Covid named and shamed

[Otterspotter13]

I’m a healthcare worker, returned to work after a week of sick leave due to Covid. Kids also recovered and back at school. At home partner was weakly positive on antigen test (he tested positive when myself and kids were at end of our 7 days isolation) but he has never had any symptoms. Kids had missed their swimming lessons last week when they were isolating with me. On the day of my return to work, partner who should be isolating brought them to their swimming lesson. He left them enter the building themselves so he himself wouldn’t have to go inside. But at collection time he entered building, wrapped their towels around each of them and quickly left with them, bringing them straight to car so they could change there. I was at work on a 13 hr shift wearing a sweaty ffp2 mask out of consideration for my colleagues. I checked my texts and there was a message on a 10 member girl group I’m on, naming and shaming my partner because one of them knew he was positive and saw him at pool collecting kids and not wearing a mask. He is not in this group to defend himself. I’m obviously angry with him for not wearing a mask and have told him off regarding this, he realizes he was in the wrong. He says he repeated the antigen and the line is barely visible, he doesn’t believe he has covid as he is asymptomatic. He was in and out in seconds. Not defending his actions but his mistakes are his and he is not me. Im a hardworking hcw who has always respected covid guidelines. However now I have to deal with his mistake on this toxic WhatsApp group, who are publicly naming him and giving out, like I’m not there or something. He isn’t on this group. I feel it is not appropriate and this person isn’t behaving like a friend should, calling him out like this. Our partners are friends. I feel that if she has a problem she should have contacted him directly or asked her partner to discuss with him. I feel that this woman, a real stickler for the covid rules, she wants to keep covid alive when really it should be buried along with the bloody antigen tests. I’m so over it. I want to leave this group now as I don’t want to participate in toxic behavior. Aibu?

Good to know. Please tell that to my covid symptoms so they know to fuck off now. I'm not CEV but I've had covid for a month and I'm still in bed most of the time. Covid isn't over just because people find it an inconvenience to look out for other people.

Unfortunately there are always going to be some illnesses that people have worse than others, when I was in my 20s I had a very bad bout of flu which lasted 6 weeks and I went back to work after 6 weeks off and then was ill again and off for another week, it was awful but just one of those things

I really hope there were no vulnerable people around when he decided to be selfish

Tbh I think we maybe need new guidelines on the Covid rules for winter.

I took DD for Covid vaccine last Saturday, no one wore a mask, had a doctors appointment myself midweek, everyone wore a mask, I waited at reception to see if I could have a mask, but the que was long and I couldn't stand, overheard a women speaking very loudly saying how disgusting it is young people are no longer wearing masks and they have no thoughts for others. Took DD for GP appointment yesterday, no one wore a mask 🤷🏼‍♀️

Or other people that were positive and not tested? I think those are far more likely don't you?

I don't test, I tried to get sone tests but that were all taken up by the covid lovers like my friend (don't have much contact now), with u grabbed a box here, I then grabbed a box there.
So her two person household has forty odd tests because her DM was doing the same.

Meanwhile, others have none, refuse to pay for them (I won't pay for them), so go out and about asymptomatic.

So maybe you should be looking at everyone, not just this bloke as being selfish?

Oh look. Another morally superior Covid zealot.

@MarmiRae you saw patients face to face with Covid? Thats horrible That's a disciplinary in my trust. We test and if we come in knowingly positive it's gross misconduct. If you're snotty with a cold we're asked to test in front of our manager and if positive we are sent home immediately. We still get laid and it doesn't count as sick pay or affect the Bradford score in my work.

3 of my colleagues have been sacked for refusing to test or knowingly coming to my area of work with Covid.

Before anyone jumps on me I work on a bone marrow transplant unit for children and young adults and 1 of my colleagues directly contributed to 6 of our patients going to icu with Covid. 1 died.

Oh honey. You know most people aren’t testing and are going about their business with covid, right?

Most people are going to work with it if they feel well and carrying on with their lives.

What a very unpleasant person she is. I don’t know anyone in real life who either talks about it or tests anymore. If people want to cling on to their covid fetish that’s up to them but she has no right to be rude about your partner or anyone else.

The mistake here was sharing his covid status, in the first place. However, I agree the group discussion is inappropriate and he hasn't done anything wrong. She has her own "rules".

