So we are a family of 4 and we have been struck down with this virus that's going round for over a week now ( it's not covid as we've all tested negative)
It's awful I've been in bed for the last 6 days, fever on and off, severe headaches, vomiting and nausea all 4 of us haven't eaten much let alone a proper meal in these last 6 days either . My husband and kids have been the same and we are on day 6 and it still doesn't seem to be getting any better.
So my husband just called me saying his sister called saying she wants to come to her house ( with her entire house hold and there is 6 of them in total, which if they came they would expect me to cook for them all and clean up after all of them too and they won't leave until about 11pm at night that's 10 people including all of us)
I got very upset and was crying bevause I already feel so bad and it doesn't help the kids are ill too and they are still young (7&5) and running after round my husband too. So I got upset and told him he needs to call her back and tell her she can't come 1) because we are all quite unwell and our kids have been awake half the night coughing and like radiators with fevers and 2) bevause I'm not 100% at all and I can't be running around cooking and cleaning up after 9 other people today as it's already alot looking after the 4 of us as it is.
My husband got angry withe me and already said I can't because I've told he'd we are fine, but I've told him she can't come today and he shouldn't have told his sister and the rest of the family they can come over.
He's been angry and shouting at me saying I'm disrespectful etc
Who is being unreasonable here?
AIBU?
Aibu to have said no to them coming?
Unknown455 · 15/10/2022 12:01
Am I being unreasonable?
1674 votes. Final results.
POLLDerbee · 15/10/2022 12:08
If they come, STAY IN BED. Let him deal with it all.
He’s a dick, but I don’t understand why women set their bar so low, and marry these idiots?
Unknown455 · 15/10/2022 12:44
For everyone asking, yes she knows we are all ill.
She text me just on Thursday when I was in bed all day asking if I needed anything and wanted her to bring any food for us, so I can't understand myself why she wants to come round with her family and risk getting ill, but that's what they seem to be like in their family, it's not the first time as they have come round to our house before when they've been ill and not cared and made us all ill so they seem to really like sharing germs.
If I knew someone was ill I'd be staying away and at the least wanting to keep my kids away from it.
After crying down the phone to my husband he has ( not happily) told her not come over and he isn't happy about it but I have told him it's his own fault as I'm his wife and he knows we are all ill and he should have atleast told his sister I will talk to my wife first and let you know not just say to her yeah it's fine like he doesn't care about me.
whatstheteamarie · 15/10/2022 12:07
Message her directly and say "thank you so much for offering to come over and look after the kids and cook for us all while I rest. As I'm sure DH told you I feel absolutely dreadful and there's no food in the house so you'll need to bring whatever you need.
It's a shame I won't see you as I'll be in bed attempting to recover and I don't want to pass on my germs, hopefully the kids won't give you what they have either."
Take yourself to bed and leave them to it.
Aprilx · 15/10/2022 13:21
I just don’t understand the world in which your husband inviting people over means you have to cook and clean up after them. Just say no I won’t be doing that, I will be in bed or on the sofa.
NoSquirrels · 15/10/2022 13:12
it doesn't help the kids are ill too and they are still young (7&5) and running after round my husband too
Stop running after him for starters. Suggest you go to bed and let him deal with the kids today.
Unknown455 · 15/10/2022 13:22
Because my husband and his family are Pakistani, it's just how it works unfortunately
Aprilx · 15/10/2022 13:21
I just don’t understand the world in which your husband inviting people over means you have to cook and clean up after them. Just say no I won’t be doing that, I will be in bed or on the sofa.
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EstellaRijnveld · 15/10/2022 12:18
I'd contact my sister in law and say that you are all ill and you wouldn't want to spoil her half term in case they catch it. I'd be pissed off if I turned up to your house and found you all ill. It is disrespectful on your dh's part not to mention the illness.
Unknown455 · 15/10/2022 13:22
Because my husband and his family are Pakistani, it's just how it works unfortunately
Aprilx · 15/10/2022 13:21
I just don’t understand the world in which your husband inviting people over means you have to cook and clean up after them. Just say no I won’t be doing that, I will be in bed or on the sofa.
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