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Skidding Car - friend's husband today "couldn't resist the opportunity"

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alwaysmovingforwards · 05/11/2022 19:02

Sorry, bit of a long one..

I flew back to the UK today and my friend's husband had kindly agreed to give me a lift home from the airport. Such a lovely gesture - saves me either a hefty taxi bill or 2+hrs on public transport. My friend lives close to me and her husband owns companies on the industrial estates near the airport , so he's always doing that route. I get on really well with both of them and their family, they're all lovely people, seem very happy and lead a very nice lifestyle. It was my friend who made the offer and we arranged a couple of weeks ago, he then followed up on text to say it's no problem just let him flight details etc which I did.

Anyway, we arranged for me to get the airport bus 10mins to the long stay carpark to avoid the airport fees, which makes sense. So I get there and he arrives shortly after. It's a massive carpark and pretty much empty so he pulls up right next to the little shelter thing, we say hi, he gives me a hand putting my bag in the boot and I get in and buckle up. As we pull away I'm saying thank you and was about to ask how everyone is, but he's smiling and says "sorry, just can't resist the opportunity..."

He then accelerates his car really quickly, turns and the whole car starts skidding sideways! The engine sounds incredibly loud and must be revving right up to full power and we're literally sliding on the wet carpark in a big circle, totally terrifying. I don't know if he was in control because the steering wheel was moving around quickly but didn't seem to correlate with the direction of the car. It's one of the most shocking things I've ever experienced and I don't like roller coasters etc.

He then slows, chuckles "just couldn't resist it" again and calmly drives to the barriers, exits smoothly towards the motorway, puts the radio on and then casually starts asking how my trip was.. as if that whole thing didn't happen! I tried to speak on the way home, to be polite and make small talk, but in all honesty I was feeling very ill and my legs were shaky 40mins later when he dropped me off.

Should I tell my friend what an abolosute idiot her husband actually is? On one had I really appreciate the gesture of giving me a lift and value our friendship, but on the other this was an incredibly dangerous and shocking incident she should be aware of.

It's so weird, because up until now I thought he was a really nice guy. But I just can't see him in the same way any more. I know he likes fast cars because she's told me that the stables at their house have been converted into garages and he has various cars in there. I've been in the car with him before and he's been a really good confident driver, very safe and smooth. He's in his early 50s FFS!

To make matters worse, I called my parents when home to say hi after my trip. I spoke to my Dad as even though he's in his 70s, he knows lots about cars and I explained what happened and he sort of laughed and said "well, once every now and again, why not eh..."
Seriously WTF?!?

So AIBU to be so shocked and upset by this? I still feel nauseous now.

Or is there a weird parallel universe I've just discovered where respectable, responsible, grown arse men with kids and wives and businesses, that should know better, see it as perfectly acceptable to be doing skidding and sliding and loud engine revving in their cars?

OP posts:
WiddlinDiddlin · 05/11/2022 19:51

pewtypie · 05/11/2022 19:50

Just don’t get in a car with him again.

I know he likes fast cars because she's told me that the stables at their house have been converted into garages and he has various cars in there.

They have a very nice lifestyle with stable garages full of cars but they didn’t want to pay £5 for airport pick up and instead had you take a bus to a deserted car park? Bizarre.

I doubt the five quid has anything to do with it.

Avoiding driving around the airport with the traffic and people everwhere is smart, if theres a 10 minute bus to an empty carpark, why wouldn't you do that? No matter how rich you are!

namechanging21 · 05/11/2022 19:53

I don't know why you're getting such a hard time OP but I wouldn't have liked it either. But then I'd probably have had a meltdown if someone did this to me, I was in a fairly bad car accident a couple of years ago and can still remember the feeling of the car spinning.

dwightkurtschrute · 05/11/2022 19:54

Oh come on now 😂
what an absolute overreaction

pewtypie · 05/11/2022 19:55

WiddlinDiddlin · 05/11/2022 19:51

I doubt the five quid has anything to do with it.

Avoiding driving around the airport with the traffic and people everwhere is smart, if theres a 10 minute bus to an empty carpark, why wouldn't you do that? No matter how rich you are!

Depends on the time of day. Given the car park was deserted I doubt there would have been traffic.

And OP says car park was chosen due to cost not traffic.

