Not to make BF this food anymore - Bacon

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My best friend loves to eat bacon sandwiches as do i and my family. The issue is that she always calls them ‘bacon butties’ and says this with great relish. “Ooh bacon butty!” She calls other sandwiches “sandwiches”.
I was brought up being told that people who said Butty rather than sandwich were incredibly common. Whenever she says this , it really irritates me. I haven’t said anything.
Am in being unreasonable just to not serve this when she comes over to minimise the irritation . Or do I tell her how much this bothers me and serve her something she loves.
Do others hate this too?

DOI grumpy old woman with Perimenopausal grump.
As a side Issue , it’s tomato ketchup not tomato sauce!

Due to the amusing responses I assume this is a joke thread by the OP. I'm finding it harder and harder to tell on MN and it's perfectly likely that some arses on MN would think that butty is "incredibly common"

Nancy Mitford did a whole book on 'u' and 'non u' speech.

Poshos say 'pud'. And I've heard 'sarnie' and 'chip butty' out of the mouths of public school chaps.

Further down the old class ladder it's 'dessert' (which is actually fruit) and 'sweet'. And 'sandwich' with the d pedantically pronounced.

I THINK the OP was having a laugh.

Also, tho I'm veggie, I could fall if offered a toasted bacon sarnie with salted butter dripping out of it and a mug of tea ... Ohhhhh god I miss bacon

Is your friend pronouncing her T's when she says butty. If she is then it's acceptable. What isn't is when it becomes a "bacon bu...ee", at which point you are allowed to throw the Ketchup in her eyes and then whilst she is in shock you can get a silver tray and whack her over the head with it and then cram her bacon buttys in her mouth whilst screaming "pronounce your Ts you F'ing B".
Sorry to hear that you are perimenapausal, but I can only suggest being honest with her. My sister is going through this, and things which never used to bug her at all now really frustrates and so we try to make as much of a joke out of it as we can. She was bottling it all up to much and it was creating a lot more friction in her relationships than it should. An example: One of the things that for some reason has really started peeving her off is toast crumbs next to the toaster just the odd crumb as you lift a piece of toast out. So her partner now purposefully saves up the toast crumbs and empties them on the counter and draws a heart in them. It shows that they are in it together whilst poking fun at the irrational part. It works well for her, but perhaps not for all.

Absolutely agree with both of these posters!
I only ever use “butty” to refer to bacon or chip butties. Never as a generic name for a sandwich - I wouldn’t say “cheese and ham butty” or “chicken and lettuce butty”. It’s a very widely used accepted name for these food items specifically. It’s more like it’s the name of the meal rather than a general sandwich term.

Sounds like you make them perfectly. I think you need to completely get over yourself. If you don’t like your friend or how she acts, fair enough. But don’t impose completely arbitrary rules from your childhood - that’s a pretty dangerous path to take.

I can't bear descriptions of eating either. Picking at, munching on, nibbling, choking down and so on.

Maybe gobbling, troughing, scarfing, nomming, inhaling or sampling are more tolerable. Are you the same with drinking terms like quaffing, necking, downing, sipping and glugging?

How on earth do you manage if you want to tell someone you scoffed a bacon sarnie with tommy k and slurped a cuppa with a biccy for afters?

Bacon sandwich and tomato sauce here!

I don't like the word ketchup. Not keen on bytty or sarnie, but clearly it wouldn't stop me making them for someone who said it 🤣

I guzzle mine personally.

You do NOT put butter (or even worse is Greggs slathering on an inch of yellow grease) on bread where hot meat is going. Has to be the 'dip' thats come out of the bacon and nowt else.

And its a sandwich

The only butties are ironic chip ones. It would feel a bit odd to say "chip sandwich". Though given that I don't eat chip butties, I very rarely have the opportunity to enjoy saying it.

Anyone who uses "lounge" to mean "sitting room" ought to be forced to eat a thousand "butties" while having a "brew".

OP, the only thing I disagree with you about is the light drizzle of tomato ketchup. That is how to ruin a good bacon sandwich. Sausage sandwiches, however, are a free-for-all (mustard and tomato ketchup are ideal).

I thought it was a sandwich if you used sliced bread and a butty if you used a roll 🙃

Can't get worked up about what to call ketchup!

Ooh good one!

I fancy chomping a nice fat butty now.

It’s always a sandwich.

Butty is definitely common. Shudder.

Etymologically, it's not a butty if it's got no butter on it anyway, so you're consistent at least.

I can't imagine judging my friend over something so unimportant. How sad.
Sauce or Ketchup, couldn't care less.

LMC problems.

Much rather be common than whatever you think you are 🤷🏻‍♀️ If I said what I think you are this comment would be deleted

Wowzers. You don't deserve the loveliness that is a bacon butty if you're worried about seeming 'common'. God give me strength.

The only person I know who says bacon sandwich is my mum. She grew up in a very working class poor family and as a result insists on saying everything 'properly' now. Won't refer to children as kids, never shortens names or uses any slang words, insisted that she would be Grandma instead of Nan, even though her mum was Nan, she thinks it's 'common'.

It is very poor form to describe anyone’s behaviour as “unspeakably common”. It is deeply LMC to describe people in this way.

^This. Although tbh it's a tad hypocritical to criticise someone for describing behaviour as 'common' by pointing out that their behaviour in doing so is poor form and deeply LMC!

Oh rich / upper class (and yep I know that’s not necessarily the same thing) do call people common, they just make sure no one hears them doing it!

No. It has to be brown sauce I'm afraid

You are all unreasonable to eat minging bacon

Are you the type of person that also thinks that someone is common for cutting their carrots into rounds too? I think you should end the friendship if my good friend was thinking I was common all the time I would want her to!

I think changing ‘butty’ to ‘sandwich’ is something Hyacinth Bucket would do thinking it was posh but really being incredibly naff.

Also, I used to go to a sandwich shop that sold bacon and avocado sandwiches - cold crispy bacon plus mashed avocado on bread spread with mayo. They were delicious but they weren’t a bacon butty.

We always have bacon sandwiches - I wouldn't object to a bacon butty though!
has to be streaky bacon, cooked until it is nearly crispy but not quite, on 'plastic ' white bread (i.e. Hovis or Warburtons etc), with tomato sauce, no butter. If it's in a roll there is too high a ratio of bread to bacon. My mum used to have butter, tomato sauce and mustard!