Ready for backlash with this one...

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AIBU to expect on dating sites for men around my age group 40-50 to be able to write a sentence like an adult rather than it being like I am communicating with a 12 year old on Snapchat..... They still write 'u', 'wot', '2', 'ru', 'ere', 'b', 'cud' (I could go on)... My absolute favourite is the question 'wot u up 2'.. Surely to goodness I'm not expecting too much?

I would be exactly the same as you. Sorry but I would judge. The same with grammar and spelling (was instead of were, loose instead of lose, your instead of you're and ect instead of etc).

Agree completely. The same would apply to anyone who uses emojis.

@FurnitureDisease WUU2 😂

Yep. That's me. Instant ick. See also: too many emojis.

YANBU, OP.

I have to laugh at this as its exactly what my MIL does. She uses pay as you go and every text costs her something like 20p, so everything is shortened. I think this is where these guys get it from - the days when a text cost 30p. I'm with you though, it would really put me off, along with grammar and spelling. Good job I'm happily married otherwise I'd be eternally single 🤣

@cassiatwenty yep 🤦🏼‍♀️

Also WYD, BRB, “cool” became “kl”.

Instead of “ok” there was, inexplicably, “kk”, usually indicating a sort of huffy tone.

We even had “sxc”, “gawjus” etc.

Dear me the more I remember the worse it gets 😂

I think the over riding issue with dating is men don’t have to like women to date them and we actually need to like them. It’s all very transactional to them. I know a lot of men through my years in a male dominated industry and my main hobby. They forget I am a woman or that I’m there sometimes. These were not all knuckle draggers, one group were academics. They are literally a different species, even the ones that should know better.

So last one you met wrote properly but wasn't a nice person? So maybe how someone writes isn't the best way to judge.
Maybe they write like that because everyone else does and they think that is the way its done on these sites if new etc

I think they are trying to seem younger..they think that is what young people do. A bit like high giving or doing the weird stirring thing??when they win something

To those who say young people don't do this ? Are you kidding
They put k for OK its two letters and shorten loads

Grim.
I’d rather be perpetually single than have 2 trawl through stuff like this.
U r not wrong 2 find it v.v unattractive and annoying.

You sound like a horrible snob.

Also slightly hypocritical posting is AIBU ? No

Agree.
Men are incredibly different to women in how they view the world.
Much more direct, to the point, “Transactional” is absolutely the right term.
Men on dating sites basically want sex, women probably want friendship and to “Connect “ on other levels than just sex.

I met my partner on tinder and many of my friends met their husbands and partners on tinder or other apps. Yes there will be some horror stories but same as in real life, I've had many awful dating experiences from men I've met in real life situations. The people on apps are just people so there will be some good and some bad but it's an easy way to meet single people, especially if you are in your 30s onwards when you are less likely to meet someone in a social setting

Nothing wrong with HGV drivers.
An educated man who lost his career due to technology did an HGV course to drive as a way to earn money.
He said people “Look down on Drivers” in a way that is truly appalling.
Without HGV drivers, the Country would grind to a standstill.

You sound hyperbolic.

I always use full words and sentences and so do all of my friends (all in our mid/late 40s). My teenage children use a bewildering amount of abbreviations and nonsense - rlly instead of really, SMH, IDK etc. Sometimes I just text DD a whole load of capital letters instead of a sentence just to piss her off ie, IWSYASOTG (I will see you at 7 outside the gym).

Dating sites have really highlighted just how many lazy, idiotic men are out there. They were always there, but it used to take ages to find out, whereas now you can find out in a message or two.

When I first went on I gave the benefit of the doubt, but after too many mediocre dates, being messed about and weirdo men, I got really tough. Now I'm really fussy and my standards are raised ten fold. The pool is much smaller but I will no longer entertain dickheads.

Hi, how's your day going....

U OK

Hi

Hi, how's u

All full of personality and originality 🙄

I think it's a good way for you to sift out the ones who are not for you!
I often think I'm out of date on 'mobile-speak' as the things you illustrated are obviously designed to save time and I do not know them.
My eliminator, though, would be bad grammar. The most egregious bad grammar which really grates on me is "of" for "have or "'ve" e.g. "I could of" and not "I could've". It makes me want to scream. After that comes saying the words ending in 'ing' as "ink", for example, "somethink". How a man spoke with regard to grammar, and good manners would matter if I were looking for somebody to date.

I met my now DH on an OLD site and one of the things that made me continue our initial conversations was his ability to type actual messages - not text speak!

YANBU OP!

But it would massively put me off if a prospective partner did it. I suspect my new partner is dyslexic, as was exH, although he's very good with words, and I can handle poor spelling and grammar (despite being a bit of language police-type) but not laziness like that. And as for 'dis' instead of this....

No I actually agree with you. It's a turn off.

Yuk, I agree!