Aibu to have said no to them coming?

[Unknown455]

So we are a family of 4 and we have been struck down with this virus that's going round for over a week now ( it's not covid as we've all tested negative)
It's awful I've been in bed for the last 6 days, fever on and off, severe headaches, vomiting and nausea all 4 of us haven't eaten much let alone a proper meal in these last 6 days either . My husband and kids have been the same and we are on day 6 and it still doesn't seem to be getting any better.

So my husband just called me saying his sister called saying she wants to come to her house ( with her entire house hold and there is 6 of them in total, which if they came they would expect me to cook for them all and clean up after all of them too and they won't leave until about 11pm at night that's 10 people including all of us)
I got very upset and was crying bevause I already feel so bad and it doesn't help the kids are ill too and they are still young (7&5) and running after round my husband too. So I got upset and told him he needs to call her back and tell her she can't come 1) because we are all quite unwell and our kids have been awake half the night coughing and like radiators with fevers and 2) bevause I'm not 100% at all and I can't be running around cooking and cleaning up after 9 other people today as it's already alot looking after the 4 of us as it is.
My husband got angry withe me and already said I can't because I've told he'd we are fine, but I've told him she can't come today and he shouldn't have told his sister and the rest of the family they can come over.
He's been angry and shouting at me saying I'm disrespectful etc
Who is being unreasonable here?

[AdoraBell]

YANBU. If he insists they are coming to your home then tell him he will look after the DC and do everything else, cooking, cleaning etc while you sleep because you are exhausted.

[Tigertigertigertiger]

Of course YANBU

but it concerns me you have to ask the question . Hope you are ok x

[KermitlovesKeyLimePie]

OP people treat you how you allow them to treat you.

Why are you allowing your Husband to treat you like this?

[Whynobreadpudding]

@Derbee

If they come, STAY IN BED. Let him deal with it all.

He’s a dick, but I don’t understand why women set their bar so low, and marry these idiots?

They keep it hidden until after marriage. Those subtle signs of disrespect/abuse are often masked by love bombing.

[Squeezita]

I’m triggered by your racism. And I’m glad MN have contacted you.

[Rubiconmango]

@Squeezita

I’m triggered by your racism. And I’m glad MN have contacted you.

Oh dear. How do you even handle real life?! *Rhetoric.

[Oliverfunyuns]

I'm glad he at least called to say no visitors at this time, but tbh, this is the type of crap you'll be struggling against for the rest of your life if you don't stand up to his unrealistic expectations. It's his culture to treat his wife as a servant and not care that she's too unwell for guests? Honestly, even if you were perfectly healthy, you shouldn't be waiting on his family hand and foot. Culture is no excuse for that! Customs can change, including his. Good luck dealing with him, OP.

[momonpurpose]

She knew full well her child was ill and your child's situation. So that 3 hour travel is her own fault. She not a real friend