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Covid named and shamed

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Otterspotter13 · 18/10/2022 05:23

I’m a healthcare worker, returned to work after a week of sick leave due to Covid. Kids also recovered and back at school. At home partner was weakly positive on antigen test (he tested positive when myself and kids were at end of our 7 days isolation) but he has never had any symptoms. Kids had missed their swimming lessons last week when they were isolating with me. On the day of my return to work, partner who should be isolating brought them to their swimming lesson. He left them enter the building themselves so he himself wouldn’t have to go inside. But at collection time he entered building, wrapped their towels around each of them and quickly left with them, bringing them straight to car so they could change there. I was at work on a 13 hr shift wearing a sweaty ffp2 mask out of consideration for my colleagues. I checked my texts and there was a message on a 10 member girl group I’m on, naming and shaming my partner because one of them knew he was positive and saw him at pool collecting kids and not wearing a mask. He is not in this group to defend himself. I’m obviously angry with him for not wearing a mask and have told him off regarding this, he realizes he was in the wrong. He says he repeated the antigen and the line is barely visible, he doesn’t believe he has covid as he is asymptomatic. He was in and out in seconds. Not defending his actions but his mistakes are his and he is not me. Im a hardworking hcw who has always respected covid guidelines. However now I have to deal with his mistake on this toxic WhatsApp group, who are publicly naming him and giving out, like I’m not there or something. He isn’t on this group. I feel it is not appropriate and this person isn’t behaving like a friend should, calling him out like this. Our partners are friends. I feel that if she has a problem she should have contacted him directly or asked her partner to discuss with him. I feel that this woman, a real stickler for the covid rules, she wants to keep covid alive when really it should be buried along with the bloody antigen tests. I’m so over it. I want to leave this group now as I don’t want to participate in toxic behavior. Aibu?

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user53852098 · 18/10/2022 07:30

Createausernamehere · 18/10/2022 07:28

You went into a pharmacy when you knew you had covid? Good grief. Not like there are any vulnerable people in there right?

You have properly emphasised to me now how selfish people can be. I hope you and your baby never end up immunocompromised and reliant on other people to behave considerately.

The fact you actually bothered to test so you knew you had it but then carried on regardless just adds to the ridiculousness of your behaviour.

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And you don't think that people also go to the pharmacy with flu

Untitledsquatboulder · 18/10/2022 07:30

So he had no symptoms at all but just had this sudden urge to test after 7 days. Course he did. Hmm

Bayleaf25 · 18/10/2022 07:31

Lemonlady22 · 18/10/2022 07:07

Well done you for not thinking of vulnerable people in your frontline job, patients have to do a covid test before coming to the hospital but someone in ED doesn’t, quite shocking imo!

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@Lemonlady22 I recently took my clinically vulnerable friend to an all day out patient appointment neither of us were asked to test before going and this was a major hospital? Most patients weren’t wearing masks due to their conditions (exempt/respiratory issues etc).

Jumperoo56370000 · 18/10/2022 07:32

Lemonlady22 · 18/10/2022 07:07

Well done you for not thinking of vulnerable people in your frontline job, patients have to do a covid test before coming to the hospital but someone in ED doesn’t, quite shocking imo!

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It’s so depressing seeing the shitty responses from healthcare workers. Nice to know how little you actually care about other people. Probably someone like you gave my elderly mother Covid. Real heroes. 🙄

onlythreenow · 18/10/2022 07:32

I live in a country where you have to isolate if you have covid, and even I think YANBU.

Createausernamehere · 18/10/2022 07:33

No I dont

if you have ever had genuine influenza you would know that you can barely get up to use the toilet let alone go to the pharmacy

The pharmacy is not swimming with people with flu believe me. And even if it was I don’t think that would make going in it with covid acceptable either. It’s not a competition to be the most thoughtless person around.

HikingforScenery · 18/10/2022 07:34

What was the point of him testing if he wasn’t going to snood going out in public, etc?
I’m pretty sure DC has had it this week but we’ve no tests…

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 18/10/2022 07:36

Createausernamehere · 18/10/2022 07:33

No I dont

if you have ever had genuine influenza you would know that you can barely get up to use the toilet let alone go to the pharmacy

The pharmacy is not swimming with people with flu believe me. And even if it was I don’t think that would make going in it with covid acceptable either. It’s not a competition to be the most thoughtless person around.

Most people who have “genuine influenza” are asymptomatic !

