Cleaner had her DC there with her today

[changinglanesagain]

I've had my cleaned for about 3 months. She's really good. I really like her work

Anyway, I gave her a key last week and today I popped home for lunch unexpectedly. She had her DD there with her...

Apparently it's a teacher training day for them and so her DD had to come too. I asked why she couldn't reschedule to do another date or even better, come this evening?

She said she couldn't come this evening due to her DS coming home, he's disabled, and she'd just much rather not let me down for my allocated day so thought she'd just being DD along

I said okay... and that was that

AIBU to think she should've asked my permission first?

So not to drip feed, she was sat at my dining table doing colouring and had a few toys out

Our cleaner used to bring her daughter and I liked it, we used to play while her mum worked, it was nice. I always thought being able to bring a kid along must be a perk of being a cleaner, she wasn't distracting her mum or causing a problem so it wouldn't bother me, I'd probably have liked to know that it was happening though xx

Yes I agree

It is a common courtesy

I think you need to get over yourself tbh.

I wouldnt have minded the child coming occasionally but Id rather know before hand if someone is coming in to my house. Im very private in general though, so maybe those that dont mind have more of an open house policy? We're all different, and the right to privacy of our home is a fundamental right, so if you want to know who is being let in to your home then that is your right and absolutely fine @changinglanesagain

You can tell it’s Friday night on here!

She should have asked, OP. Not sure if anyone’s mentioned insurance. What happens if the little one breaks something? Or hurts herself on something in your home? I wouldn’t like it myself and would be looking for someone else.

Sat at the table ?? Cheek of it, should have shoved her up the chimney - lazy kids

Why do I get the impression a few people on here seem to think that cleaners are second class citizens? I have my own very successful cleaning business, I also have very respectful and well mannered children. They always sit at a table to eat and would never put feet on furniture, they aren't dragged up just because I choose to clean for other people. If I had to take either of them to work when they were younger, yes I would have asked first but my clients are all so lovely I'm sure it would never have been a problem.

OP, I think on this occasion YABU. The child was sitting colouring, she wasn't jumping all over your furniture and trashing your house. Maybe your cleaner should have asked first but sometimes things happen, she could have been let down for last minute child care. I only hope you didn't make her feel any worse than she must've felt already.

@ExtraOnions 🤣

How old is the DD? I'd be concerned about her possibly having an accident if left unsupervised in a strange house, especially if the house isn't childproof. Cleaner presumably has her own insurance, but it wouldn't cover a child who was there without client's knowledge or consent.

Yeah unsupervised colouring is a massive dangerous issue! She may have gone over the lines and everything.

It happened to me once. I got them going on the PlayStation and everyone got on with their day.

Yes, you are totally right

Crazy bat shit posts on here ! She could have messaged but hey ho. If your house is clean then no problem.

Wind the internet today!

*wins

Exactly! It’s nothing to do with snobbery , etc., it’s just normal politeness to ask whether you can bring your child to your workplace.

I’ve occasionally brought my children to work and it’s been fine-but I’ve always asked first.

I think she knew she did wrong by not asking first because she didn't wait to be paid when the jobs were done, she left quite quickly with a quick goodbye

She didn't ask for your blessing?!!! Blessing? wtf. She still came, did her job and the child who is also disabled sat and coloured, oh my god I wish I had problems like this 🙄

😂

Her DD isn't disabled. Please don't mislead the thread like that

But I’m hoping you did insist on paying her, or will be paying her next time she cleans??

@changinglanesagain

''Seems odd she wouldn't ask for my blessing''

Are you the Pope?

Ask for your BLESSING? My goodness, I'm surprised people even register things like this. Sitting at your table colouring, the humanity!

Because she sensed your nastiness? Have you paid her now?

Same happened to me, although I wasn't aware until I noticed cut marks on a silk table covering - I'd left a pair of dress making scissors out.

I made a mental note not to leave anything sharp out in future.