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Mothers of boys -some of you are not helping

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iamjustwinginglife · 27/10/2022 12:06

I'm sure there are numerous mums to boys who don't treat their sons like little princes and ensure they help out around the house however I'm not sure some mums are helping their boys to grow up in to decent men...and this is why we find Mumsnet full of posts about useless husbands who don't pull their weight at home.

Last night, I had a car full of teenagers all 17 (2 x boys, 2 x girls) and one of the boy's parents had come back from holiday. "It's nice to have them back, I won't need to clean up after myself anymore." Now, they're all good kids, it was just chatter-so I suggested that he carried on cleaning up after himself even though they were back. His reply was "mum likes looking after me, she says it's her job as a mum to make sure she looks after me and gives me everything I want." My child thought that sounded like a great idea-and I bit my tongue to not point out that some mums (me!!) were driving round the countryside at 1am.

This mum works part-time, the children are 17 and 20 and she's obviously got the time to do it but AIBU to think that allowing children to true up thinking they'll be waited in hand and foot isn't really helping them in future life.

OP posts:
Babysitter12 · 30/10/2022 18:03

Maybe dads been up at the crack of dawn slaved all day got in late, while you have been sauntering around the house with a duster, big deal.
He deserves to be waited on , with his feet up, he is bringing home the bacon, while you are on the phone all day, making tea and eating cake !

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 30/10/2022 18:10

Babysitter12 · 30/10/2022 18:03

Maybe dads been up at the crack of dawn slaved all day got in late, while you have been sauntering around the house with a duster, big deal.
He deserves to be waited on , with his feet up, he is bringing home the bacon, while you are on the phone all day, making tea and eating cake !

The 1950’s called, they’d like their sexism back please 🤣

Lindengericht · 30/10/2022 18:28

Babysitter12 · 30/10/2022 18:03

Maybe dads been up at the crack of dawn slaved all day got in late, while you have been sauntering around the house with a duster, big deal.
He deserves to be waited on , with his feet up, he is bringing home the bacon, while you are on the phone all day, making tea and eating cake !

Fucks sake... are you my mother???

Herejustforthisone · 30/10/2022 20:14

Babysitter12 · 30/10/2022 18:03

Maybe dads been up at the crack of dawn slaved all day got in late, while you have been sauntering around the house with a duster, big deal.
He deserves to be waited on , with his feet up, he is bringing home the bacon, while you are on the phone all day, making tea and eating cake !

Make sure you start paying attention when you go back to school, your punctuation is abysmal.

Babysitter12 · 30/10/2022 23:39

Women nowadays have lost their femininity and are just foul mouthed moaners !

Happyhappyeveryday · 30/10/2022 23:43

Mums and dads feed this helpless attitude. It’s pathetic and the reason that many teens are entitled idiots.

Happyhappyeveryday · 30/10/2022 23:45

I am a mum, who is up ‘at the crack of dawn’ BTW. I’m ‘bringing home the bacon.’ Some people appear to be stuck in 1953.

Lindengericht · 31/10/2022 00:22

Babysitter12 · 30/10/2022 23:39

Women nowadays have lost their femininity and are just foul mouthed moaners !

Cool story bro. Listen pet, it's time for bed. School starts again in the morning.

StClare101 · 31/10/2022 01:07

While I don’t disagree that toxic masculinity, the fragile male ego and male initiated violence is a widespread issue, I’m not sure a sample of one seventeen year old brat is useful.

And it’s a parent problem. Not a mother problem.

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