I’m starting a new thread as advised by some posters and because the first thread was a great source of support for me (link to first thread here).
Long story short - DS (16) is in a “relationship” with a woman 11 years older than him that I believe started before he turned 16 at the end of July, though they both denied that to police and SS. I tried everything I could think of to stop it but he walked out of the house to stay with her at the end of September and I’m struggling to maintain contact with him. I’ve barely been able to see or speak to him since he left. She has shown very controlling behaviour and he is slowly becoming isolated from me, his friends and hobbies etc. Social services are currently involved, doing an assessment, but have already said it’s very difficult to do much without him consenting to input/intervention so I think they’re trying to prepare me for a poor outcome of the assessment. I am trying to focus on keeping my relationship with him going and ensuring he knows I’m here whenever he needs me and can come home whenever he needs no questions asked.
AIBU?
To think someone must be able to do something - part two
PurpleLampShades · 14/11/2022 19:22
PurpleLampShades · 18/11/2022 18:04
The sw said he scores low on the CSE risk assessment they’ve done and obviously doesn’t meet section 47 thresholds so they have no significant child protection concerns. There are some concerns about the relationship dynamics and the fact he’s withdrawing from me, friends etc. so they want to refer him to services that will help him learn how to recognise unhealthy relationship dynamics and establish healthier boundaries. They also want to put something in place to help us maintain our relationship, keep him at college and keep him from getting isolated. She is seeing DS on Monday for a final chat because he’s told her he won’t be attending the meeting and thinks the whole thing is stupid. Sw is hopeful that he can be persuaded to attend and engage with services. Deep down I know he won’t attend or engage in any counselling or therapy or whatever it is they want him to do, but I’m trying to hope I’m wrong. I’m hoping maybe something from when he was 15 might come up and maybe trigger something that can be done but I know that’s unlikely. I probably need to start preparing myself that nothing is going to be done and this situation will just continue like it is.
I’ve tried to have a conversation with him about money. He says he needs more money so he can contribute to bills etc. without having to leave college to get a job.
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