AIBU to still be angry over how my husband buttoned his shirt at our wedding?

[Purplehair22]

I never addressed it with him. Well maybe only in a jokey way.
Long story short - at our wedding my husband got ready with the help of his parents.
for some reason his mum has an issue with doing up the top button (she says it makes men look like snobs) and as a result thought it would be acceptable to let him walk out looking like he’s just travelled here from the 70s. His collar was sticking out his blazer and wide open. Top 2 buttons were undone! I was so stressed I didn’t even realise until I saw the pictures!
I asked him about it the following morning in a jokey way and he said “well mum thought since I don’t have a tie it’ll look better that way”. I mean what???? I haven’t addressed it since coz I don’t want him to feel bad and I know I sound like an absolute f*cking psychoooo but every time I look at our wedding photos all I can see is that ABBA inspired collar!!!! Someone come whack me with a frying pan!

same vibes

I was furious at my mil. Total snob. She insisted the botton holes on the me actually went inside the holes rather than being pinned on. Looked shit in early photos. My dad went round correcting them all.

Bloody hell, unclench - I seriously, honestly wouldn't be able to muster up enough energy to care whether his button was done up or not!

YABU, a) because it's ridiculous and b) because you actually wouldn't button a shirt fully if you weren't wearing a tie and c) if the groom didn't have a tie then you've pretty much lost the battle already.

Catching the vibes? I just had a look and his dads top button was undone too but the collar was laid down flat like that 🤦🏼‍♀️
to answer some questions. We’ve been together for almost 10yrs. Married almost a year ago. Relationship is great. His mum isn’t usually a big issue. I actually tend to be the middle person coz they don’t have the most amazing relationship so I kind of “bring them together” for family time etc. He’s not very confident in the wardrobe department and I trusted his mum would do her best. He refused a tie so yes there was no tie. I probably wouldn’t be so bothered about the top button being undone but why does it look ironed down like this??? 😭 (the second button was undone at some point too but I think someone pointed it out to him). I feel like he looked like a secondary school boy on his way home.

😂😂😂😂😂

His mother dressed him for his wedding day. Oh there’s issues to unpack there!

And you’re right. It looks awful!

but really you need to let it go now.

He would have looked ridiculous with the top button done up and no tie.

let it go.

😂

If he intended to go without a tie he’s wearing the wrong jacket for that look. Also, it doesn’t look like a new shirt.
Id be devastated if my groom had turned up looking like that.

OP this thread has given me a giggle today. The collar over blazer for some reason is giving me Dracula vibes. Your right it doesn't look great, don't be mad at him though a year has passed he was probably anxious and relying on his mum to double check he was dressed properly. I think the issue is that without a tie with that type of shirt and jacket it was always going to look odd they've somehow exacerbated it though 😂

Oh you’re that poster,,,the haircut one 😂

I thought it was the blazer/undone buttons/school uniform obsessed one.

Is this a serious question?

YABU if it is.

Mumsnet is batshit tonight.

I'm sorry OP, that does look like he's going to collect a fiver for his communion.😂
But we'll done to you for one of the funniest threads on here in a while.

My mother was angry at my father for his wedding trousers being too long, literally until the day he died, 40 years later. It wasn't exactly a model marriage though 😉. I'd say let this one go.

He looks fine!

What a weird thing to get all worked about 🤣

I feel like he looked like a secondary school boy on his way home.

That is exactly what I was going to say he looks like. It dows look bloody ridiculous and scruffy tbh but he is who he is.

A year has passed....
Let it go!!!
If you wanted him dressed a certain way you should have been more Bridezilla at the time. You weren't. And you didn't notice at the time. So let it go!!!

He should have worn a tie or buttoned it up. Looks awful like that.

Ha oh yeah that does look bad, he should have worn a tie.

Yikes! Ok, on a serious note, yes I would be upset that he turned up looking shit, and yes I would be weirded out that his mum dressed him.

so, I don’t think you are being crazy.

I was going to say let it go, but since I've seen the photo I totally agree with you!

I don’t think posting a picture of Ryan Gosling proves anything, he would look dapper in a bin bag!

OP my husband didn’t button his top button either (and he WAS wearing a tie) and I occasionally still make fun of him for it. I did fix it when we came out of the church though!

Now that I’ve seen the pic I’m quite sad for you because that would annoy me!

As an aside the story about the photographer and the husband who didn’t turn round is so funny!