What would do at 49 if …..

[Mumof3teenagers]

….. you found out you were pregnant and your youngest was 14 years old?
I Had a pregnancy scare recently, I’m peri-menopausal, so period did arrive but very late.
It got me thinking, what would I do and I still don’t know!
So just putting it out there….what would you do?

Have a termination, unquestionably. I'm 51 and my youngest is 14 too. My last pregnancy left me with permanent blood pressure problems and threw me into a longish period of awful health anxiety. Ds had to have surgery at 5 days old. There is no way on earth I was going to go through another pregnancy after that - I would have had a termination at 38, never mind 49.

Plus I'm now back to working full time in a job I really like, my dc are more independent. No way would I do the baby stage again! It gives me the heebie jeebies just thinking about it tbh. I occasionally have a nightmare that I'm pregnant, and wake in a cold sweat!

I’d have an abortion. Wouldn’t think twice. My youngest is 5, I’m close to 40 so I’d be the same age and I’d rather lose an eye than have another baby now, never mind in ten years time!

Oh congratulations. You are going to be amazing.

I just turned 49 and the very thought of getting pregnant is horrific. I had my first child when I was 20 and my second at 22 then I became a grandparent at 41. I would terminate without hesitation. I can’t think of anything worse than my grandson saying to people that his Nana is going to have a baby!

Thank you so much 🥰

I’d be over the moon

This. I think.

Fuck that.

I'm 49 and it would be my idea of hell!

I'm 49, went through menopause at 44 but we have only recently started not using contraception and its really making me wonder what I'd do.
Youngest dd is 12, I work with little ones and I don't feel a day over 20.

I say in my head I would terminate but in my heart I'm not sure I could.

Similar here @TarquinOliverNimrod , and life is wonderful. Yes I'm knackered but I have never been so happy. Many congratulations and enjoy your little boy.

I'm 33 with a 14 nearly 15 year old and I would terminate if I got pregnant now, let alone at 49! Couldn't imagine anything worse.

I honestly dont think anyone can answer properly until it has happened them.

Of course they can. It's very easy to know for a fact that you absolutely aren't going to have any more children, whether you got pregnant or not.
We're not idiot women who can't possibly tell our own minds

I know for a fact there’s no way on earth I’d be having a baby at this age. So yes, I know without doubt I’d abort.

At 49, my only child will be 31. I can say without any shadow of a doubt that I would not be having another child with a 31 year age gap.

Well I can, and there is no way I would be having a baby at 49years old.

I’d terminate. I’ve always been in the ‘pro choice but I couldn’t have an abortion’ camp and had my children quite young as a consequence. Now, with actual experience of what it is like to raise children through the various stages and with various hardships, I couldn’t do it again in my 50s and 60s.
It’s a young woman’s game, and I don’t have the energy to be the mother any child deserves.
I’m ready to be the best nana on the planet though!

I'd terminate. My only is 12 and I don't want anymore.

I would feel like I didn't have a choice and would have the baby. If I ended up having a miscarriage, I'd probably be relieved. Being honest.

I'd terminate, without a second thought.

I'd terminate without a nano second's thought. Absolutely.

Urgh. Zombie.

Are you sure the baby wasn’t one of her (unmarried) daughter’s?