Don't understand why some people are so unfriendly like this

[Cheesecakeitalian]

Started a job in a new place yesterday, I saw a woman on the train this morning who I'd recognised from yesterday. So I smiled at her and she just looked at me blankly, fair enough she probably didn't recognise me.

Anyway then I was in the staff lounge and there's a huge U shaped sofa with tables which was totally empty. So i went and sat in the corner.
She came over with a flask of tea and a sandwich and just went "Oh I'm sitting there."
The room was almost empty, she could have literally sat on the same sofa with one of the other tables or gone and sat at one of the many other tables in the room.

I just got up and moved and sat elsewhere, s

Oops didn't finish..she didn't say anything.
I wanted to say, "Sorry has it got your name on it?"
Felt so embarrassed and it was like being back at school.

She hadn't left her coat or bag there, that's why i sat there as it was totally empty. She can't dictate where everyone sits.

I think you just met one woman who is a bit stuck in her ways, every work place has at least 1 person like this. You will probably find other people think she’s odd too. I am sure there are plenty of other friendly people to speak with.

She's obviously nuts. Hopefully you find a sane workmate?

She sounds like an arsehole. I wouldn’t worry about it.

She looks a bit younger than me, mid 20s maybe. Of course when the younger attractive male staff member came over she was all gushy and "Hiiii! How are you??"

It pisses me off when they're vipers apart from to men they Fancy.

"Sorry has it got your name on it?"

Good job you didn't, as you would have sounded like the one who hasn't left primary school. I think it would have been reasonable to say something along the lines of: 'Sorry; there was absolutely no indication that anyone was sitting here. I'll move now, but if I don't see a bag or coat next time, I'll probably just plonk myself down, thanks.'

Did you possibly get the job she also went for? And now she is bitter?

Anyway, she sounds awful.

Good luck in your new job.

Blimey you only been there 1 day, and judging already.

Well obviously I'll judge if someone treats me like that...not really sure who wouldn't really.

Oh you met a Zoe. Sorry to anyone called Zoe but I worked in two separate places where women called Zoe were exactly like this so it’s known is my circle as a Zoe. If you weren’t in their little clique, or your weren’t an attractive male you were spoken to like absolute shit. One of them once told me to leave a communal area because she was having a private conversation. When I didn’t she stamped her foot like a toddler and ran off to complain to her nearest beau. Unfortunately every work place seems to have one of these too. Doesn’t work in marketing by any chance does she?

I can’t believe you moved! I would have gone with a faux gushy, of course you’re welcome to join, how’s your day going so far.

Any normal person would have just sat elsewhere.

It was clearly a territorial/control thing.

The station thing - if you started yesterday, she probably didn't recognise you!

The sofa thing - if you'd sat where she was sitting, why wouldn't she mention that? What did you say when she said that? Personally I'd have apologised, then just shifted over a few spaces and made conversation.

Realistically you've had one actual interaction with her and branded her a "viper", are you sure you're the friendly type?

That is awful if you are new to a job, hopefully she is just the workplace weirdo and the rest of your colleagues are a bit more friendly and welcoming.
Good luck in your new job.

Why did you move?

Sometimes it's handy when people make it clear from the outset that they are an absolute twat. Now you know not to bother with her in future. Hopefully you'll find some more friendly colleagues soon

You have to learn to stand up for yourself. If a dickface tries to push you out of your seat, just stare at them. She thinks you're weak. Prove you're not.

Don't sweat the small stuff. Only you'll end up worse off for it.

You really ought to have stayed put and said something like 'you're welcome to join me'.

Never ever let a colleague get away with thinking they can push you around. ALWAYS stand up to them.

Chances are, you'll only need to do it the once before they get the message and back off.

Apologise for what exactly?
Being alive?

Maybe your misogyny shows on your face and women know not to trust you as far as they can throw you?

Goodness there are some doormats on here. You didn't do anything wrong. I would just have said there's plenty of room so why don't you join me? Be polite but make it clear you won't be pushed around. She sounds two faced and unfriendly anyway.

She just sounds like a really difficult person, all you can do with people like that is treat them like toddlers.