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to ask views on the 5-year-old cycling and Sajid Javid video?

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allswellthatends · 15/11/2022 03:03

Maybe this has been debated to death already because the story came out Nov 11 but it's not showing up on search here. A dad's helmet camera catches a driver passing his 5yo by what he felt was too close, and Sajid Javid and Jeremy Vine got into a disagreement about what the driver should have done.

I live in London and I think (hope) I'm very good with cyclists if only because I'm not usually in a rush. Also I cycle, and my children cycle more. And I'm used to the countryside rule of not coming too close to horse riders . In this particular case, a small child, I would have stopped completely or slowed to a crawl.

Still, London roads are very narrow, traffic is generally quite slow-moving anyway, and so observing a 1.5m distance isn't always practical. It seemed to me that it also makes a difference if the driver is coming towards the cyclist (who can therefore see the car) or from behind (which as a cyclist I find much more unnerving). The type of cyclist in general: 20-35 year-old racing steadily, I'm less worried than with a shaky-ish person on a heavy rental bike; I'll stop for a cyclist panting uphill. I totally get why my fellow-cyclists don't always stop for red lights: sometimes it's safer to go first while the cars are forced to stop, and also it's bad to lose your momentum and your balance. Then again I LOATHE those cargo bikes where parents move very slowly in a vehicle that blocks the full road, with precious cargo, but commonly at school/work rush hour. And cyclists who don't wear reflective gear and lights at night are idiots IMHO. (Actually so are pedestrians. Don't you folks realise that even to the most careful driver you're basically invisible?)

I kind of want to hear some thoughtful real-world practices from my fellow drivers and cyclists and parents.

OP posts:
Devoutspoken · 16/11/2022 11:33

The poster implied some risks are unavoidable, ie travelling with kids in cars, that's simply not true

CecilyP · 16/11/2022 11:35

So your kids never travel in anybody's car? Fair enough!

Lunar270 · 16/11/2022 11:42

CecilyP · 16/11/2022 10:52

Seriously?
Are you suggesting that 9 recorded cycling deaths under the age of 15 is difficult to quantify? I accept that the exact number of children cycling is unknown (despite us all seeing them around us) but 9 deaths vs millions of children between 5-15?
That some excuse there.
I think it's pretty obvious that the percentages would be low.

I seriously think you have completely misunderstood. Of course it's not hard to quantify a base number. It's not deaths in relation to how many million children there are in the UK. It's death's in relation to how many miles those same children will have travelled in motorised vehicles compared to how many miles they would have cycled. In terms of children aged 5 to 9, the answer would be - not many!

The discussion I was linking figures for was for cyclists vs pedestrians.

I've obviously ended up cross arguments so no worries. Although comparing miles is a bit difficult and a can of worms really, given you can't cycle on motorways and most cyclists aren't riding on A roads but towns and cities.

It's too easy to skew results to suit an argument but would be interested to hear how you can meaningfully compare.

CecilyP · 16/11/2022 11:47

Comparing miles travelled or time spent doing the activity is the only meaningful comparison. Might be harder to quantify than base numbers but that is all.

CreatingHavoc · 16/11/2022 11:48

OneTC · 16/11/2022 10:13

Yeah I agree. The big lesson as he says is the terrible driving, but we didn't need a driving instructor to point that out.

What I don't agree with is good opinion, which is no more valid than anyone else's, that the father was to blame.

The dad and the kid were acting within the law, the driver was not. That's the whole story. You may think it's stupid, anyone is entitled to think it's a stupid thing to do. But there was no reason for the driver to endanger the child, you can see the driver hesitate as they get to the point they could have stopped and he cracked on. He had no idea the kid was 5 years old, kid could have been 8, kid could have been obviously an adult and it still would have been shit driving that unduly risked someone's life

Oh absolutely, the driver broke the law, therefore was at fault. Just wouldn't have told my kid to carry on in the father's situation.

Lunar270 · 16/11/2022 11:55

CecilyP · 16/11/2022 11:47

Comparing miles travelled or time spent doing the activity is the only meaningful comparison. Might be harder to quantify than base numbers but that is all.

Sorry but I don't agree.

Someone doing all their driving on a motorway can't even be compared to another driver doing all their miles on A roads or in cities.

Each scenario is more dangerous than the other and for different people inside or outside the vehicle.

It's a meaningless measure in the same way that a cyclist might only ever ride on the pavement or cycle paths. Another traveling the same distance could be on the road only.

Either way, do you have any numbers to compare distance vs accidents for any mode of transport?

Devoutspoken · 16/11/2022 11:59

Cecilyp, I think you misunderstood. Parents have rather ignorantly been criticised on this thread for taking what are deemed avoidable risks with their kids, whilst car travel has been deemed unavoidable, that's what I don't agree with. Its a car centric vew.

CapMarvel · 16/11/2022 12:07

CecilyP · 16/11/2022 08:20

Again, you have not taken into account the shear number of person/miles travelled in motor vehicles each year compared to the number of person/miles travelled on bikes.

I have.

OneTC · 16/11/2022 12:17

Lunar270 · 16/11/2022 11:55

Sorry but I don't agree.

Someone doing all their driving on a motorway can't even be compared to another driver doing all their miles on A roads or in cities.

Each scenario is more dangerous than the other and for different people inside or outside the vehicle.

It's a meaningless measure in the same way that a cyclist might only ever ride on the pavement or cycle paths. Another traveling the same distance could be on the road only.

Either way, do you have any numbers to compare distance vs accidents for any mode of transport?

Nah when you're looking for an an overall view of each mode of transport then you need to reflect how they're actually used. Motorways adding on millions of accident free miles is factual.

