Guys why is everything so simplistic? Why does everybody seem to be saying to split up? I’m afraid by doing just that you solve one problem but open up 50 more.
think - if you split, first of all your kids are going to be spending time with the wretched woman. How yuck. Second of all why give precedence to the love over your stability and relationship. So he found some sexual attraction. So what. Big deal. In different cultures this is dealt with very differently. Examples in Somalian culture, men are actually expected to be a bit disgusting and seek sexual stimulation, so the women just look at each other and yawn. They kind of expected. The problem with our society is that we actually put a lot of importance of being disrespected.
Perhaps it’s not as simplistic as people seem to think. Perhaps this was an infatuation, that has run its course. Or that will run its course very soon. I don’t wanna confuse you, but life is not as simple as kick somebody out and they get on to have the most wonderful life with a new partner. I mean the guy’s been fancying a psychopath, only a psychopath could possibly be doing that to her own husband and her own children. The lady totally lacks empathy. Would you want your kids spending time with that low life?
at least when your kids are really fully grown, I’m not coming back on holidays from university et cetera done that might be a better time to kick him out if you were ever going to.
I suppose in your situation I would tell the man to man up. To come out clean with the truth, no matter how disgusting. Then I will inform him that it is really sad that he is seeking this sort of escapism and that his actions are utterly immature. I would talk about the importance of having a family for the sake of the children. And I suppose if ultimately at that point he does not man up and become honest and actually commit to honesty on a bigger scale, then you have a decision to make. Being separated means that you are still entitled to half of his pension. I wonder if he ever thought that one out. It’s actually in your interest to be separated till the end of his working career. So that he can spend his fashionable years on half a pension with his by then aged and used young sorry aged thing.
Anyhow don’t agonise too much, it can absolutely wreck your brains. And remember his lady is utterly gross as a person to be able to do that. No amount of love or lust would make me take my pants off if somebody was married and committed. Yuck, yuck, gross. And you on the other hand, are in every sense the winner, you just don’t see it yet.
The fabulous thing is even if they were to get together because they deceived other people they would start to suspect each other of cheating and lying. They will never be happy. 😊 most importantly don’t give the brief sexual attraction any more thought. It was short, it was sweet and it was utterly disgusting. Are you on the other hand got to build up a family. You are the champion. You have had the significant part of this man, and she’s only going to have used up yucky bits. An immature imbecile that needs an ego boost. You’ve got the best years of him.