Dropping and collecting 18 year old to part time work..a mile away.

[aldischristmas]

My 18 year old is still at school.We are in the ROI.She works most weekends for a few hours on Saturday and Sunday.Those hours can be morning or evening but she expects a lift to and from work and is quite nasty when i complain at having to stay up to collect her at unsociable hours.I felt completely justified in saying no when I am not free as I have other kids and am a single parent.She earns plenty so could easily afford a taxi and she also has her Dad closeby, who is pretty useless but she won't even ask him. I was talking to one of my closest friends who then told me that she was changing her entire wekend plans because her own 18 year old daughter needed to be dropped and collected to/from work. AIBU to think this is absolutley ridiculous that our lives are now revolving around our 18 year olds needing lifts to and from work.I am beginning to think that we are our own worst enemies.

The risk is tiny though, in the real world.

She's an adult. If she doesn't feel safe walking a mile (!) then she can get a bike, or learn to drive or get a cab.

Something bad could happen to her anytime, pushing the “imagine how you’d feel” line is appalling emotional blackmail. If it’s such a dodgy area she really shouldn’t be walking alone, offering a lift is one way to go but another is to simply tell her it’s too dangerous and she shouldn’t do the job.

Yeah, and imagine how you'd feel if you picked her up, then crashed the car and killed her! Also a possibility!