for the overpriced beverages.
Citycentre3 · 19/11/2022 14:09
I have just returned from Costa's, where I failed to pick up my baby's half eaten biscuit from the floor. I also took home my cup and my babycinos cup to make up for the overpriced beverages.
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