I'm beautiful and it's terrible

[ToesandToads]

It's not really is it?

I've seen a few women commenting that being beautiful is to be harassed and abused so it's rubbish to be beautiful.

That's not my experience.

I have never been harassed.

I've never been bothered at all.

I don't get followed. Touched.

I'm not saying that men are delightful. They're not. But they don't bother me.

And never have.

I am beautiful though.

Correct.

When I was younger, like 14-22, I was beautiful and got harassed all the time.

It's almost like people have different experiences.

Being attractive is a big bonus in life
Complaining about being atttactive is like complaining about being wealthy ..
Why are you complaining about something that can give you a leg up in life?

Everything in the world has its downsides but be honest with yourself, would you prefer the alternative? to be ugly/unattractive/disfigured?
Didnt think so..

Like others have said here..
you can get harrassed by men no matter what you look like..
Even if you are "ugly", people will still bully you/be unkind/be jealous of you..
These are not problems exclusive to being attractive, so the argument doesnt make any sense

My theory is that if you are attractive your whole life and youve made it a core part of your personality, you might attribute all negative experiences to being attractive
When thats not always the case..
I have met some attractive people with horrible personalities and im sure they would say "people are mean/jealous to me because im beautiful"
No maybe its because youre a bxtch!
Ive also met attractive people who are lovely people and dont seem to relate everything in their life back to their looks ..
Maybe they are more introspective or humble?

And i have been on both sides of the fence, before i had depression and gained alot of weight
Life was alot kinder to me, people are nicer to you , opportunities were thrown at me that i didnt deserve more than the next person
People always want to be your friend
i even got away with saying and doing things that i wouldnt now..

Humans are attracted to and feel positive towards things that are aesthetically pleasing and they reject things that are not so, its just the way life is

So i say if you are attractive, relish in it and enjoy it whilst you can

🙄

OP sounds like a right TW*T ( that's twit if admin are checking 🤓)

I guess the definition of harassment comes from the advances being unwanted and they find them offensive. If the OP is ok with the way she has been addressed by men throughout her life then she may not feel she's ever been harassed. Either that or she's in the 99.9% of women who haven't had some vile man try to do or say things that they do not consent to.

Nooo, if a man posted on here saying “I’m so beautiful, tall and spiky” he’s get a similar ribbing. I don’t think it’s gender related!

OP is also a C u next tuesday 😁

This has to be a joke

This!

You can say cunt if you want @Daisychainsx

Sorry!
@Dalekjastninerels

I always felt that men felt emboldened to harass me because i wasn’t particularly attractive so you may have a point.

Ditto for twat @Bs0u416d

I'm sure you are.

Well done you and for starting a TAAT (s). I've seen the posts you're basing your thread on. I don't think that's very pleasant thing to do.

If you haven't experienced any of that then you're incredibly lucky, beautiful or not. I worked as a hair model in the late 90s and skincare/makeup (rather than fashion as I never grew tall enough at approx 5ft 6). Luckily nothing serious happened (unless you count being followed) but I've always had trouble with men, even the staring now annoys me. The general harassment will presumably stop with old age, and it's already lessened slightly I think hope

Nope it's nothing to do with not been English, this indeed is a very particular post !

@ToesandToads
Your first post reads like you are annoyed or jealous and wish you had been harassed , groped, followed.

No there definitely is a ‘traditional’ standard of beauty. It’s not ‘fashionable’ as such, but more to do with symmetry, appearing healthy and fertile. Which is indicated by slimness, long healthy looking hair, good teeth etc.

Of course that’s not everyone’s type, but people with certain traits will have a broader and less niche appeal.

Glad you're happy with the way you look. Society is still much too eager to encourage women to dislike ourselves, or to be 'modest', hide our lights under a bushel and be nice girls.

Unfortunately, it's also keen to instill in us that physical appearance is the be all and end all, particularly if you're female, and to downplay the far more important, productive contributions we make to society. If looks are what we value above all, we have a very short window indeed before life disappoints us in a serious way.

None of the above has anything to do with the male harassment of women which pervades our society. I'm not sure where you are making the link, nor why you've started this thread, or why it seems to downplay a serious social malaise. Badly done, OP.

Am I reading a different OP to everyone else?

@ToesandToads had as the title I'm beautiful and it's terrible and then goes on immediately to say " It's not really is it? I've seen a few women commenting that being beautiful is to be harassed and abused so it's rubbish to be beautiful. That's not my experience." So she is saying being beautiful is not really something to moan about.

And we have all seen threads/posts where people have said "Woe is me, being beautiful is such a hardship". So she is questioning this viewpoint. ANd it is a viewpoint that makes me roll my eyes and go FFS.

OK, so @ToesandToads has not experienced harrassment because of her beauty. Maybe she has a kickarse attitude that makes arsehole harrassers wary. And I think we would all agree the harrassers are misogonystic cunts - harrassing for power over women, not due to asthetics.

So she is saying please, beautiful people, stop bewailing being beautiful as being "awful as you are harrassed". The two are not necessarily linked. And beauty does confer advantages...

Pic please

@PantyMcPantFace Spot on IMO.

I've always been told I'm beautiful through my life but never been harrassed or fondled either, but I've never been skinny so maybe that's it? Always been around a size 12 and tallish so maybe don't look as easy prey for the perverts.
Happy and relieved it hasn't happened and hate that other women go through it.

Your comments are ugly hassling OP for daring to say she's beautiful.

OPs comments appear to be based on some posts on another thread about appearance, where women are regularly followed and harassed. I think that's out of order and a TAAT quite possibly.

This thread is just 'But I'm beautiful and that hasn't happened to me'. Nothing more.