DH wants to stay up late but I'm exhausted

[Confusedmaa]

So basically my DH won't go to bed at a reasonable time and I'm so tired. He thinks I'm being unreasonable. Our dog worships him so if he's the last to bed she pines for him, barks, scratches at the door and wakes everyone up. If DH goes to bed first the dog lies down straight away and goes off to sleep then I wait for 5 minutes then go up to bed. I have to get up earlier than DH as I have to drop DS2 off for his bus at 7am each day and also one night a week I have to get up at 2:30 to see DS1 out for his milk round (I go back to bed until 6. I'm absolutely exhausted. We've just had an argument about the whole thing. So the dog got agitated and wouldn't settle now I'm downstairs waiting for her to sleep so I can go back to bed. Have to be up at 6am in the morning. He gets loads more sleep than me. I do all the early mornings and he also falls asleep in front of the tv downstairs and I can never wake him up to get him to go to bed. He says I'm being mean by expecting him to cut his evening short. He tells me to go to bed first and he will sleep downstairs on the sofa with the dog. That always ends up making his joints really bad and he can be out of action for days and can hardly walk. Then I have to do everything.
Who is being unreasonable here? Am I in the wrong telling a grown man what time he should go to bed?

I don’t normally use mumsnet. I thought this was a trending threat but turns out it was related to another post I was reading.

Go see a dog trainer asap. This is past stupid

Bit rude eh. Threads stay open so people can comment.

The truest post.

When he goes to bed and if he wants a pint at midnight are both non of your business.

Leave him alone

What happens if you just go up to bed at 9 when he’s asleep on the sofa? Dog wakes when he wakes up? When he comes into the bedroom with dog kicking off you say no you don’t- go settle that dog and come in when you have, you don’t get to get me out of bed for your choices. Then if you end up settling the dog, wake him in the morning when you get up. ‘Everyone who’s a responsible parent plus everyone who just wakes everyone else up in the middle of the night for fun GETS UP NOW.
channel your pissed off no one treats me like this vibe!

not sure about ds and the milk run. I can see why you do it but it is very kind of you!

This thread is 7 months old

Yes he does work. A very stressful job so he feels like he needs plenty of wind down on a night. We are actually doing a lot better the last few months. I no longer get up with DS for his milk round and when he works his other job until the early hours I don't wait up. The dog just ignores him (she likes her sleep). DH started going to bed earlier as he's knackered from work. 5 minutes after he's gone up I follow when I've turned everything off locked up etc. Happy with this, feel so much better.