Won’t let DH keep shoes on entry shoe rack

[Sundaya]

Yes, there is a shoe rack in my house’s entryway, but I would prefer to only keep one pair of shoes per person there. I begrudgingly let DH keep two of his pairs there. He says it’s inefficient to not fill the rack completely and wants to keep more there. But the entryway is not a closet! AIBU?

Let him?? Your poor husband. OP, if a woman posted here about her husband not letting her do stuff in her own home he would rightly be labelled controlling and abusive. Given you seem so surprised by the reaction here, perhaps it would be a good time to look at your relationship and how you treat your husband in general .

Do you also have a coat rack with no coats allowed on? Chill the fuck out. I'd not want to live like that.

Oh god, I'm like this.

I hate clutter and loads of shoes look messy to me! But a shoe rack for putting the shoes you've immediately come into the house with is logical so reluctantly I do have one.

I bought a tiny one though to prevent them building up as I know it would drive me batshit otherwise to have them all stored there.

Fortunately my partner is similarly unusual and so this doesn't become a point of strife. YABU to tell your husband where he can and cannot put his belongings in his own house though, obvs!

You sound absolutely barking mad.

This might blow your mind but we have about 25 pairs of shoes in the racks in our porch. Same by the back door plus under the stairs.

I can't imagine that kind of one in one out policy in our house. Not least because the kids have different shoes for different sports.

I'm with you OP. you don't want the entrance looking cluttered and horrid. It's the first thing you see are you go in.

We are having to get a shoe rack for by the front but I'm not letting my husband put any up f his shoes there. Just the nice kids shoes can go there and our stinky things live hidden away

Where should shoes be kept if not on a shoe rack by the front door?

You don’t have a DH problem you have a rack problem.

Get a different storage solution.

I have a shoe rack and a shoe cupboard. And yet they are still all over the floor too!

This is such a dull thing to even think about I’m sad that I wasted the seconds of my life I’ll never get back reading the OP.

You don’t have a DH problem, you have a rack problem.

Get a different storage solution.

Seriously, that’s what you’re taking away from the thread?!

The OP can use whatever word she likes, and ‘closet’ is a perfectly acceptable word to use in this context.

There is a difference between ‘closet’ and ‘water closet’ (hint: the clue is in the prefix), nobody actually says ‘water closet’, they say WC. And nobody’s said WC since around WWII.

FML, this place….

All this 'letting' your husbands do stuff ... and some women wonder why men decide it's easier not to do anything around the house, or why they grow resentful.

I’ve just had a go at DH because he doesn’t use the shoe rack and leaves them in the middle of the floor.

Would it be an issue if guests had to leave shoes next to the rack as there wasn’t room on it?

😂And there was me worried I’d be bored on the train tonight.

Fortunately in our house everyone (except me) only wears one pair of shoes so it’s not an issue.

Haha! I'm like this. There's a shoe rack by the front door for your every day pair then a shoe rack by the back door with all other shoes. Although to be fair to your husband, mine doesn't seem to realise we have any and kicks them off by the door.

This thread has actually opened my eyes, because you know what @Sundaya we have the EXACT SAME problem in our house. Except ours is a basket that I specifically bought for my husband to put his shoes in to stop them being left all over the hall. There is a massive shoe closet less than 10ft from the front door, but he insists on cramming 5+ pairs of shoes on this tiny basket because he needs so many to hand apparently. Drives me crazy. It just looks so incredibly untidy.

So I am going to go against the majority (unreasonably apparently) and say that you are my kind of person. Just wanted to lend some moral support!

We need a diagram.

We have a shoe rack with 3 rows - there's 3 of us. I only get cross with DH when he's filled his row and then puts his shoes on someone else's row instead of moving a pair of his shoes to his wardrobe. It would be pointless trying to restrict him to 1 pair of shoes.

How many guests do you have?

You LET your husband...dear Lord!

Don't look at the period sex thread whatever you do, you'll faint at the messiness being discussed there!!!

To be fair, two pairs of my husband’s shoes would take up 3/4 of one of those little shoe racks, I can kind of see why you’d have this rule if you were tight on space.

”Letting” him is interesting language OP, are you generally in control in the relationship?

How does this even work? Do you have only one pair of shoes that you wear at all times? If you don’t (presumably you don’t) what do you do when you want to wear a different pair of shoes, swap them? Do you move the pair you don’t want to wear from the shoe rack, replace with the pair you do want to wear, then put them on your feet? If you do that, what’s the point of the shoe rack? Your DH must have the patience of a saint.

Sandles like you've got a problem there, OP. Boot you just need to trainer him and bring him to heel

It's a stunt shoe rack.