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Skidding Car - friend's husband today "couldn't resist the opportunity"

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alwaysmovingforwards · 05/11/2022 19:02

Sorry, bit of a long one..

I flew back to the UK today and my friend's husband had kindly agreed to give me a lift home from the airport. Such a lovely gesture - saves me either a hefty taxi bill or 2+hrs on public transport. My friend lives close to me and her husband owns companies on the industrial estates near the airport , so he's always doing that route. I get on really well with both of them and their family, they're all lovely people, seem very happy and lead a very nice lifestyle. It was my friend who made the offer and we arranged a couple of weeks ago, he then followed up on text to say it's no problem just let him flight details etc which I did.

Anyway, we arranged for me to get the airport bus 10mins to the long stay carpark to avoid the airport fees, which makes sense. So I get there and he arrives shortly after. It's a massive carpark and pretty much empty so he pulls up right next to the little shelter thing, we say hi, he gives me a hand putting my bag in the boot and I get in and buckle up. As we pull away I'm saying thank you and was about to ask how everyone is, but he's smiling and says "sorry, just can't resist the opportunity..."

He then accelerates his car really quickly, turns and the whole car starts skidding sideways! The engine sounds incredibly loud and must be revving right up to full power and we're literally sliding on the wet carpark in a big circle, totally terrifying. I don't know if he was in control because the steering wheel was moving around quickly but didn't seem to correlate with the direction of the car. It's one of the most shocking things I've ever experienced and I don't like roller coasters etc.

He then slows, chuckles "just couldn't resist it" again and calmly drives to the barriers, exits smoothly towards the motorway, puts the radio on and then casually starts asking how my trip was.. as if that whole thing didn't happen! I tried to speak on the way home, to be polite and make small talk, but in all honesty I was feeling very ill and my legs were shaky 40mins later when he dropped me off.

Should I tell my friend what an abolosute idiot her husband actually is? On one had I really appreciate the gesture of giving me a lift and value our friendship, but on the other this was an incredibly dangerous and shocking incident she should be aware of.

It's so weird, because up until now I thought he was a really nice guy. But I just can't see him in the same way any more. I know he likes fast cars because she's told me that the stables at their house have been converted into garages and he has various cars in there. I've been in the car with him before and he's been a really good confident driver, very safe and smooth. He's in his early 50s FFS!

To make matters worse, I called my parents when home to say hi after my trip. I spoke to my Dad as even though he's in his 70s, he knows lots about cars and I explained what happened and he sort of laughed and said "well, once every now and again, why not eh..."
Seriously WTF?!?

So AIBU to be so shocked and upset by this? I still feel nauseous now.

Or is there a weird parallel universe I've just discovered where respectable, responsible, grown arse men with kids and wives and businesses, that should know better, see it as perfectly acceptable to be doing skidding and sliding and loud engine revving in their cars?

OP posts:
Travis1 · 05/11/2022 20:28

🤣🤣 FFS unclench. Dude did a donut in an empty car park. By your title I thought he’d tried to entice you into a quickie

Hugasauras · 05/11/2022 20:28

I thought it was going to be that he had groped you or something!

If it had given me a fright I'd probably just tell him at the time but I don't think it's really a massive deal. Just say 'Oi Dave, you scared the shit out of me!'.

Ginny1987 · 05/11/2022 20:29

Oh god I’m sorry but it’s so funny 🙊

Hugasauras · 05/11/2022 20:30

And sorry but this:

'spoke to my Dad as even though he's in his 70s, he knows lots about cars and I explained what happened and he sort of laughed and said "well, once every now and again, why not eh..."

made me laugh Grin

astarsheis · 05/11/2022 20:31

Bit dramatic there...given the opportunity I probably would have done a wheelie
myself.
You need to geta bit of excitement in to your life

Stephy1886 · 05/11/2022 20:31

SheWoreYellow · 05/11/2022 20:27

I think you maybe thought it was more dangerous than it was. So I can see why you were scared. But there was no real danger.

