I go with a group of friends and out babies to a cafe each week. Apparently the week before last the cafe manager had a go at one of the mums because she said that her baby made mess under his high chair and she didn't clean it up before she left.
This week, as I was packing up to leave (with a screaming overtired baby who is refusing to nap because of teething!), she gave me a dustpan and brush and pointed at the few bit of food under her high chair and asked me to clean up after myself.
It's advertised as a very family friendly cafe.
To make it clear, if she had made an unreasonable mess I would of course have cleaned it up (or tried, it's a bit difficult when you don't have any cleaning materials). But it was a few bits on the floor. I've offered to clean up in other cafes and they've said "don't be silly, we'll do it!".
I guess I'm going to be way more conscious about allowing my baby to make a mess in the future (good luck!). But after I told my mum, she said I should leave a negative review about it on their cafe page and seemed to think it was unreasonable.
Is it unreasonable to ask a parent to clean the floor after their baby? I'm torn because on the one side, I can see how it would be annoying for the staff. On the other hand, I don't bring cleaning materials with me and it's advertised as family friendly... which I would think would mean they're aware that babies make mess!
AIBU?
Having to clean up after myself in a cafe?
goodmorningsunny · 16/11/2022 10:14
undernotover · 17/11/2022 14:09
WTF! Your entitlement is ridiculous.
It doesn't matter that the mess isn't malicious, it's still mess. In life if we create an issue, even if it's totally accidental, it's our moral obligation to deal with said issue. Be it making mess, breaking something, etc.
And people working can choose how they are treated in the workplace (it should be decently, not disrespectfully and like a skivvy - which decent people do anyway but not a small minority like yourself). The people in this cafe have decided OP isn't treating them decently and so asked her to clean up after herself, and if she refuses they have the right to refuse her service. The same applies if people are rude to cafe staff, they can refuse them service too, you aren't entitled to service in a private business, the social contract goes both ways, you act decently, you get service, you don't and you don't receive the service.
Maybe you need to move on from moaning that everyone else should clean up your kids mess just because you did it in the past, deal with it yourself, and stop complaining.
stuntbubbles · 16/11/2022 10:29
Of course you clean up after babies! The mess can be horrendous. I once chased a man down who was leaving a cafe (I was a customer, not an employee) having let his school-age kids drop scrambled egg all over the floor.
Employees are there on low wages to take orders, serve food, take payment, and wipe down tables etc between customers, not do the mega-clean that very small children require. Some cafes will say “please don’t worry”‘and that’s fine, but you should still always offer.
Citycentre3 · 17/11/2022 15:04
I think this just feeds into the mentality of the moment, self service check out machines in supermarkets, automatic paying in cash machines in banks, we all just have to plod along doing everyone's job for them, and we are all accepting it like it is normal. Well in my day you had to work for your money, how about that?
Citycentre3 · 17/11/2022 15:34
I think it's about what is reasonable within someone's job description. For example you expect reasonable cleaning of a table to involve a few spills or crumbs on the table, maybe give the seat a quick brush down and the dirty crockery. This allows the table to be turned over quickly for new customers. Leaving food all over the seats and floor to an excessive amount means that staff can't turn the table around as quickly which impacts on how soon next customers can be seated and served etc literally costing the business money. This goes beyond the reasonable expectation of housekeeping that is expected by the staff. So it's not about not working hard for your money its about leaving things in a reasonable state.
Sorry don't agree. I naturally cleaned up after choosing to do the job I did. I expect the same from others. I am paying afterall. Just like my previous messy customers payed me.
Yellowpotato · 16/11/2022 10:20
I think they are telling you that they don't want you in there each week!
Mummyto3boyz · 17/11/2022 15:58
If you wouldn’t leave it on the floor in your house, don’t leave it on a floor in a cafe?
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