ChicagoNoie · 05/11/2022 19:55

I’d seek medical attention OP

RLScott · 05/11/2022 19:57

My brother did this to me in an empty car park. I was in the back seat and it was terrifying but bloody amazing. It was a gravel surface so the car didn’t just slide it constantly jumped (my brothers drum kit was in the boot and you could hear it rattling). When it was over I was pissed off at him but laughing at the same time.

Iamgu · 05/11/2022 19:57

Meh a Donut in an empty car park (which surely you have heard of before) it's not the best but you're being over dramatic

Georgeskitchen · 05/11/2022 19:57

Bloody hell I thought he had jumped on you!!

Babasghost · 05/11/2022 19:58

He's an arsehole, endangering you.
Fuck him.
He could have done his bullshit without you in the car.
Total ego maniac.
I'd have given him a peice of my mind and got a taxi

MrsTerryPratchett · 05/11/2022 20:00

Be careful. It's a well known fact (from the 1990s) that if a boy does handbrake turns or doughnuts with a girl in the car, he fancies her.

My driving instructor taught me how. Top bloke.

PortalooSunset · 05/11/2022 20:00

Dh did this in my Morris Minor in a snowy car park (I wasn't in the car) - I was more worried about my car than I was about him 😅

Your title made me expect he tried it on with you btw.

Berlinlover · 05/11/2022 20:02

The title is misleading and the thread is disappointing.

Itsokay2020 · 05/11/2022 20:02

I would have loved it and would probably have asked to jump in the driver’s seat 😁 in a world of doom and gloom, this would have taken me back to 1995 and giggling like a teenager!

Mirabai · 05/11/2022 20:03

He’s a twat but I’m sure his wife is aware.

autumnleavesontheground · 05/11/2022 20:03

You sound a bit boring op, sorry. Really can’t see a massive issue.

LordNelsonsPigStatues · 05/11/2022 20:05

This is stupid.

Hibye23289 · 05/11/2022 20:05

Not being horrible but do you think him and his wife could think you are abit sheltered and wanted to wind you up for a laugh? I'm not trying to be horrible

NoGoodUsernamee · 05/11/2022 20:05

Hahaha!! I would think he was an absolute cock showing off and cringe for my mate who was married to it… but ‘legs shaking 40 mins later’ ffs really? Your parents must of done a grand job of sheltering you from the world if you’re seriously that bloody shook up over something so minor! Come on op.

DdraigGoch · 05/11/2022 20:06

I see that I wasn't the only one who read the title and thought that he'd made a pass at you.

Doughnuts in an empty car park? I mean, it's childish - the sort of thing you'd expect of a particularly moronic breed of 17 year old boy - but hardly something to write home about.

katepilar · 05/11/2022 20:07

What a stupid immature thing to do! I would have been scared too and wouldnt want to be in the care with such a twat afterwards. I am shocked that so many people find such behaviour ok.

DeedIDo · 05/11/2022 20:10

I was in a fatal car accident some years ago and will have lifelong effects from my injuries. Most people I know have no idea I went through that.

In your position OP I would have been literally, properly hysterical and would quite possibly have had flashbacks as a result. Even reading about your experience is making me queasy.

His behaviour would have been completely unacceptable to me.

I'm not a troll either.

scrivette · 05/11/2022 20:10

It's not easy to them so sounds as if he was in control!

It's very unusual to find an empty car park without lots of bollards so stop people doing things like that so I am not surprised he couldn't resist!

RonnieMcdonnie · 05/11/2022 20:11

Chill out, he was doing you a favour

Louis45 · 05/11/2022 20:11

As we pull away I'm saying thank you and was about to ask how everyone is, but he's smiling and says "sorry, just can't resist the opportunity..." He then accelerates his car really quickly, turns and the whole car starts skidding sideways! The engine sounds incredibly loud and must be revving right up to full power and we're literally sliding on the wet carpark in a big circle, totally terrifying

I'm sorry OP but I proper belly laughed. How random. I bet your face was a picture 😂

IntentionalError · 05/11/2022 20:11

YABU. And a boring killjoy.

I drive a reasonably powerful car (3 litre BMW) and I couldn’t resist the opportunity to do a few drifts in an empty car park, either. Good for him.