Ready for backlash with this one...

[Netflixandaps]

AIBU to expect on dating sites for men around my age group 40-50 to be able to write a sentence like an adult rather than it being like I am communicating with a 12 year old on Snapchat..... They still write 'u', 'wot', '2', 'ru', 'ere', 'b', 'cud' (I could go on)... My absolute favourite is the question 'wot u up 2'.. Surely to goodness I'm not expecting too much?

A "horrible snob" for not wanting to be with someone who can't string a few words together in a coherent fashion.

Righty-ho. 🙄

Could of, would of.....grrr, I hate that. Then again, I get itchy about the incorrect use of "literally". That word is thrown around, like confetti, these days. However,I doubt some of those blokes would know how to spell it, so probably safe there. 😂

Well at least they’re not calling you Hun 🤭

I totally agree, I hate text speak, it just signifies laziness to me, hopefully you’ll soon find the right man … good luck.

Likewise. By DH's reading abilities I suspect he has some form of dyslexia too, and has some spelling and grammatical errors in his writing (I'm by no means perfect either), but it's still 100 x better than "C U l8r".

The text boxes are no longer limited - there is absolutely no need!

@Crinkle77

I am definitely NOT a snob. I'm too poor to be a 'snob'. I wasn't criticising his vocation, merely the fact that he even missed out the R in lorry.

I'm sorry for your misjudgement. :-)

Or:

Babe
Baby
Princess
Hotlips
Sexy
Sex bomb

@ImJustMadAboutSaffron

I do get princess a lot, ironically I am such a tomboy 'Prince' would be more appropriate

Lots of women around that age are the same though, it's embarrassing.

@N27 I had a similar experience. A guy I briefly dated (gentle, handsome, sorted) texted me "Wud luv 2 C U 2 2nite how do u feel about that" 😂

Still one of the best experiences I had!

I was a bit confused but seeing as we met IRL first it wasn't that bad. So never judge a book by its...texting prowess?

30 years ago a friend used the lonely hearts column of a newspaper. She excluded all the ones who didn't/ weren't able to write legibly, which she said was the majority. This narrowed the field and she had the good fortune to find a lovely man who became her husband, from the remainder. Good luck with your search.

In my dating days, now long gone, I used to filter people out by inviting them to play Scrabble. If I could beat them easily, that eliminated them from the field. That was, of course, long before text messages. Many years later, I went into a very happy relationship with a chap because his very first text message used a semi-colon correctly.

Love it 😂

@slashlover Or people who don’t know that an ellipsis is … (the individual dots are not ellipses). If you’re going to be a pedant you need to be squeaky clean!

You can be poor and still be a snob. I still think it's snobby to judge someone for using text speak in informal communication. They might not have had a great education, may have a learning difficulty or may just prefer a more relaxed style. Who cares? It's not a bloody university essay.

Have you spelled out what you think you want in your profile? You don't reasonable grounds to expect any of your unspecified wishes to be met - you have to work it out. My friend was working in Cambridge for 6 weeks and had just split up from her bf. She set up 6-7 dates for that period but was unashamedly honest about what she was looking for and what she was about - something to the effect of
Me : don't like drinking, parties, pubs, crowded spaces, dancing, dressing up, makeup. Dislikes in men, too much jewellery, bears,tattoos, piercings, muscles/obsessed with the gym/mirrors/their car,
You : must be able to run 10k with me, be over 6ft, graduate, etc

She basically grilled the guys on the dates about finances, children, career, family background and very quickly found one guy that seemed to fit the bill. This was over 5 years ago and they are living in a house they bought together and expecting their first baby.

It was hilarious watching her skim through profiles and rejecting 99% - she took a fraction of a second to make her mind up on most of them... Loves himself too much, gold medallion, big watch, sunglasses, bare chest, can't spell, etc

She used a relatively plain profile photo. In real life she's a beauty, very bright and perceptive and is such a lovely quirky animated smiley person too but her head definitely rules her heart.

So - do you know what you really want and don't want?

@Crinkle77

I have no issue with those who suffer with learning issues, dyslexia, dyspraxia.

People are able to have a differing of opinion. Nothing snobbish about expecting the bare minimum of a conversation, spelling out 2/3 letter words.

@larkstar

I know what I want, the opposite to my ex! That would be good place to start

@slashlover

Sorry if my use of .. upsets you. I honestly never count how many I do and I honestly wasn't aware there was a '.' protocol. I will definitely look into it. I appreciate you raising it with me. Thank you.

I don’t think it’s age, as much as it is social/educational background.
when you go on dating apps the circles you encounter are much more diverse that in real life (something that’s nice about them imo).

"wot u up 2" would set the standard immediately for me. Move on.

Babe is an absolute insta-ditch for me. No exceptions.

I'm baffled.
Wyd? - What you do?
Nm - nevermind?
Hbu? - How bout you?
Dk - dick?

If I'm right then two of them don't translate into a decent sentence anyway.

What you doing?
Dont know

Oh.... that makes more sense 😂😂😂

Great way to get rid of the not so bright potential love interests before getting too involved.