I go with a group of friends and out babies to a cafe each week. Apparently the week before last the cafe manager had a go at one of the mums because she said that her baby made mess under his high chair and she didn't clean it up before she left.
This week, as I was packing up to leave (with a screaming overtired baby who is refusing to nap because of teething!), she gave me a dustpan and brush and pointed at the few bit of food under her high chair and asked me to clean up after myself.
It's advertised as a very family friendly cafe.
To make it clear, if she had made an unreasonable mess I would of course have cleaned it up (or tried, it's a bit difficult when you don't have any cleaning materials). But it was a few bits on the floor. I've offered to clean up in other cafes and they've said "don't be silly, we'll do it!".
I guess I'm going to be way more conscious about allowing my baby to make a mess in the future (good luck!). But after I told my mum, she said I should leave a negative review about it on their cafe page and seemed to think it was unreasonable.
Is it unreasonable to ask a parent to clean the floor after their baby? I'm torn because on the one side, I can see how it would be annoying for the staff. On the other hand, I don't bring cleaning materials with me and it's advertised as family friendly... which I would think would mean they're aware that babies make mess!
AIBU?
Having to clean up after myself in a cafe?
goodmorningsunny · 16/11/2022 10:14
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Cheeseandcrackers86 · 16/11/2022 15:01
Yes I forgot this is the UK... the country where we put unbelievable pressure on parents and kids for kids to.... well...... just stop being bloody kids.... and quitely ostracise them for doing so then wonder why there's an epidemic of kids and young adults riddled with crippling mental health problems. It's all good though as long as the damned kids stay in their home and make no noise or mess until they're 18.
rookiemere · 16/11/2022 14:56
Well the option of eating at home is always open if you don't like what the cafe sells to stay in business.
Cheeseandcrackers86 · 16/11/2022 14:48
In defense of the criticism of people bringing kids their own food I used to do this. It was less to do with money and more to do with the absolute waste and unhealthiness that seems to come with toddler cafe meals. Often the only option is some sort of sandwhich deal which involves sandwhiches wrapped 3 times over, fruit wrapped in plastic (usually a really sugary type eg raisins), a yoghurt crammed with sugar (and in disposable plastic), a biscuit/chocolate bar wrapped in plastic and a pack of crisps full of white carbs. All washed down with a sugary drink in a disposable carton. It drives me potty!
JudgeJ · 17/11/2022 10:36
Or maybe there is an alleged 'epidemic of kids and young people riddled with crippling mental heath problems' because they are being raised by super-entitled parents who think that the simple act of procreation makes them so very special and the world should bow down to their very existance.
If I had a dog I wouldn't expect others to clean up after it, we even have laws, but parents can get away with it. I doubt that anyone is suggesting there is a problem with crumbs etc but rather the mess created when dear babes are allowed to throw their food on the floor.
Cheeseandcrackers86 · 16/11/2022 15:01
Yes I forgot this is the UK... the country where we put unbelievable pressure on parents and kids for kids to.... well...... just stop being bloody kids.... and quitely ostracise them for doing so then wonder why there's an epidemic of kids and young adults riddled with crippling mental health problems. It's all good though as long as the damned kids stay in their home and make no noise or mess until they're 18.
rookiemere · 16/11/2022 14:56
Well the option of eating at home is always open if you don't like what the cafe sells to stay in business.
Cheeseandcrackers86 · 16/11/2022 14:48
In defense of the criticism of people bringing kids their own food I used to do this. It was less to do with money and more to do with the absolute waste and unhealthiness that seems to come with toddler cafe meals. Often the only option is some sort of sandwhich deal which involves sandwhiches wrapped 3 times over, fruit wrapped in plastic (usually a really sugary type eg raisins), a yoghurt crammed with sugar (and in disposable plastic), a biscuit/chocolate bar wrapped in plastic and a pack of crisps full of white carbs. All washed down with a sugary drink in a disposable carton. It drives me potty!
CMOTDibbler · 16/11/2022 10:19
When ds was at that stage of dropping things from a high chair (and note that I always bought all his food from the cafe or whatever) I would ask for a dustpan and brush or use wipes to tidy up. Its just polite to the staff
piesforever · 17/11/2022 12:33
Sorry I've done this before, I'm not perfect and only human.
Citycentre3 · 17/11/2022 12:52
Before having children, I used to wonder how small children could make such a huge mess.
My job used to involve cleaning up after people, sure I used to moan to other people about cleaning up, but never ever did I complain to the customers. I used to get on with it, and never did I show my annoyance. I used to clean big big messes, on carpet too. Not so easy.
Who knew I could have just huffed and puffed at the customer and asked them to clean it instead? That would of saved hours of my time.
Years later, now that I am the one with small children, I expect the same service in return, and if ever I am met with rude or snide comments about mess, it literally triggers flashbacks of me on my hands and knees scrubbing away quietly, cleaning up after young children that weren't my own.
So no I would not be able to hide my annoyance, if it was good enough for me during my working life, it is good enough for others. It is part of their job to clean up, let them get on with it. If anyone would ever challenge me, I would literally tell them this story. Don't want to clean up after others? Get a new job simple!
The shoe has been on the other foot for me, so I can see both sides, but it is a part of life that small children create big messes, it is what you sign up for when agreeing to cater for young children.
Citycentre3 · 17/11/2022 12:52
Before having children, I used to wonder how small children could make such a huge mess.
My job used to involve cleaning up after people, sure I used to moan to other people about cleaning up, but never ever did I complain to the customers. I used to get on with it, and never did I show my annoyance. I used to clean big big messes, on carpet too. Not so easy.
Who knew I could have just huffed and puffed at the customer and asked them to clean it instead? That would of saved hours of my time.
Years later, now that I am the one with small children, I expect the same service in return, and if ever I am met with rude or snide comments about mess, it literally triggers flashbacks of me on my hands and knees scrubbing away quietly, cleaning up after young children that weren't my own.
So no I would not be able to hide my annoyance, if it was good enough for me during my working life, it is good enough for others. It is part of their job to clean up, let them get on with it. If anyone would ever challenge me, I would literally tell them this story. Don't want to clean up after others? Get a new job simple!
The shoe has been on the other foot for me, so I can see both sides, but it is a part of life that small children create big messes, it is what you sign up for when agreeing to cater for young children.
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