< something that surprised me as I a,ways used to be of the ‘if you have flu you can’t get out of bed’ school of thought >

Summersdreaming · 18/10/2022 07:37

Had to check the date on this post, thought it was a zombie! I don't know anyone who's testing for covid , so this scenario seems unlikely.

Hbh17 · 18/10/2022 07:37

Are you in a country where rules still exist? If you are in the UK, there is no requirement to isolate. So just stop testing & wearing masks and get on with life as normal.
Wherever you live, just stop telling people if you are ill and then nobody can make comments!

BatteryPoweredMammy · 18/10/2022 07:38

Are you in Ireland?

The rules are different over here and yes, we’re still testing and yes, no-one positive should be out mixing with people.

sst1234 · 18/10/2022 07:40

IntegrityisDead · 18/10/2022 06:51

597 people died within 28 days of a +ve Covid test last week. (Current government unit of measurement).

CEV people remain CEV.

My local NHS regional hospital has two wards full of ill Covid patients. Staff are all masked again when working with patients.

Mt (massive) employer requires people to test if they have any of the symptoms and, if positive, isolate for 5 days before returning (if well).

It is potentially a real problem as the weather gets colder, especially with a nasty flu variant rampant this year.

I get it's frustrating for the invulnerable and the non-believers but wearing a mask hardly equates to sacrificing your first-born!!

YA both BU and unfair to your children.

So they didn’t actually died FROM Covid?

Give over with the hysterics.

sst1234 · 18/10/2022 07:42

Are people still indulging in this Covid hysteria. The world has moved on onto other forms of fear. Covid has had its day.

BatteryPoweredMammy · 18/10/2022 07:43

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Troll post.

Covid numbers are on the rise and a wave of another variant is starting up.

You’d know that IF you were a HCW but you’re not, are you?

IntegrityisDead · 18/10/2022 07:43

@sst1234 what hysterics? Your overreaction is showing luv!!

Fraaahnces · 18/10/2022 07:43

I’d reply stating that he was actually negative, and let her know that slander is an of fence punishable in court.

Summerfun54321 · 18/10/2022 07:43

U.K. is 3 days isolation for kids and 5 days isolation for adults IF you test (which you don’t have to). Bonkers but that’s what it is at the moment. No obligation to test again at the end of isolation.

kittensinthekitchen · 18/10/2022 07:44

It still amazes me after all this time that so many people only avoid shitty and potentially dangerous behaviour because its a law or a "rule", but not because its shitty or potentially dangerous.

And it's typically the same people who laughed at others and called them "sheep" for following the rules/law when they were in place 😂

HoppingPavlova · 18/10/2022 07:44

Ask her exactly what rules she believes he has breached and when she doesn’t respond, call her on it.

kittensinthekitchen · 18/10/2022 07:45

sst1234 · 18/10/2022 07:42

Are people still indulging in this Covid hysteria. The world has moved on onto other forms of fear. Covid has had its day.

Do you know what hysteria is? I've not seen any of it here Confused

TheyreOnlyNoodlesMichael · 18/10/2022 07:46

IntegrityisDead · 18/10/2022 07:43

@sst1234 what hysterics? Your overreaction is showing luv!!

I would suggest that going back to the tired old cries of selfish this and selfish that, and making comments like "people like you gave my mum covid" are a tad hysterical, yes.

BatteryPoweredMammy · 18/10/2022 07:46

Fraaahnces · 18/10/2022 07:43

I’d reply stating that he was actually negative, and let her know that slander is an of fence punishable in court.

Offence is the word you’re looking for and you’re mistaken about that too.

Suing for Defamation is civil action so there is no punishment as such.

The fact that he does have Covid means that she didn’t lie so it’s not actually libellous. 🤦🏻‍♀️

PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 18/10/2022 07:49

if you have ever had genuine influenza you would know that you can barely get up to use the toilet let alone go to the pharmacy

Honestly, it needs to be a rule that before someone is allowed an MN account, they confirm they understand that a person can have flu with minor or no symptoms. Because this gets claimed at least once a week on here and it's complete bollocks.

sst1234 · 18/10/2022 07:53

IntegrityisDead · 18/10/2022 07:43

@sst1234 what hysterics? Your overreaction is showing luv!!

To falsely imply that nearly 600 people died of Covid is hysterical. But then again, for some people it’s an obsession. They enjoyed all the drama associated with lockdowns, restrictions and daily press conferences too much.

user53852098 · 18/10/2022 07:57

I'm retired so will go out as and when is needed as I feel well now after my bout of Covid. I certainly shan't be shoving endless sticks up my nose to tell me I can go out.