Presuming he is skilled. Also it may have been quiet but you still would have lamp posts & other things like kerbs or bollards.

it would be like me picking up my gran in my R33 then just booting it because it was quiet

Summerfun54321 · 05/11/2022 20:31

I would find this absolutely hilarious if someone’s husband picked me up from the airport and did a donut in the car park on the way to the exit 😂

WibblyWobblyTimeyWimeyStuff · 05/11/2022 20:32

I wouldn't have minded it myself, but if you didn't like it, you didn't like it @alwaysmovingforwards - and that is your right ... I would not make a big deal out of it though, you will look silly (sorry!)

zukiecat · 05/11/2022 20:33

The OP is being cruelly bullied on here. I'd have been terrified if someone did this while I was in their car.

I'm not a driver and I've never heard of a donut, but luckily the people I get into cars with are not irresponsible and would never pull a stunt like this.

No need for all the laughing at a frightened passenger.

Figrolls14 · 05/11/2022 20:33

No idea why people are pouring scorn on the op here. That would have shit me up big time and I would be very annoyed. Depends how you feel about cars and control I suppose.

Crazykatie · 05/11/2022 20:33

That’s men of any age with their big boys toys, I guess you won’t be asking for a free lift next time.
At least he didn’t make a pass at you as well.

Topsyturvy78 · 05/11/2022 20:37

I thought the same.

MsSweeney · 05/11/2022 20:37

I've never heard of a 'donut', and I wouldn't have liked it.

Moveoverdarlin · 05/11/2022 20:38

I would have genuinely paid fifty quid to see your face. I’m sat here LOLing to myself. Great click bait with the title, we all thought he was going to have lunged at you. But no, the wealthy 50 year old, business owner with stables started doing donuts. This is priceless. I’m imagining you like Hyacinth Bucket and him like Clarkson.

Oysterbabe · 05/11/2022 20:38

What a ridiculous song and dance about nothing. Yabu.

Ludo19 · 05/11/2022 20:39

Ginglymostomatidae · 05/11/2022 19:07

Did you die though?

🤣🤣🤣

BeardyButton · 05/11/2022 20:39

People are weird! This man did smt unsettling and unpleasant (to you - I’d have felt the same way) without your consent and with no warning… and you are the strange one for having a problem with that. What next the ‘boys will be boys’ line? Ffs

nzborn · 05/11/2022 20:39

I would actually love this but understand why you wouldn't.

BeardyButton · 05/11/2022 20:39

Moveoverdarlin · 05/11/2022 20:38

I would have genuinely paid fifty quid to see your face. I’m sat here LOLing to myself. Great click bait with the title, we all thought he was going to have lunged at you. But no, the wealthy 50 year old, business owner with stables started doing donuts. This is priceless. I’m imagining you like Hyacinth Bucket and him like Clarkson.

Yes! Let’s mock and laugh….

ErinAndTonic · 05/11/2022 20:40

So many clickbaity posts lately.

Shitfather · 05/11/2022 20:41

You’ve led a very privileged life if this is one of “the most shocking things” you’ve ever experienced. I’m pissing myself laughing here.

Charcy · 05/11/2022 20:41

BeardyButton · 05/11/2022 20:39

Yes! Let’s mock and laugh….

We are, don't worry 😁

MrsSirusBlack · 05/11/2022 20:41

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Freddosforall · 05/11/2022 20:43

I would hate this and think he was a total twat. I am a normal person, pretty calm and not prone to hysterics. But I find cars scary and I don't like people (especially men) doing stuff to women without warning or consent. Totally different of course if he'd said "I can't resist, how would you feel if I did a donut" and i laughed and said "go for it". Also, I'd be okay if it was Lewis Hamilton or any trained racing driver. But he was being a knob and obviously wanted to be the big man - or he'd have tried his donut out before picking up a female acquaintance and trying to impress her with his knob extension.

ChubbyMorticia · 05/11/2022 20:44

I’m Canadian. Doing doughnuts in a clear parking lot is pretty much a citizenship requirement

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