To be annoyed that dh drank a burning hot cup of coffee while holding our newborn...

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...or am I just being PFB?

Give it a matter of days and you will be doing the same!

It depends. Parents have always drunk hot drinks, but it is sensible not to drink it right over the baby, I used to lean to the side a bit.

Hot drinks are a leading cause of injury to young children, so it is worth being cautious but not obsessive.

Why are you annoyed? He is drinking it not feeding it to the baby. Yabu, congratulations 🎉

Give it a week you'll be making a coffee, cooking the dinner and doing a wee all whilst holding baby 😂

YADNBU. A startle reflex from the baby or stepping on a lego and that liquid could be all over the baby. If he wants hot drinks, put the baby down or use a travel mug. Burns on a baby are horrific and occur at much lower temped liquids than adults

It depends...I wouldn't hold a hot drink directly over a baby/ child, but drink it to the side of them, if you get what I mean!

I agree with you if he was holding the cup over the baby. Leaning to the side is ok but no, boiling hot drinks directly over a newborn is not ok. To be honest it's even worse when they start randomly flailing their arms!

Was it black coffee? eg properly scalding? If so YADNBU. DS1 was at nursery with a little boy who had terrible scarring on his face following an accident with a hot drink as a toddler. Milky coffee probably not such a risk.

You're being PFB. Assuming he was capable of not spilling it all over the place before the arrival of your baby, I'm sure he's just fine now. It's amazing what you can learn to do with a baby in your arms (or latched on 24/7 in my case) - drink hot drinks, alcoholic drinks, eat with chopsticks, cut a piece of steak, straighten your hair, all sorts!

PFB

YANBU. My spouse once managed to spill his burning hot tea over our baby. The baby made a sudden movement and he flinched or something and then we got to spend hours in the paediatric burn unit every 2 days or so.

Did he spill a drop? PFB.

I'm jealous every hot drink I had went cold because I never got chance to drink them.

I would go ballistic if anyone done that whilst holding my baby. Once that child is scarred for life or dead there is no turning the clock back. Is a mouthful of coffee worth the death of your child ?

Very dangerous to drink hot drinks near a baby. I either drank cold drinks or waited for tea to cool

Your instincts are on mega overcautious mode but that's normal and OK.

No that’s not ok.

I am on your side. Burning coffee would scar an adult let alone a new born. There is just no need for it. Put the kid down if you are that thirsty.

YANBU

It also used to drive me nuts when parents and in-laws would pass hot cups of tea directly over DS on the play mat

YANBU - i have seen a child with permanent scars due to a hot drink being spilt. Simply not worth the risk in my opinion.

PFB. Sort of. HOWEVER when they're a bit bigger and start getting a mind of their own about whether they want to be picked up/positioned in specific ways and can move better, keep those hot drinks away! My 10-month-old DC2 is absolutely adamant that she wants to grab the top of any cup I'm holding atm.
Having said that, I'm making an assumption that he wasn't also in a situation where the coffee could spontaneously pour on the baby. I saw a baby at a park a few years back get a whole takeaway coffee all over him because his mum went on a swing with him with the coffee in her hand.

YANBU. I'd be fuming. Get a travel mug or wait, it's just not worth the risk

I’m pretty relaxed about most things OP but we used travel mugs when ours were newborns. Added benefit of your drink staying warmer for longer if you get an insulated one!

Buy him a travel mug.

And no, I never had scaldingly hot food or drinks 'over' DD.

Drinking it over the baby is incredibly stupid. He can still drink to the side. There's no need do so directly over the newborn. I scalded myself twice this past week(I have nerve damage in my hands and arms, and Covid cough didn't help) It was bloody painful. The thought of that coffee going all over a newborn is horrific. Even if you don't have nerve damage as I do, it's easy to jerk and spill a drink.

It's not PFB to want him to avoid doing that. It's common sense.

YADNBU it's very unlikely but still possible to burn a newborn.

It isn't worth the risk.. tell him to have a coffee later.