I can't be bothered to find urban and suburban figures

theworldhas · 16/11/2022 12:23

@CreatingHavoc

Oh absolutely, the driver broke the law, therefore was at fault. Just wouldn't have told my kid to carry on in the father's situation.

IMO a problem with the driving tests at the moment is that there’s always a big deal made about drivers “making good/sufficient progress” on the road, doing exactly the speed limit etc . It’s a pretty dangerous mentality to feed young inexperienced drivers, particularly in light of the increasing number of cyclists on some roads.

CecilyP · 16/11/2022 12:41

Either way, do you have any numbers to compare distance vs accidents for any mode of transport?

Personally, no although I'm sure they are somewhere. And I am not going to wade through pages of statistics to find out. However, I am quite prepared to accept OneTC's assertion.

Cycling is genuinely 15x more likely to kill you than going in a car, per billion miles traveled. Both figures make the chance of it actually happening To You pretty favourable odds though

CecilyP · 16/11/2022 12:43

I have.

Certainly wasn't obvious from anything you have posted.

misssunshine4040 · 16/11/2022 12:50

Devoutspoken · 16/11/2022 08:26

Missunshine - you have a very carcentric view of the world, driving your kids in cars is not 'almost completely unavoidable', if you don't have a car.

No I have a realistic view

misssunshine4040 · 16/11/2022 12:54

Devoutspoken · 16/11/2022 11:59

Cecilyp, I think you misunderstood. Parents have rather ignorantly been criticised on this thread for taking what are deemed avoidable risks with their kids, whilst car travel has been deemed unavoidable, that's what I don't agree with. Its a car centric vew.

Of course you don't have to take your kids in a car, however the majority do. That's reality not car centric
Putting vulnerable small children in trailers and having them cycle on dangerous roads is just idiotic and unnecessary.
Wait till they are older and physically more capable of being able to survive an accident

XelaM · 16/11/2022 13:04

Ducksinthebath · 15/11/2022 06:58

Totally lost me at the red light point. The rules of the road apply to cyclists just as much as anyone else. If stopping would cause a loss of balance then insufficient breaking distance is being allowed for.

Seems to me cyclists want to have their cake and eat it too.

THIS!!!!!! Cyclists who go through red lights are absolute tools. It drives me insane and is definitely NOT safe. The rules of the road apply to all!!

CecilyP · 16/11/2022 13:34

Wait till they are older and physically more capable of being able to survive an accident.

It's not so much able to survive an accident but to have sufficient road sense that they don't have an accident in the first place. Although this DC seems to have more sense than his dad.

OneTC · 16/11/2022 13:44

Wait till they are older and physically more capable of being able to survive an accident.

I don't think there's a cut of age for that unfortunately

misssunshine4040 · 16/11/2022 13:47

OneTC · 16/11/2022 13:44

Wait till they are older and physically more capable of being able to survive an accident.

I don't think there's a cut of age for that unfortunately

Maybe not but 5 is ridiculous

Devoutspoken · 16/11/2022 13:52

Miss sunshine, plenty of folk think transporting kids everywhere in a car is 'idiotic and unnecessary', is it really necessary to throw around insults on anonymous forums?

OneTC · 16/11/2022 14:07

misssunshine4040 · 16/11/2022 13:47

Maybe not but 5 is ridiculous

In your opinion, and therefore you probably shouldn't do it. It's your choice.

Although I think the child is vulnerable I think he's going to be vulnerable for the next however many years he rides a bike for, that's not going to change, there won't come an acceptable point at which to encourage them to risk death BUT I think it's important to remember what the actual risk is. A billion miles is a whole lot and 26 people died on bikes PER BILLION miles, that's a vanishingly small chance of it being one of your miles. It's very unlucky for the 26 obviously, but it really doesn't mean it's likely to happen to you.

The motorcycle deaths are way more interesting I think but funny how we don't hear barely a peep of it in the press.

These figures a bit different from what I found earlier but this is the first link that came up, still gives bikes as being 10x more dangerous

to ask views on the 5-year-old cycling and Sajid Javid video?
misssunshine4040 · 16/11/2022 14:08

Devoutspoken · 16/11/2022 13:52

Miss sunshine, plenty of folk think transporting kids everywhere in a car is 'idiotic and unnecessary', is it really necessary to throw around insults on anonymous forums?

?? Idiotic is hardly insulting when you are talking about risking the life of a 5 year old kid is it.
The majority of the Uk population transport their kids in cars that's a fact not an opinion.
My opinion is that someone who puts their child in more harms way than necessary is an idiot yes

OneTC · 16/11/2022 14:10

Also worth noting that being a pedestrian is about 10x more dangerous than driving, which ties into the conversation we were having earlier, cycling and peds getting merked at the same rate

OneTC · 16/11/2022 14:12

In people's minds I bet they think they being a pedestrian is safer than cycling, it seems completely logical that not riding a bike would be safer and whilst it's better in terms of injuries it's equally as dangerous in terms of fatalities.

Devoutspoken · 16/11/2022 16:08

Missunshine - Yes, the word idiot, is generally seen as an insult, and certainly not a great demonstration of your debating powers

misssunshine4040 · 16/11/2022 16:23

OneTC · 16/11/2022 14:12

In people's minds I bet they think they being a pedestrian is safer than cycling, it seems completely logical that not riding a bike would be safer and whilst it's better in terms of injuries it's equally as dangerous in terms of fatalities.

We are talking about little children not the general public and pedestrians v cycling.

I think it's great that people are cycling more but little children and infants should not be on the roads on bikes. Even the cycling charities advise this.

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