To not understand the nastiness that being a housewife provokes

[AMorningstar]

Not just on MN. I don't even use MN that often but I see this on other social media websites too. If a woman shares something positive about being a housewife it's full of comments about how "being controlled by a man, couldn't be me!" "No thanks, I love my independence" or "just wait until he leaves you, then what". If a woman shares something negative about it its "see, this is why being a housewife is TERRIBLE" (yet no one would say "this is why having a career is terrible!" If a person was complaining about their job)

I saw someone earlier say they'd be devastated if their daughter wanted to be a SAHM.

Why does it provoke such vitriol? Other women choosing this doesn't force anyone else to, I don't get the complete lack of respect for people's decisions and lack of understanding that different people enjoy different things.

Nah, many are taken on with no qualifications, worked to shit and then they leave 6-12 months down the line.

So you would never utilise them for your own children, real or hypothetical?

You started this thread about people making nasty comments about housewives/ SAHP, but you have made sooo many snide, backhanded , (absurdly) stereotyped and superior comments about working people (especially mums) 😨. So much for women not shitting on other women.

I suspect unless they have flash card jobs like doctor or teacher, most kids don’t know what their parents do. I also imagine literally no kids give a shit what their friends parents do either.

She’s been called lazy, embarrassing, deluded and told her husband will leave her for another woman. I think it’s understandable she’s defensive.

Exactly this.

So basically we think women who want to be at home are worth nothing? So basically we are the patriarchy who treat women and ‘women’s work’ like shit? Interesting.

Imagine how low you would feel about yourself if you are a sahm right now. All those women who have SEN kids and can’t work, or have their own disabilities which make it difficult for them to work whilst looking after kids. Or those who have lost parents of their own and want to make every minute count with their own as they are still coping with the trauma. Or they can’t afford to work until the free childcare kicks in. Imagine how much more you are bartering their self esteem.

What about those whose husbands literally earns millions of which they are entitled to half. Their commute would be hours long they don’t even like their job, they’d never see their kids. But no their choice is worthless. What if they’d rather spend their time enjoying their life and giving back to the world in another way. Or they just want to live their ONE life like they want to. Because that’s their choice.

Stop treating other women like shit. We fought for our choice to do what WE want and not live by everyone else’s standards.

You do you OP.

Of course

doesn't stop it being a low skill and low paid role

Those are facts

Depends on what type of person you are and what type of work. I am someone who burns out quickly. I'm very introverted and don't like any sort of pressure. I tire of socialising quite quickly. I prefer a simple, slower pace of life. I'm not someone who likes to constantly be busy or always chasing achievements. Instead I prefer the freedom to live as I wish and to be my own person. I would get exhausted with what you describe. To each their own though.

Same here. I work in a professional senior role and am around for all school pick ups, plays, after school activities, etc. I've never had a boss shout at me.

So many holes in OPs story. How you've managed to both tell your DH you never intend to work again whilst simultaneously offering to work so he can drop a day is beyond me. Poor guy must not know if he's coming or going

Right?! I wasn't rude to anyone until people were rude to me. Amazing how people will throw shit and then act offended when someone retaliates.

And I’m sorry but I know plenty of people who have affairs when their wives work full time. Working does not give you special value as a human. This is all very sexist and disablist.

I think it’s the statement I hear of staying home “to run the house”.

What the hell do housewives think other people do? I work full time and still manage to “run my house” 😂

I hope neither of my DSs end up sponsoring a future spouse to stay home!!

In fairness to OP she’s had a stream of hundreds of extremely rude posts levelled at her including name calling. Posts which are happy to perpetuate ridiculous stereotypes and worse case scenario situations about SAHMs. Is it hardly surprising she’s biting back and doing the same about working parents

He knows I don't want to and don't intend to. I've still offered it to him, particularly when his job has been very stressful, because I want to support him - that can include doing stuff I don't enjoy but would be willing to do to help him out. He however doesn't want me to and prefers it how it is

What’s exhausting about what I describe? You have no idea what I do for work.

I put in roughly 2-3 hours a day mostly emailing people.

hardly taxing!

Also have you ever worked?

I think this is the crux of the matter OP. You want an easy life and you expect the men in your life (husband/dad) to finance you so you don't have to tire yourself out. You are a kept woman, with no work ethic and want a lazy life of being taken care of by others. Just own it instead of painting your situation up in other ways to make yourself look better.

Wow, two jobs 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Most jobs are there to slave away to make other people loads of money, I don’t always think that’s a necessarily noble life. That includes pretty much all the jobs I have done.

It’s the OP’s thread. Is she supposed to post once and run away?

You know you have lost all credibility once you resort to the 🙄ad hominen fallacy, don't you, Autumn?