Husband drove child at 120mph

[WeevilKnievel]

Am I right to be upset? DS (10) came home last night all excited because daddy had driven him at 120mph on the (70) dual carriageway.
I'm furious, apart from risking our child's life and everyone else's. He's setting a stupid example for in a few years and DS learns to drive.
H thinks this is reasonable as he's a good driver ( better than anyone else of course) - his words

Drinking at 120mph no matter how good you are if the car malfunctions , an animal wanders on the highway, a piece of debris on the road, the car and it's passengers is not designed to survive at these speeds and all of the above do not have time to react.

The idiot and your child would be dead, if any thing happens to the vehicle at that speed. This is the difference between 70mph crash and 120mph. It only takes a hundreds of a second and no matter how good driver you are there is no safe stopping distance at this speed or no good outcome if things go wrong.

His car would literally have to be constructed with carbon fibre and designed like a racing car to survive at this speed road cars are not.

All this
In fact this thread has distressed me more than any other I’ve read for a while

I wish I knew who he was as I would find some way to capture the evidence and get him banned

He is being reckless with the life of your child and other road users due to how own arrogance and need to swing his balls

if you don’t act then you are no better

What a stupid thing to do full stop.

Jesus....remind me to never express an opinion again....just trying to give a little balance to some of the other somewhat OTT responses....sorry if that makes you feel sick in your mouth (whatever) but really....just think about what youre actually saying for gods sake....is it really something youd call social services over....it isnt is it.....

Actually it could be.
The welfare of the child is at risk.

This is dangerous driving at extreme speeds, actively choosing to put your child's life in immediate danger for kicks.

Dickheads only get cop outs if you let them.

He says it because he thinks he can do what he wants and while you may make a bit of noise you will calm down and won't do anything significant about it. Don't say there is nothing you can do to protect your dc, there absolutely is.

Meh. I remember my dad hitting the 155mph limiter when I was a kid and my stepdad hitting 135mph in an unmarked police car whilst taking me for a joyride. My DD has been 180mph as a passenger in Germany and has done numerous laps of the ‘ring with me.

People just pointed out that your opinion and posts are fucking stupid. If that stops you saying stupid shit on the internet / expressing your opinion then that's only a good thing.
It's not a balanced opinion,it's thick as fuck.

I take it you've never had anyone you cared about die or be seriously injured in a car accident due to someone else speeding?

All the people you've just mentioned chose to be in those situations.

They could have killed other drivers easily, with anything from an animal running into the road, another driver doing something expected etc etc.

Nice to be 'meh' about people you know putting other people at risk and not giving a shit.

Fuck the rest of us, including those who have lost people or suffered life changing injuries due to selfish pricks who make the choice to put other people at risk.

The fact your stepdad did it when it sounds like he was in the police is extra shitty as many of my family are in the police and have had to attend and manage the aftermath of people having crashes at those speeds. And it is unbelievably traumatic.

You lot must have had really sheltered lives thats all I can say....I did make it clear I wasnt condoning it....but really....social services? the police? Really? Get a grip

He's also always said he's likely the best driver on the road, and he's objectively right.

According to who? Drivers are unable to rate their own driving ability and the majority have an inflated idea of how good they are. See this for example www.psychologicalscience.org/news/motr/when-it-comes-to-driving-most-people-think-their-skills-are-above-average.html

And although driving whilst you're inattentive is also a problem, basic physics means that being inattentive at 30mph won't cause the problems that occur at 120 mph. You need to consider our ability to see at that speed - look up information on saccadic masking. Also look up the relationship between velocity and force - travelling at four times the speed causes far more than four times the force.

OP, show your H information about this crash. I'm sure the driver thought he was brilliant too. www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/woman-survived-fatal-range-rover-a40-crash-b2152729.html

I'll leave this here for those that think a car crashing at over 100mph is survivable. Cars at this speed are not designed or made of materials to survive these speeds that's a fact.

Meh. I remember my dad hitting the 155mph limiter when I was a kid and my stepdad hitting 135mph in an unmarked police car whilst taking me for a joyride.

Well your mum certainly had a taste for a certain kind of idiotic man.

Yep. Makes you feel totally sick and angry. DD, when she was about 16, was collected along with her friend by the friend's dad from the next town. When she came home she said she'd been sitting behind him and could see the speedo going at 120 on the A road, but he said it was OK as - quote - "the car's an automatic". I can't tell you how angry I was.
The best thing is for your DH to get caught and sent on a speed awareness course. They have some pretty hard-hitting statistics. And to get his thrills on a racetrack. What a dick.

Are you feeling ok about ignoring those of us who have shared losing loved ones due to other drivers doing this? Those of us who have life changing injuries due to other drivers doing this?

There seems to be an empathy chip missing. Even if you disagree and think driving at those speeds is acceptable, ignoring the contributions of people who have explained why they think it's not acceptable and saying they have had 'sheltered lives' is so dismissive and rude.

We haven't had sheltered lives. If you don't know anyone who has died or had their life changed injury wise by a speeding or otherwise dangerous driver, you're speaking on the subject from the place of a 'sheltered' existence when it comes to speeding. You happen to know people who have been lucky. Lucky you.

Does he really not understand that purposefully driving at 120mph automatically makes him a very bad driver? I'm sorry OP but he sounds like an absolute moron. Surely you can do better?

If he'd have got caught driving 120mph he wouldn't be sent on a speed awareness course, he'd be getting banned from driving for several years. And possibly sent to prison.

The fact your stepdad did it when it sounds like he was in the police is extra shitty as many of my family are in the police and have had to attend and manage the aftermath of people having crashes at those speeds. And it is unbelievably traumatic.

Yes, following a 30 year career as motorcyclist/motorway/traffic cop he was dealing with that on a regular basis. Still didn’t stop him being an extremely quick driver though. In fact the best driver I’ve ever been in a car on the road with and a great instructor, the crème de la crème of police drivers.

Dh drove me at 110. Despite me pleading with him to slow down.

I have not got into a car with him since.

If he had done it with DS in the car I would have left him.

Most of the police in my family are traffic too. Also excellent drivers. At high speeds. When necessary for work.

Not doing 130+ mph with a kid in the car in an unmarked car on a joyride. Putting him, you and everyone else on the roads in danger.

If someone irresponsible enough to do that is the best driver you've ever known then you must know a lot of shit drivers.

His actions say otherwise. No matter how good a driver you are ask professional racing drivers crashes occur by things that are out of the drivers control malfunctions, unavoidable objects ect. all the time and to anyone no exceptions. Your dad was an risk taking idiot.

Fuck me.
That's horrific. I'd be terrified.
What an arse.

Emergency services can only legally speed during the course of their duties. The rest of the time, they're governed by the same traffic laws as the rest of us. Personally, I think the best drivers would recognise that and obey the laws. You need to lead by example and part of that is showing that responsible drivers obey traffic laws, all of them, including speeding limits.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=B2rFTbvwteo

Even if he's as amazing as he thinks he is, he can't control other people's actions and mistakes. Easier to avoid an accident at 70 than 120

Don’t you be coming in here with your facts and balance. It’s all about speed.

no 120 isn’t clever in the uk. It’s illegal and will get you into trouble. That doess as mr mean it’s inherently more dangerous than 30 in the wrong situation. It’s about appropriate speed and it’s believable that 120 in a good car on a clear wide dual carriageway in good conditions is safer than 30 outside a school at 3.30pm.

not condoning it. Just saying that a blind repetition of “speed is bad” does nothing for road safety or driving standards.