If you are a SAHP why?

[cattyfranny]

Currently I am a SAHM, I am studying at Uni and I volunteer but I don’t have a paid job (I have a 2 yr old home and 7 yr old at school)

When I meet new people they assume that I have been “forced” into this position either because childcare costs are too high or crazily that my DH asked me to stay home! They seem to think it’s unthinkable to choose to be a SAHM 🤷‍♀️

If you are at home with your children, did you willingly choose to do it? Would you prefer to be at work? Why are you a SAHP?

Im disabled and so are my kids. No real choice

Yeah I dont believe in sex based roles.

I believe in equal parenting

If you feel strongly about that definition of equal parenting Topgub, you can't help it. I felt very strongly about focusing on my children.

If you feel strongly about that definition of equal parenting Topgub, you can't help it. I felt very strongly about focusing on my children

Yes, Its all about what works within the specific household.
Its also down to choice, which is a very personal thing.
To blanketly tell people what is best for their household or their children is ridiculous and narrow minded.

What is possible for us, may not be possible for another and visa versa.

What i deem best for my child will be different for others.

Lets just appreciate we all work damn hard to do the best for our children in every way we can, wether that be the same or different to others.

Did both, really wish i could be SAH now with teenagers!!! Well, they would be out and about, but in and out at different college/school times and it's lovely to be here and spend 1:1 time with the older ones when I finish early at work. To be honest, I'm seriously considering packing in my job and setting myself up as a dog walker/ general helper/shopping/cleaner :)😃

@GerronBuzanDoThaWomwok
I agree it is great being home with the older ones. My oldest DC are at university and I love when they come home and we can go out for the day when the younger ones are at school or just mooch about at home together. I really appreciate that time with them.

Due to my husbands work pattern and my sons care needs, I'm a stay at home mum.

I would work part time in a heartbeat for some normality but I'm the only person here for the kids with my husband being away and I can't find hours that would work around dds nursery hours without me/husband paying a fortune for extra days.

I used all my carers allowance to send dd to nursery 2 afternoons for a break before her funding kicked in.

@SleepingStandingUp
you said you're both SAHP so did you both give up work and survive on benefits in order to both voluntarily be at home? Or you've come into money so don't need to, been forced into it for care reasons etc?

No benefits - a modest investment income and a couple of rentals. My husband took early retirement and I spent a few years caring for one then the other of my elderly parents so by the time we thought about my going back to work we both decided to stay home. I wouldn't have been a SAHP if I couldn't have been self sufficient.

DH is a SAHD because he doesn't like working!

I chose it.

I was a corporate lawyer and if I had returned to work I never would have seen my son. We would have needed a full time nanny. I didn’t have a baby only to then pay somebody else to take care of him.

Bit shit that

Because I'm in a fortunate position where I can be. I like doing housework anyway and doing the 'life admin' and looking after ds.
Dh works very hard for us and wants me to be a sahp. He appreciates the work I do and vice versa.