Am I stingy? Boyfriend says i am?

[llpoolj]

My boyfriend lives with me.
He earns £700 more than me a month.
He is always "skint"
He said he needed £20 for his phone.
So I said "il take it out of my savings account,just give me it on Monday when you get paid"
So then today he borrows another £10 and says so that's £310 I owe you Monday (£300 half of rent and bills )
I say no £330 ...£20 for phone too
He said "really ,your going to take that off me"
"I only topped up because you wanted me too"
(He didn't -he told me he needed to top up"
So he says "you know I would give you my last"
I said I buy you so much
I spent £10 buying him McDonald's today,I bought the food all week
I spent £170 last week on concert tickets for his birthday -then 2 hoodies for his birthday.
I reminded him of this and he says "no you can't class the tickets for my birthday -you wanted to go too"
I also bought us Xmas pjs for £30 two days ago

So how does he have the audacity to say I'm tight?
I just wanted it back to in my savings.
I'm feeling shitty and horrible now
I'm honestly not tight -I just don't want to get the mick took out of me

We go on holiday in two weeks
I've bought the sun tan lotion,after sun,case straps ,case locks ,luggage tags ,case scales,I bought him shorts for holiday and 2 tees and god knows what else

You throw money at him when it suits you in order to keep an illusion alive, then resent it later.

He thinks you are being generous, then is confused later on when you seem weirdly angry about things you've bought him with delight.

@ilukp you described my ex right down to the pimple on his nose.

@TheRossatron your comment made my whole day. Thank you so much 😂

Ugh. Do NOT get pregnant by him. Your life will be miserable and he will be a shit dad.
Get rid.

He saw you coming ... he earns £700 a month more than you, and you're subsidizing him??? Then when you complain, ask for him to pay you back the money you 'loan' him, he whinges and turns it around on you to try and get out of it?

I'd tell him to get to fuck ... after he pays you back every penny.

Never met you, but I know you can do better than this freeloading, selfish twat.

Imagine having kids with him. Will he pull his weight?

Kick him out.

Get rid of him ASAP

He's a User.. The more you give, the more he will take.
You are literally paying him to be your Boyfriend
Get rid and find a decent man

Stop speaking money on him and see how he likes it. What does he do with the £700 more a month he gets than you?

He's either a complete piss taking sponger or he has a habit of some kind like gambling.

This was my friend and her now ex, he had a gambling addiction.

Definitely get rid of him before he has you using your savings and debt in your name. It's only going to get worse. Been there, done that. You'll realise the extent of the emotional and financial abuse he's putting you through once you no longer have him.

Sending love 💕

Oh FGS just dump him.

I've only read the first few posts and that's enough.

You're being a doormat.

End it.

I'm sorry but you're a bit daft to keep lending him money, and spending so much on him. Just stop. He can buy things for himself or go without, he earns more than you!

Dear god. He fritters an extra £700 but calls you tight? You're buying his holiday clothes and his jammies?
What's it like having sex with someone who is like a big toddler?

Just wondering if you have low self-esteem and low expectations? Why would you find this behaviour acceptable from him? He's supposed to treat you as the love of his life.

I'd be worried about what he's spending his money on. Does he have a drink/gambling problem? Other woman? Secret kids?

So many red flags with this one - I'd be showing him the door, bet you do all the other stuff too....

Being single is so much better than hanging on to a cocklodger. I promise you.

Of course you can win, you can dump your cocklodger.

More fool you for giving him all this money!

A fool & money is soon parted. You will never get this back

Some people do a smokescreen thing where they accuse you of being guilty of whatever they are doing. He sounds like the stingy one to me.

Say you want your money back. Whatever he says. Just reply I want my money back. Say we are going to the cash point and you will give me your money.

Do not get involved in side conversations around your personality traits or whether it is a birthday present or not. These are all just fog to avoid the thing he doesn't want to do but know he has to do.

Tell him he's got 7 days to pay you what he owes you or you'll take him to small claims. And you'll also tell his mates, his boss and his mum - who probably already suspect what an old miser he is at heart.

Then wave goodbye and live a happy life.

When are you going to find a proper man?

You do know a man should be making your life financially better and easier not worst.

Move on with your life whilst you can.

That's daft! All it does is tell him you're willing to subsidise him with your savings as well as your day to day cash.

You're a mug and he knows it. Get rid is my advice

Ugh. Sounds like a gambler I once knew.