Hysteria on a mass scale. These people have been damaged irreparably and have been given the mental disorder of germaphobia.

Really? So it was fine for you so you're happy to say fuck everyone else?! Charming.

I'm a lot younger than you. Fit and healthy (gym 4+ days a week) and then I caught Covid from someone at work. I now have long Covid. It's been over a year and I'm too ill to do my job right now. Covid has damaged my nervous system. It's affected my heart, my lungs and my brain. I'm under the care of a cardiologist as well as several other doctors. I've had to take a bank loan out to pay for medical bills. While worrying that I'm going to lose my job and that my entire career that I've worked so hard for may be over. So fuck off with you "it was the same as a feverish cold" as that's not the case for everyone.

There was a line visible, so quite likely infectious

Hw should have avoided being out and about.
If no-one else could ferry the DC he should have been wearing a mask.

Because nobody wants to come down with it. Lots of people simply cannot afford repeated illness that floors them for a week or so, or have vulnerable people in their immediate family, or want to visit relatives in care homes, or don’t want the gamble of long covid again.

Regardless of the witter voices, covid hasn’t gone away

We have NHS in its most parlous state, and then we have the highest per-million covid hospitalisation rates. We really need to live with covid in a way that doesn’t mean ignoring it and the harms it continues to cause

< something that surprised me as I a,ways used to be of the ‘if you have flu you can’t get out of bed’ school of thought >

Me too! I assumed that I had only had 'real' flu twice in my life because those were the times I could barely open my eyelids. Too many years listening to my mum I reckon.

I think that you should avoid going into shops etc when positive. If you announce that you are positive, then go around people unnecessarily, those people are going to have an opinion. But I've two DD's who work in different hospitals and they have to ask staff not to test or shut departments. Mask wearing is still mandatory in both. Likewise they can't spare the support staff, catering, porters etc. People's behaviour when in hospital isn't getting anymore understanding, why there aren't enough people to instantly get jugs of water, or only soup and sandwiches are on offer for lunch etc. People don't want appointments or surgery cancelled. So not testing across all staff is the result. I'm CEV. I'm relying on the boosters and the antibody treatment offered to all CV people, when positive.

@Createausernamehere

Yes. I went into a pharmacy to collect my daughters prescription formula. Because if I don't collect it. She can't eat? How selfish would that be.

I would hazard a guess that a decent proportion of people that go into a pharmacy have some form of contagious disease. Are we saying now that they also can't go in?

Covid is not the disease it was 2.5 years ago. Isn't that what we all took eleventy vaccines for?

Just ignore the message

Well that tough really, isn't it, I said above about my really bad flu I had but I didn't blame other people, it's just bad luck

We can't all stay in forever because a very few get really ill, some people die of other illnesses too, it always was and always will be.

(in contrast to the phenomenon of ‘cuntaphobia’ - the illness of not giving a duck about anyone else 🤷🏼‍♀️)

< clearly my autocorrect is very polite when it comes to ducks >

Haha, at people that think they are fit and healthy because they go to the gym several times a week

It amazes me that so many people remain paranoid avoid covid and constantly test for it, but don’t do the same for other viruses such as Flu.

You beat me too it! Deluded!

In 2009 I, a normally fit and healthy person, got flu and was very ill for five months. In 2020 my usually fit friend died, not with Covid but of pneumonia after a bout of flu. There has always been nasty stuff around, it's just that "in the old days" it was trivialised and people who took time off work for other diseases were laughed at. Suddenly it matters?? Suddenly we all have to go into hiding for the rest of our lives in case we have Covid?? I'm sorry you are ill, but that's life. CEV people have always been vulnerable, but before Covid people weren't aware nor cared to be aware. The world has never stopped for them before, and it won't now. There are things they can do if they feel vulnerable to protect themselves from all the things out there, not just Covid. If people want to wear masks, isolate, or wash their shopping, that's fine by me. They can do what they like. But don't expect everyone to fall into line like sheep. It was right and proportionate to take steps to support and protect people whilst the world came to grips with this new virus. But, for now, this is as good as it gets in terms of immunity and protections. So we have to get back to normal. And normal is that people get sick with viruses and the world continues to revolve.