Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Skidding Car - friend's husband today "couldn't resist the opportunity"

544 replies

alwaysmovingforwards · 05/11/2022 19:02

Sorry, bit of a long one..

I flew back to the UK today and my friend's husband had kindly agreed to give me a lift home from the airport. Such a lovely gesture - saves me either a hefty taxi bill or 2+hrs on public transport. My friend lives close to me and her husband owns companies on the industrial estates near the airport , so he's always doing that route. I get on really well with both of them and their family, they're all lovely people, seem very happy and lead a very nice lifestyle. It was my friend who made the offer and we arranged a couple of weeks ago, he then followed up on text to say it's no problem just let him flight details etc which I did.

Anyway, we arranged for me to get the airport bus 10mins to the long stay carpark to avoid the airport fees, which makes sense. So I get there and he arrives shortly after. It's a massive carpark and pretty much empty so he pulls up right next to the little shelter thing, we say hi, he gives me a hand putting my bag in the boot and I get in and buckle up. As we pull away I'm saying thank you and was about to ask how everyone is, but he's smiling and says "sorry, just can't resist the opportunity..."

He then accelerates his car really quickly, turns and the whole car starts skidding sideways! The engine sounds incredibly loud and must be revving right up to full power and we're literally sliding on the wet carpark in a big circle, totally terrifying. I don't know if he was in control because the steering wheel was moving around quickly but didn't seem to correlate with the direction of the car. It's one of the most shocking things I've ever experienced and I don't like roller coasters etc.

He then slows, chuckles "just couldn't resist it" again and calmly drives to the barriers, exits smoothly towards the motorway, puts the radio on and then casually starts asking how my trip was.. as if that whole thing didn't happen! I tried to speak on the way home, to be polite and make small talk, but in all honesty I was feeling very ill and my legs were shaky 40mins later when he dropped me off.

Should I tell my friend what an abolosute idiot her husband actually is? On one had I really appreciate the gesture of giving me a lift and value our friendship, but on the other this was an incredibly dangerous and shocking incident she should be aware of.

It's so weird, because up until now I thought he was a really nice guy. But I just can't see him in the same way any more. I know he likes fast cars because she's told me that the stables at their house have been converted into garages and he has various cars in there. I've been in the car with him before and he's been a really good confident driver, very safe and smooth. He's in his early 50s FFS!

To make matters worse, I called my parents when home to say hi after my trip. I spoke to my Dad as even though he's in his 70s, he knows lots about cars and I explained what happened and he sort of laughed and said "well, once every now and again, why not eh..."
Seriously WTF?!?

So AIBU to be so shocked and upset by this? I still feel nauseous now.

Or is there a weird parallel universe I've just discovered where respectable, responsible, grown arse men with kids and wives and businesses, that should know better, see it as perfectly acceptable to be doing skidding and sliding and loud engine revving in their cars?

OP posts:
Crispyturtle · 05/11/2022 20:12

Please please please sit his wife down to break the earth-shattering news to her that her husband likes to throw wheelies in empty car parks, and let us know how that goes 😂😂

HulaHoop31 · 05/11/2022 20:12

This reply has been deleted

Not in the spirit

😂😂😂

ThirtyThreeTrees · 05/11/2022 20:12

Immaturity and drama takes many forms. Not sure which of you is worse but you both score highly in this instance.

diddl · 05/11/2022 20:12

Why not do it before Op got in the car?

Twat!

Well, he'd have been a vomit covered twat if he'd done that with me in the car!

silverbubbles · 05/11/2022 20:13

I can't believe the responses on here!! i would be totally gobsmacked if someone did this unless they were a 17 yr old boy racer /joyrider.

Sounds like a total knob

BatCheeseIsFine · 05/11/2022 20:15

Bloody hell OP you’re getting a terrible time here, I would have HATED this and I’m not some wide-eyed sheltered ingenue and I’m sure you’re not. He didn’t ask you. He did it to you and it was a power trip and he enjoyed scaring you, or at least thought he was being big and clever and didn’t give a shit if it upset you. There are people who could be seriously traumatised or made ill by that for a number of reasons, and it is not OK.

