Ready for backlash with this one...

[Netflixandaps]

AIBU to expect on dating sites for men around my age group 40-50 to be able to write a sentence like an adult rather than it being like I am communicating with a 12 year old on Snapchat..... They still write 'u', 'wot', '2', 'ru', 'ere', 'b', 'cud' (I could go on)... My absolute favourite is the question 'wot u up 2'.. Surely to goodness I'm not expecting too much?

I wouldn't mind.

it seems s quick way to narrow down the men you do want to meet!

I agree with you - it would put me right off.

Ugh.

I wouldn't give those idiots a second of my time. I can't express in words how unattractive that is.

I think its great. At least you are forewarned they will give you the ick and can you can stop communicating right now instead of wasting your time.

Same for those who think sexual remarks are funny and just banter.

Next!!

Or those who mention sex within the first 2 messages....like why? If I wanted that I'd be on fabswingers..... 😂

Not setting the bar too high asking people to write full works in full
sentences. Delete and move on.

These types baffle me. I look back now at old Facebook posts and CRINGE at how we used to WriTe ThinGs LiKe ThIs to be CoOl InNit 😂

In fact we were worse, “Wot U Up 2” was simply “WUU2”

I’m 33 for context

That and the instant sex conversation = get in the bin 🗑 when I was OLD

Helps weed them out though if casual isn’t your thing

I am 47 so it's just startling that grown arse men are that lazy.

To whoever said block them, it would (no joke) be roughly 95% of them.

I wouldn’t even reply to that filth TBH!

Never too sure why people waste their time on those. All you ever hear are horror stories.

So I asked the last one this (out of about 11 today who's shortened words)...

'Genuine question, are you so busy you can’t write out the word ‘you’ or ‘what’… those extra 3 letters too much? 😂'
And his response..... 'Im a lory drver, Iv alwys dun it'....

I actually give up.

@Charlize43

I'm an optimist... always hopeful that there might be a decent one. I met my last partner on a dating site, that lasted just about 4 years, but he cheated, was abusive and a narcissist who's fave pass time was gaslighting the shit out of me, but I don't blame the site, I blame him.

YANBU using text speak in 2022 is a surefire way to say, "I can't move with the times".

Just think of it as an extra filter on your search. OLD is partly a numbers game, so anything that helps you decide quickly whether or not to respond is always helpful!

Yes, this.

I would find it a complete turn off. It irritates me if friends communicate like that, now I think about it.

People who do this text speak are generally older, it comes from the time you had to press all the number buttons on a phone to do texting. Young people don’t do this.

If you're attracting lots of men like this then you may have to change your profile or more importantly your preferences. If they can't be bother to make an effort on the first communication then bin them.
Plenty more fish in the sea etc. You might want to have a look on the relationships board under OLD. Lots of helpful advice.

It should be
"Wot r u up 2?"
So, you are not being unreasonable!
Or, as we are on Mumsnet, I should say that
UANBU - 🤭

How's u?

🤮🤮🤮

Y u xpct bcklsh tho?

I read that as 'fabs wingers' and took far too long to work out what you were trying to say. I got there in the end. That's what happens when you're on MN at 03:20. 😂Good luck with wheedling out the morons OP.

H8 txt spk!!!! YANBU.....made me chuckle 😃

I am in the USA and I read some study recently that textspeak, bad grammar and incorrect spelling was the number one reason women rejected men who they otherwise liked on dating apps so you are not alone.

I think it's common! I'm still in my 20s but I run a huge team of men and they all communicate this way to me. These are very smart, highly trained engineers too!

But yes, it massively puts me off men who can't string a sentence together.