AIBU to still be angry over how my husband buttoned his shirt at our wedding?

[Purplehair22]

I never addressed it with him. Well maybe only in a jokey way.
Long story short - at our wedding my husband got ready with the help of his parents.
for some reason his mum has an issue with doing up the top button (she says it makes men look like snobs) and as a result thought it would be acceptable to let him walk out looking like he’s just travelled here from the 70s. His collar was sticking out his blazer and wide open. Top 2 buttons were undone! I was so stressed I didn’t even realise until I saw the pictures!
I asked him about it the following morning in a jokey way and he said “well mum thought since I don’t have a tie it’ll look better that way”. I mean what???? I haven’t addressed it since coz I don’t want him to feel bad and I know I sound like an absolute f*cking psychoooo but every time I look at our wedding photos all I can see is that ABBA inspired collar!!!! Someone come whack me with a frying pan!

Was he supposed to be wearing a tie? If he just ditched the one he was supposed to be wearing that's one thing but if you were expecting him to button the shirt up completely with no tie that's also pretty odd?

It's an incredibly odd thing to be carrying around.

I suspect it's actually about a battle of wills over your DH with the in-laws!

You didn't even realise until you saw the pictures. I very much hope this is tongue in cheek OP!

What, are you serious? Are you happy together? His mother won't be doing that any more. Hopefully if he needs sartorial advice he will come to you. Put the photos away and live your life!

He needs to grow up and dress himself. It would do my head in as well. But you need to finally cut the apron strings.

Try to let it go otherwise you'll spend ages tying yourself in knots over this.

I cannot describe how much this wouldn’t concern me.

Is there a reason he can’t dress himself

He should have got ready with a dapper friend.

It's done now.

At the end of the way, he chose his appearance, and that is up to him.

I think this is utterly bizarre
i’m a bit stumped

there’s more to it than buttons surely?!

Were you expecting him to wear a tie? If not, it’s normal not to do up the top button and he’d have looked daft if he had.

Was he wearing a medallion and showing off his hairy chest? That would be properly seventies!

If he wasn’t wearing a tie, I’d have thought it looked stranger having all his buttons done up?

So many threads about absolutely NOTHING.

You do indeed sound like an absolute fcking psychoooo*

Is your marriage a happy one?

We must see the photo.

I'd be more angry that a grown man apparently can't dress himself without the help of mummy

Is this supposed to be one of those "Oooh I'm right whacky, meee" threads?

Do you posses a little sign that says "You don't have to be crazy to work here but it helps"?

Of course he shouldn’t do the top button up if he’s not wearing a tie.

Please please show us a photo

If he wasn't wearing a tie of course he shouldn't have the top button done up.

I want to see the blazer too...

Lol how long ago did you get married? In my mind you have been seething about this for decades - through the birth of your first child, 2nd child, promotions, family deaths, moving house, children going to uni...

You leave the top button undone if not wearing a tie

otherwise you look a nob surely?

And how is your relationship generally?