To not understand the nastiness that being a housewife provokes

[AMorningstar]

Not just on MN. I don't even use MN that often but I see this on other social media websites too. If a woman shares something positive about being a housewife it's full of comments about how "being controlled by a man, couldn't be me!" "No thanks, I love my independence" or "just wait until he leaves you, then what". If a woman shares something negative about it its "see, this is why being a housewife is TERRIBLE" (yet no one would say "this is why having a career is terrible!" If a person was complaining about their job)

I saw someone earlier say they'd be devastated if their daughter wanted to be a SAHM.

Why does it provoke such vitriol? Other women choosing this doesn't force anyone else to, I don't get the complete lack of respect for people's decisions and lack of understanding that different people enjoy different things.

Fairylights still going off, another bitter woman.

Don't forget all the night feeds he did, whilst holding down a job so you could be well rested to prepare for your day of resting.

I honestly don't think I've ever encountered someone so lazy

What are the odds that OP will start part 2 to this thread soon, because she is is so bored today. After all, for someone with such a fulfilling life, typing hundreds of posts in an anonymous forum to get a rise out of people in a few hours is a must.

I think sadly that’s probably the case. We should stop engaging really.

I’m not sure how the OP has had time to sort her children this morning, which makes me wonder about the reality of this thread. Either they’re old enough to sort themselves in the morning, she’s so wealthy she has a nanny/staff or the husband did it before work. Let’s face it, plenty of threads are populated by fantasists on here.

Making assumptions about me won't give you a better husband or more freedom.

Ach op, come on

You're really not doing yourself any favours.

The whole spends too much time on mn/ neglecting your kids thing is tiresome bullshit though

You seriously seem to lack self awareness!

Yanbu but I'd gain some qualifications before making the choice to be a stay at home parent or spouse. Just so you have options if circumstances change.

On the other hand, I find independence overrated. You should be able to depend on people you love, that includes your husband or wife. Some people's idea of independence is basically them working, raising their kids, organising everything, doing the housework, while their spouse does fuck all. So they're independent because they have to be because their spouse is shit. Then they get resentful of people who work as a team and can depend on their partner, so they make nasty comments.

You're incorrect, lol. It's funny how you all have to make assumptions about me because you can't rationalise that some people actually have good husbands and don't have to work.

Crikey. You’ve totally obliterated your earlier point and become abusive haven’t you?

I think there is some other issue going. OP has some serious insecurities. Or is a fantasist. This is not the normal behaviour of a balanced person.

Nah, if someone's going to be rude to me I'll give the same energy back. Don't like it then don't be rude in the first place. I'm not going to accept stupid comments from random strangers - like sorry but who tf do you think you are to talk to me like that?

The giving up work so you can concentrate on your sex life line just makes me think this is a troll.

Now where did I say that?

I have a lovely husband. Hard working, totally engaged as a father and very easy on the eye. I also don’t have to work as we’re what one might term ‘wealthy’. I choose to work. I love it. It’s very fulfilling to me. I’m also a raging feminist who will defend any woman’s right to choose how they live their life.

However, I don’t agree with what you’re doing here, and I don’t mean not working.

I think the nastiness comes from the fact that many women make the decision of being SAHM unconsciously. Not being married or having wonky marriage etc. Many, many, many posts here are something like: DP was abusive to me in the past, but he promised he'll change and he's abusive again. What do I do, I have no money, no work, nowhere to go etc. I agree with what I read here once: to be SAHP you must have rock solid marriage.

Making stuff up about me again because it upsets you that some women have decent husbands and good lives. I've shown him this thread and he thinks you lot are hilarious. 🤣

Who are you talking to, here? I’ve not been rude to you.

‘Good husbands and don’t have to work’.

Surely no one can engage with someone so weird and unbalanced. This person isn’t living in the real world.

Get some help OP. Honestly, you have some serious underlying issues. Very easy to spot in your responses.

Then why don't you criticise the people who've fired abuse at me? Why only one way?

Oh well.

If a man thinks we're hilarious them we really need to have a hard look at ourselves eh?

"OP is a perfect example of ‘lady doth protest too much’."

Well it's her thread? And she is protesting yes.

Is the irony of 'protest too much' really lost on people who know no SAHMs in real life, claim it is ABSOLUTELY DISASTROUS and are in frenzied pearl clutching mode at the mere thought of their daughter ever wanting to look after her own children rather than using childcare. Heaven forbid such a thing should be allowed!

If you're not SAHMs, why are you even on here at all?

“I’ve shown my husband the thread” is not the trump card you think it is 😆

Not at all but keep attacking me because you don't have an actual point to make. If it helps you sleep at night then whatever.

Ahhh, the actual man hating comes out now and the mask gets dropped. Pathetic lmao.