How much alcohol does your DH/DP drink weekly? (Average)

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Wanting to know as DH claims his drinking is below average for a man his age (mid 30s)
I disagree
Just a general idea would be nice so I could show him!

DP drinks 4 cans every night.. but he works 7 days a week, helps with kids etc and he never ever seems tipsy/drunk. He rarely goes out, but if he does he's wasted off 2 pints 😂
And I haven't had a drink for 10 years!!

He functions perfectly well though so I don’t know how he does it

Tolerance is an indicator of dependency and other things I learned in rehab

Most weeks my DH won't drink at all. He'll have a couple maybe once or twice a month while we're out.

I'm the same.

Time for separate rooms when you can’t sleep.

Not a lot regularly, especially as I’m pregnant and he doesn’t tend to drink at home alone, but when he does go out he drinks far too much. Six pints and a few spirits easily. Fortunately this is rare these days, a handful of times a year.

I highly recommend the app Drink Less, I used to drink too much and it really helped me see how much I was drinking and how it was a lot more than most people.

He brings home a paper receipt? Him and his friends don't buy drinks for each other?

I can't believe some relationships. Same ones where they each other's phones I suppose.

I wonder if it's an age thing ... DH & I are both over 60 and have 2-3 glasses of wine/beer most evenings....and this seems pretty 'normal' in our circle.

None he has been teetotal for 20 years - just doesn't like drinking

He's a classic binge drinker. Will have 2-3 cans of Stella on a Thursday, hit the pub for a couple of hours on a Friday night and have 6-8 pints and then come home and drink 1/2 bottle of wine, potentially repeat on Saturday and then 4-6 pints on Sunday but will not drink Monday -Wednesday. He's an obnoxious twat when he's had a drink.

3 cans a night 3 or 4 nights a week, we both probably drink a bit too much/often.

It doesn’t really matter what anyone else drinks - if you think your partner has a problem then you’re probably correct. If he does have an issue, then he’s not likely to admit it, and this level of drinking will become the norm. Which may be fine for a while, but his body will get used to that amount and he will feel like he needs more in stressful situations, which then starts a spiral which escalates.

I’m speaking as someone whose partner drinks at least two or three bottles of wine every night, but increasingly frequently more and more and more. I’ve long described him as a functional alcoholic, but his behaviour is moving towards non-functioning. He’s unpredictable, unproductive, smelly and miserable — unless he’s drinking. It’s hell on earth, I’m managing the whole house and am in therapy for his recent behaviour toward me after drinking binges for my own sanity. I am struggling to see any hope of a future and think I’m crazy for being here still. I constantly walk on eggshells whilst he’s in his own private hell of addiction. But there is nothing I can do now but leave, it’s all up to him to make any significant change.

If he genuinely doesn’t think that he has a problem then encourage him to slow down a little. Stopping entirely can be scary and a lot of pressure. Spend time together without drinking doing things you enjoy. Have a couple of nights off drink entirely every week. If he can’t do this then it’s better to acknowledge that there are issues and get help now than for you all to suffer later.

But above everything know that your opinion matters, and if you aren’t happy with the way your relationship is going then these issues need to be addressed.

None. He went teetotal at 30, so 15 years now and hasn't touched a drop since.

He has a G&T every night, followed by a glass of white with dinner. I have a vodka & diet coke every night followed by a glass of red with dinner. It's enough but not too much.

Far too much.

5/7 evenings he’ll have a couple of beers and a bottle of wine

Brits are drinking less than 20/30 years ago. The lads culture of the 90s have got older and can't handle the hangovers any more and some of the younger gen Z are much more into health, fitness and instagram appearance so booze isn't part of their life weed is

I can't believe some relationships. Same ones where they each other's phones I suppose.

Yep, he leaves his phone out and I'll answer it if he's wandered off, doesn't bother him. Similar for me he'll answer my phone if need be. I slso have access to his pc and email if i want. We're pretty boring.

Brits are drinking less than 20/30 years ago.

Yet liver cancer is on the rise.

We share 2 bottles of wine per week. Currently have zero social life as have a 6mo DD. Used to drink a lot more, more than I was comfortable with. I enjoy not waking up hungover on a weekend.

2-3 small glasses of wine a night and a couple of whiskies every week too, so about 3-4 bottles of wine a week and one bottle of whisky every couple of months. I think it's a lot but he's a big man and never seems drunk.

Very little. He doesn’t drink at home as a rule (maybe one beer a handful of evenings a year) and he goes out once a week on a Monday night with friends and has maybe 3, sometimes 4, pints. On a night out, he puts rather more away but he doesn’t go out much anymore due to working all the flipping time. He’s just turned 30, for reference!

He brings home a paper receipt? Him and his friends don't buy drinks for each other?

Nobody actually buys anything. They just drink and pay their bar bills weekly or whenever.

And, yes, he does bring the receipt home.

In a really stressful job, City commute and no let up, even on holiday - a couple of beers then a LOT of red wine.

Now, self employed in a job he absolutely loves, he's been tee total for about 3 years.

I drink but not excessively. A very mild cocktail or two, a glass of Champagne and glass of red wine at the weekend. Maybe a glass of red wine during the week. I can't bear feeling drunk or even tipsy.

It's so easy to slip into a pattern of drinking too much. Of course most people manage to drink moderately, but it can become risky. First it's an occasional treat, then it beomes a habit, and tolerance and dependency follow.

I used to be a social drinker who never kept alcohol in the house unless I was expecting guests. Until lockdown.....lock down...... As this dragged on I started to realise that my consumption was creeping up. Luckily I was able to knock this on the head and now I hardly drink at all. Two things helped me:

• Exercise. I became quite fanatical about keeping fit, because I enjoy it tremendously and because it makes me feel so much better about myself. I also became interested in nutrition, and there's just not place for significant alcohol in a healthy diet.

• A few videos on YouTube, especially William Porter (I even bought his book). Well worth a listen if you are concerned about drinking, whether it's you or someone you care about:

DH is 38 and gets himself beer once a month or so. He buys 4. They usually last him a weekend, then he doesn’t drink again until the next, unless out for a social occasion, but even then he always drives so…

I don’t particularly drink either. We both have heavy drinking parents and find it really difficult to deal with. I didn’t want my DC experiencing the same.

Omg
I was thinking the same ha ha.
"One beer a week in the summer"