BatshitBanshee · 05/11/2022 20:15

Are you always so dramatic OP? Here's those pearls you dropped from clutching them so hard. Please do tell friend about her donut skidding empty car park loving husband, I'm only dying to know what she says - mostly about her friend who is more fit for a stage than a passenger seat.

YABU and a bit of a twat to give your post that title because you knew exactly what you were doing when you typed it.

Stephy1886 · 05/11/2022 20:15

Do you have a YouTube channel?
as you would be good at making thoes click bate titles

Sundayvibes · 05/11/2022 20:15

Bit of an immature thing to do.
Not sure my next thought would be to start a thread on this subject for attention.
weird behaviour on both parts

DriftingDora · 05/11/2022 20:16

IntentionalError · Today 20:11
YABU. And a boring killjoy.
I drive a reasonably powerful car (3 litre BMW) and I couldn’t resist the opportunity to do a few drifts in an empty car park, either. Good for him

But you told me you had a Nissan Micra?😀

KettrickenSmiled · 05/11/2022 20:17

cool story bro

Sally090807 · 05/11/2022 20:19

Long stay airport car park with enough room to do that kind of driving in, all the ones I’ve been to you have a job even finding a space.

katepilar · 05/11/2022 20:19

OP, not sure why so many are downplaying you were scared. they wouldnt like such reaction after a scary situation. interesting they all seem to know the name for the move!

Sally090807 · 05/11/2022 20:21

Crispyturtle · 05/11/2022 20:12

Please please please sit his wife down to break the earth-shattering news to her that her husband likes to throw wheelies in empty car parks, and let us know how that goes 😂😂

Wheelies, in a car…..I’d like to see that 😂😂😂😂😂

BatCheeseIsFine · 05/11/2022 20:21

Plus it’s not his private land, it’s a public space. Yes almost empty but there could still have been a child or dog suddenly run into it or something. It’s everyone’s responsibility to drive safely and minimise the chance of accidents in a shared space. Yes even if you “can’t resist” being a boy racer twat Hmm and I don’t care if that makes me a party pooper.

GreatGardenstuff · 05/11/2022 20:21

He was a bit of a dick for not giving you the chance to opt out, but that’s about it.

Charcy · 05/11/2022 20:21

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Aquamarine1029 · 05/11/2022 20:22

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

🤣🤣🤣

Viostep · 05/11/2022 20:23

People are being so unnecessarily nasty here. It clearly frightened OP and people are laughing at her. The friend's husband should have mentioned he'd love to do doughnuts in the empty carpark instead of just doing it without warning. Very silly thing to do.

Having said that, it's over now and I wouldn't say anything to the wife or do anything about it. Maybe next time you see him tell him you suffer from motion sickness and joke that he's very lucky you didn't spew all over his car. I doubt he'd do it again with that in mind 😁

Sally090807 · 05/11/2022 20:24

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Sorry but that made me laugh out loud. 😂

MadeofCheeese · 05/11/2022 20:24

I would have preferred to be asked first.

Stephy1886 · 05/11/2022 20:24

DriftingDora · 05/11/2022 20:16

IntentionalError · Today 20:11
YABU. And a boring killjoy.
I drive a reasonably powerful car (3 litre BMW) and I couldn’t resist the opportunity to do a few drifts in an empty car park, either. Good for him

But you told me you had a Nissan Micra?😀

To do it on his own is fine but with someone else who doesn’t know him is a poor show. Didn’t know she could have been a nervous passenger.

Charcy · 05/11/2022 20:24

Stephy1886 · 05/11/2022 20:15

Do you have a YouTube channel?
as you would be good at making thoes click bate titles

😅😅

Charcy · 05/11/2022 20:26

blubberyboo · 05/11/2022 19:37

Why are you querying if you need to tell his wife?
so that she can divorce him?
have him arrested?
confiscate his car keys?
put him in a time out?

wise up

😅🤣🤣 time out

SheWoreYellow · 05/11/2022 20:27

I think you maybe thought it was more dangerous than it was. So I can see why you were scared. But there was no real danger.

Swipe left for the next trending thread