Being blamed for sons injury

[Lemonpink88]

Today I got home from dropping my older son at nursery. My husband was watching our 2 year old at home whilst waiting for a delivery. I arrived home and our 2 year old had burnt his hand upon my straighteners. My husband said this had happend as he had taken him into the bathroom whilst he was having a shower so he could keep an eye on him. My straighteners were plugged in and switched on at the plug but switched off at the hair end. My son got hold of the straighteners and burnt his hand whilst my husband washed. My husband blames the accident upon me as I had left the straighteners plugged in. He says it is 75% my fault and really told me off as I entered the house. I am furious as he is right I shouldn’t of left the straighteners plugged in however he should supervise our son when he is looking after him and not blame his poor parenting upon me. It was then left upon me to soothe our son, treat the burn & work from home & take the delivery whilst he went off to work.
im aware we shouldn’t be arguing over this and be a team but my husband has made me so angry by blaming the accident upon me that I’d appreciate some advice. He works long hours running a business and is very stressed and I work party time in a stressful job and manage the majority of childcare/ house work/mental load.

You both contributed to this injury. You can both avoid repetition.

Both of you are to blame. Straighteners should not have been left in reach (especially if they were still hot? That would be awful). Equally, he should have been supervising better.

Stop arguing about percentages and think about how you can prevent this in the future.

How did he burn his hand if they were switched off?
to be fair I never leave mine plugged in, always u plug, wrap them up and put them away. Fire hazard if nothing else.
I think you were both responsible but bickering won’t help the situation. I think you’re angry because you’re annoyed with yourself and feel guilty. It’s done now, Lesson learned, move on.

why was an electrical appliance in the bathroom?

Straightener burns can be quite deep, did your DH treat the burn immediately?

I agree, you are both at fault and I am another saying that from a fire safety POV they should always be unplugged when not in use.

You have a plug with a switch in your bathroom? (misses point entirely)
Also yeah YABU for leaving your straighteners switched on this was not your DHs fault, it is reasonable to think that a pair of straighteners from this morning would not be a risk.
Thank God your house didn't catch fire.

Let’s just say you’re both to blame and leave it at that.

hope your sons ok.

Poor lad.

Your DH was not to know you had left a potential burn hazard lying around. He was not being neglectful, really, because as far as DH knew, there was no burn hazard.

You mitigate against chemical hazards by using high shelves for storage or locking away. Same with poisons, meds etc. Thinking of your straighteners as the same level of risk, you'll soon be unplugging and putting them in a high place, wrapped appropriately.

You have had a fright, take care.

It’s your fault, I’d say 90.%. I’d not even think you’d left a hot item in plain sight.

Its entirely your fault. Never leave straighteners plugged in and left out, its not rocket science. Your husband can't be expected to shadow DS 100% of the time. He has only to ensure the general environment is safe, stair gate closed, kitchen cupboards locked etc, and can't be expected to look at hair straighteners and know they were still hot. I unplug and put them away as they remain hot for ages.

YANBU. You’d husband should have checked the environment before getting in the shower.

It was an accident, but it happened because you both had lapses in judgement. Just one of those parenting fuck ups which you’ll hopefully both learn from.

anybody else disturbed by all the upons?

Thank you everyone for your responses, I havent posted before here and have found it very helpful.
your all absolutely right I shouldnt have left the straighteners there. The plugs just outside our bathroom door so the lead goes under the door and they rest upon the counter. I hadn’t used them today but they were plugged in from last night. Me & my husband are both tired, our eldest has been unwell with sickness bug and my husbands business has been chaotic.
Its a lesson learnt, my sons thankfully only sustained a small burn, there is no sign of it tonight & Iv been advised it shouldn’t scare, poor thing.

I think it's 50/50 responsibility but he was an arse to shout at you. It sounds like he felt guilty so in his mind transferred all responsibility for the accident to you and shouted at you to back that up. Fwiw, my DS had a small burn on his hand from straighteners when he was 2 as I was rushing to leave and felt like i was watching him but obviously wasn't quite enough. I felt awful at the time but can look back and see it was an accident albeit one that could have been avoided.

How were they hot? Did your son switch them on?

If they were hot enough to burn him, aren't they a fire hazard?

I think you are more to blame I never leave mine plugged in

How were they still hot if turned off overnight? A burn to the hand should be looked at by hcp.

Hang on. They hadn't been used today? So your child was ignored long enough to play with them and switch them on? 100% your husband is to blame.

I'm not sure how it helps anyone to assign 'blame'. There were lessons that have been learnt on both sides. Accidents happen. Could there have been things done to prevent it? Yes, but blaming each other doesn't take the burn away and your relationship with each other isn't going to have been helped.

If your straighteners are that hot when switched off, it sounds like they have a dangerous fault, and you need to get rid of them.

A burn to the hand is a hospital job. They're really tricky to dress properly.

Sorry, cross posted with you saying you can't see any injury now. Thank goodness.

Your husband didn't check for risks before washing and ignored your child who managed to grab your straighteners and turn them on. How exactly is he blaming you for this?! Absolute bellend.

Like others, I'd be concerned about your straighteners being hot enough to burn when switched off at the mains for many hours.

So they were left plugged in overnight - your house could have burned down.